Many parents only recognize that hitting their children will hurt their children, but they do not know that language will also cause harm to their children, and they will also leave a lifetime of shadows in their children's hearts. When educating children, in order to avoid hurting the child's heart, parents should do "four not to say".
First, "You look at someone else's child"
Parents who often compare their own children with other people's children can be said to be the most failed parents. Because each child is unique, what parents have to do is to find the shining points in their children, so as to encourage their children, guide their children, and let their children have a positive, optimistic and upward attitude towards life.
Second, "If you cry again, your mother will not love you"
This sentence should be said to be the mantra of many mothers, but whenever the child has a little crying, the parents will move this sentence out to scare the child. Maybe it did play a role at the time, but at the same time, it also instilled in the child the idea that "the mother may not love you at any time". This kind of talk will only make the child lose the sense of trust in the parents, which will lead to the child's serious insecurity!
Third, "If I say no, I can't do it."
Such parents, often have a strong personality, too strong parents, speak to their children are imperative tones, do not allow children to have the slightest disobedience, a sentence "I say no is not OK" will choke back the child's resistance. In the long run, it will only make the child more and more unsympathetic, and the character will become more and more cowardly, and no matter what happens, it will depend on the parents.
Fourth, "This kid is too stupid to do it."
Modesty is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, so much so that now many parents encounter others praising their children, the first thing they think of is denial: they immediately say "wherever", and even add a sentence "In fact, this child is stupid." You are modest, but the child thinks that this is the true evaluation of his parents, and feels that he is stupid and can't do it well, so he simply gives up. Therefore, when parents face the praise of others for their children, they may wish to accept it generously and stop being bottomlessly modest!
In fact, language is also an art, and it is also a course that parents need to learn for life. For the healthy growth of children, we must reject "verbal violence" and give children a clear and happy childhood!