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Both men and women will feel happy as long as they are pursued. Because this is a proof of one's own charm, one can, in some way, satisfy one's innate vanity.
Especially for men, being pursued by the opposite sex can often bring them a sense of satisfaction and self-confidence.
Being shown to love by the opposite sex when he is young will often become the talking point of the boy, and in some moments when personal charm needs to be verified, he has been confessed, which is usually a capital that can be shown off.
And when the years change, men begin to enter marriage, into the family, if they are pursued by women, their ideas will no longer be as simple as when they were young.
In this case, men's behavior depends only on their conscience, morality, and sense of responsibility. Men who have none of these three, or who are relatively weak, may make the big mistake of abandoning their wives and children because of this.
Uncle Li is the owner of an emotional counseling room, he is happily married, a daughter and a son, a happy life, and their family of four can be called a model of a happy family.
Therefore, as the object of everyone's envy, usually after tea and dinner, there are often young people who ask him for the secrets of marriage, and Uncle Li will often give voluntary lectures to everyone about the theory of love and marriage.
For married men to be pursued by women, he said that men, roughly have the following three thoughts.
One: After marriage, it is still pursued, and it feels like a kind of torment and trouble
Usually, men who have entered the palace of marriage, especially men with a sense of responsibility, are often burdened with the responsibility of supporting their families. Outside they may be fierce professionals, but at home they are considerate husbands, patient fathers, filial children and righteous brothers.
In the face of their wives, they have already made a vow of "one person and one promise in one lifetime", and they are ready to accompany only one person in this life. Therefore, the fierce attack of other women is not a capital to show off for this kind of man, but a sweet burden.
Most men with a sense of responsibility are calm and self-sustaining, have a strong loyalty to their wives and families, and have an innate antipathy to transgression.
Such men are mature and rational, and they know that the result of a momentary speed is often the separation of wives and children, the bottom of their careers, and the loss of reputation and social credit.
Men who can maintain this sanity often don't know what to do when they face the surging pursuits of other women.
Consistent cultivation makes it impossible for them to rudely refuse, but the price of a gentleman is often the other party's aggravation. Therefore, for this kind of man, the pursuit of exhaustion often makes them suffer.
But they will never abandon their principles and betray their integrity.
Two: Being able to be pursued after marriage is a very high praise for their own charm
Men after marriage often have only two identities - husband and father.
For the wife, he is a partner who is in love with each other, and for the child, he is a father with a great image, a pillar of a family, a solid reliance, and a hero with his head in the sky and his feet on the ground.
The seamless switching of these two identities will make him feel valued in the family, and occasionally, he will feel overwhelmed and tired.
Therefore, if someone pursues him at this time, even if it does not have to be fierce, he will be honored to have a glorious image in the eyes of outsiders, and he will be honored to be a charming choice that will make women move.
Whether or not he chooses to betray later, his heart will be filled with a strong sense of satisfaction in the moment of being pursued by women. That long-lost vanity, that pride that can only be found in a teenager' time, in an instant, it beat wildly in the chest cavity.
After all, the fact that he could make the opposite sex other than his wife move was enough to make him confident and excited.
This long-unseen recognition and pursuit, like an oasis in the desert, appeared so timely, so precious, so precious enough to affirm his masculine charm, enough to sweep away the pressure and burnout that he had been bearing because of his family.
Even, the flame in his heart that had long been extinguished was slowly lit, and then he walked uncontrollably towards the state of fire.
Three: Being pursued after marriage is a turning point in a boring life
For men who lack a sense of responsibility, being pursued after marriage is a sudden turning point in their usual cookie-cutter lives.
The increasingly boring married life, the slightly tired poor wife, the overwhelmed urban life...
These pressures, the urgent need for an outlet, and the sudden rapid pursuit and naked love are undoubtedly a powerful vortex for them, attracting them to ease, to excitement, to freshness.
As everyone knows, it is also heading towards disaster.
Men who lack a sense of responsibility are always looking forward to stimulation and always waiting for the next relationship. They turn a deaf ear to the expectations of the woman in the marriage, turn a blind eye to each other's past commitments, and see only their own feelings and their own joys.
And the privilege of being pursued, in his opinion, happens to be a unique medicine. It heals their weariness of marriage and redeems their trifles and triangles.
Therefore, for this kind of man, being pursued means the possibility of finding happiness again, and it also means that there is a short period of redemption in ordinary life.
The three ideas that men summarized by Uncle Li are very real and very realistic.
Some people have a great sense of responsibility, even in the face of presumptuous pursuits, they can keep the bottom line, give a perfect account to their partners and families, and also give each other an inappropriate pursuit of a decent ending.
Someone is still a teenager, and being pursued can make him regain his self-confidence and regain his self-esteem. Being pursued by women after marriage gives him reasons to believe in his male charm, and also gives him a reasonable excuse for his juvenile mentality.
Some people do not know the importance, and see being pursued after marriage as an escape from boredom and an outlet for excitement. This kind of man has turned his back on family responsibilities, failed to live up to his partner's expectations, and lowered his own standards.
Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, so in fact, both men and women long for the recognition of others in their hearts.
Life is short, and we all need to use the power of others to recognize our own value.
Being pursued, being confessed, is also a form of being recognized as charming. When someone pursues you, you will feel happy and confident because of it, which is also the common sentiment of people. However, in the face of untimely pursuits and explorations, we also need to have our own judgments.
Especially men, in the repetitive life day after day, in the face of pursuit, should adhere to the bottom line, keep their self-esteem, and give the family an account.
Psychologically speaking, being able to control one's own desires is a manifestation of maturity. And learning to get along with their own desires, learning to control their vanity, is also a proposition that everyone needs to learn for life.
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