When decent people look like splendid marriages, crawling with lice

For many so-called decent people, marriage is just an ornament of their decent image.

In the premise of Zhang Ailing's "Red Rose and White Rose", he wrote about this:

In traditional marriages, many couples are acting.

In a marriage that is obviously unhappy, it maintains decency, maintains a face that pretends to be happy, calculates, ponders, and performs.

I hope to become a decent couple in other people, and I hope to be very popular in the eyes of my family.

Maybe it's that by coaxing everyone over, you can coax yourself and make yourself happy to believe that this is the case?

For such delicate and ruthless decent people, marriage is an ornament, a "good husband" is an ornament, and a "good son" is an ornament. A living wife is a good ornament, and even if the wife is not there, it has a purpose. Like Wang Chuhou in "Siege", when he reached middle age, his son graduated from college, and his wife died at this time, and he felt that his luck was very good. He continued to marry again, and fortunately wrote a memorial article on his deceased wife.

I was even ready to wait for the continuation of the string to give birth to a child, and quickly write a "first room person's taboo", so as to make up a sentence:

"The bride and daughter in front of me are the second time in my life." Such a loving wife is also set up, which is very good.

Of course, there are also some people who are clear from the beginning.

In "Red Roses and White Roses", the protagonist Tong Zhenbao only loves himself.

He mingled with his friend, Red Rose, but for the sake of decency, he did not continue with her.

For the sake of decency, he married White Rose, a college graduate who looked good to control and put it out decently.

Most of the time, he is satisfying his desire to control, so as to convince himself that "I am a decent person" and "my life is perfect", and to construct a perfect image of self-recognition.

Presumably, many of the rituals in the lives of many decent people have been detached from the instinctive emotional needs.

Passionate mistresses, gentle wives, are all props for self-persuasion to make them feel that they are "living a decent life."

Such a marriage, of course, has no feelings:

After Tong Zhenbao got married, he was all kinds of cold and violent white roses, and even regularly prostituted, and he felt that he took it for granted.

When the mother and his wife have a conflict, he annoys both his wife and his mother - he feels that his wife is not supple, and he feels that his mother is willful, so that he cannot continue to play a good husband and a good son.

The bad and absurd performance in many people's marriages may be because they enter marriages that are not for feelings in the first place, but for decency.

————that's why many decent people pursue "good control" partners.

The ideal marriage is reciprocal, mutually respectful and loving.

However, such a marriage will inevitably require each other to make sacrifices to adapt to each other.

Those selfish, intelligent, and decent people with profits, who are easily unwilling to make sacrifices for others, know how to find a good object of control.

In this way, you can rely on various means to control your own interests without leaking, and you can hold the momentum, condescending, so that the soft other party can obey well and be at ease to do your own decorations.

Tong Zhenbao was looking for a female student who had not yet graduated from college - because of good control.

Many decent people think this way.

Ironically, such decent people who are meticulous and calculating are not suitable for harming people in marriage; but they also need the form of marriage in order to procreate offspring for themselves, to add wives and children, and to serve as ornaments.

Therefore, it is necessary to find a victim of good control to decorate themselves, let the wife and children make their own pendants, and provide a good husband aura.

Then he continued to pretend to be a person who looked decent and impeccable.

Such a marriage is just like a gorgeous robe, crawling under the lice.