Misunderstanding is an uncomfortable state.
Because gregariousness is usually a symbol of security.
A person living in a crowd does seem to be much more resilient to external risks than a person who fights alone.
When misunderstood by others, we may often think about whether there are indeed some bad performances in ourselves, which makes others have a negative view of themselves.
But in fact, the reason for the misunderstanding is likely to stem from a cognitive bias - "out-of-group bias".
For example, extroverts often find introverts difficult to get along with, simply because of different habits, rather than introverts who have problems that need to be changed.
If you often feel like you're misunderstood, that doesn't necessarily mean you've made a lot of mistakes in your life.
It may just be that there are some rare traits in your personality, so that there is a lack of some "kind" similar to you in your life circle.
introversion
Extroversion is a personality trait that is more respected and loved in modern society.
Low emotional intelligence, isolation, and lack of social skills are a kind of negative label that many people attach to introverts.
I have to admit that extroversion is a personality trait with a greater survival advantage.
Whether it is a primitive society or a modern society, survival requires exploring outwards to obtain sufficient living resources.
A big reason why introverts are susceptible to misunderstanding is that introverts tend to be less adaptable to unfamiliar environments than extroverts.
In an environment that emphasizes materialism and survival, the advantages of introverted personality are difficult to highlight.
Introverts are better at thinking and analyzing, and their emotions are more introverted, they often do not like to express themselves, and they are emotionally rich but do not like to express.
In the future society, the advantages of introverted personality will become more and more prominent, and with the abundance of life resources, the demand for emotions and beliefs will become more intense.
And these are the areas in which introverts excel.
sensitivity
"Are you going to think too much?"
This is one of the most common evaluations that highly sensitive people receive.
Sensitivity is a manifestation of high creativity.
Because of creativity, it is often necessary to explore some details of life.
It is also true that although highly sensitive people have outstanding performance in some professional fields, such as writing, painting, composition, etc., in life, they are often regarded as a group of people as "freaks".
For highly sensitive people, it is important to adapt their work environment.
High-pressure environments are often not suitable for highly sensitive people to play their strengths, so choosing an environment suitable for themselves is a very important thing for sensitive people.
Self-love
"How can you be so selfish?"
It's probably a phrase that each of us has heard.
As we grow up, we seem to be indoctrinated with the belief that we should think more about the feelings of others than our own.
Therefore, in the eyes of many people, "self-love" seems to be equivalent to "selfish" and "narcissistic".
In fact, the difference between self-love and selfishness is that self-loving people put their own feelings first and also consider the feelings of others.
Selfish people, on the other hand, will only consider their own interests and ignore the feelings of others.
In fact, self-love is an instinct of everyone.
A person who does not love himself cannot survive in this world.
If we put the consideration of other people's feelings in front of our own feelings, then we are likely to be detached from our own feelings, thus accumulating negative emotions in our hearts and finally choosing to become a selfish person.
Don't suppress your own nature, "loving yourself" is a nature that each of us shares.
Loneliness is a normal state of life.
But loneliness will not be eternal.
Only if we can live with loneliness can we meet souls who are similar to ourselves.
Blindly changing yourself to cater to others will only make yourself more of an alternative in the crowd.
Believe in that true self, there is someone ahead, waiting to meet you.