It is said that a good marriage will turn a woman into a child, and a bad marriage will make a person a madman.
Actor Hu Xing'er and her ex-boyfriend have been together for eight years, during which time, the boyfriend has been scandalous and ambiguous, and Hu Xing'er has not said anything, but has been waiting for him.
Later, Hu Xing'er got married, and the groom was not him.
Many people say that if in these eight years, the ex will succeed in proposing marriage once, but he does not.
Interestingly, Hu Xing'er got married, and the scandal of his predecessor was gone, but Hu Xing'er never blamed him.
She said that her ex taught her to be an adult, the ex taught her to be a woman, and only the current one let her be a child again, so she was happy and satisfied.
A woman has to suffer emotional wounds in this life, and these hurts are also indirectly urging us to grow, so that we can avoid the same pain on the road ahead.
Research in marriage psychology shows that for a woman to be truly mature, she must first learn to make her husband "uncomfortable".
In life, we must make our husbands "uncomfortable" in doing housework.
Doing housework has always been a matter for two people.
Marriage is composed of two people, naturally, many things in marriage are also related to two people, and the way husband and wife get along is to cooperate.
It's just that many women are very inclusive of doing housework, because they feel that men make money very hard, and they are responsible for cleaning up the house;
There are also people who feel that men are unreliable in doing things, and they are upset when they see it, and it is better to do it better than themselves.
Such a way will bring drawbacks, that is, women do all the things that should belong to two people, leaving men with little nature, and men will naturally not do anything.
The famous British psychologist Alice once said: "Because she is busy with the housework herself, such a woman becomes disgusted by her husband and hated by her child... Tired of the family, but lost the love of the family. ”
Don't worry too much, don't be too industrious, such a woman will certainly not have a good life in marriage.
Be lazy, even if the man does not do a good job of housework, let him do it, so as to cultivate his sense of family responsibility.
To solve the problem of this matter, let the husband "uncomfortable"
When dealing with marriage, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts between husband and wife, but in the face of this situation, women either ignore it or swallow their anger.
Because in their view, many things will pass after a while, there is no need to worry about it, but it will affect the feelings of two people, but it is better to choose to tolerate and tolerate.
But what they don't know is that many unsolvable problems are reflected in such a bottomless tolerance and kindness.
Because when they swallowed their anger, the men didn't know the reason, and they thought nothing was happening.
Therefore, women are in patience, more and more negative emotions, and when they can't stand it, men will not feel that women have been wronged, they will only feel that women are inexplicable and unreasonable.
That's because they've long been accustomed to women's forbearance, and sudden outbursts are naturally unbearable.
Bo Bonnie once said, "Kindness is precious, but if kindness does not grow teeth, it is weakness." ”
There is nothing wrong with goodness in itself, but it cannot be bottomless, and a beautiful person without a bottom line will become a hotbed of indulgence in the evil of others.
Therefore, don't be afraid to make men uncomfortable, and be sure to reflect them when you have negative emotions in your heart.
In this way, men will know what makes women unhappy and will correct them.
To pay for yourself, let the husband "uncomfortable"
The heroine in the TV series "Happiness Duo" was once a dance teacher with outstanding temperament, and later got married and began to be a housewife.
After a long time, the husband feels that women are spending their own money, all things should be listened to, how can doing housework be compared with their own financial contributions?
The heroine felt that her value was degraded, so she began to invest in herself, did her old business, and taught others to dance.
Although she did not earn much, she earned it through her own efforts, and in the process, the heroine also found her own value and became more confident.
At this time, the husband began to panic, because he had a sense of crisis, and the heroine no longer relied on him, which naturally made him confused.
Love never knows its depth, except when faced with the imminent loss.
Whenever a woman elevates herself, pleases herself, and pays for herself will cement her position in the marriage.
Lin Yutang once said: "There are only four things in life: one is to sleep in your own bed; the second is to eat meals made by your parents; the third is to listen to your lover's love words; and the fourth is to play games with your children." ”
There are many ways for us to feel happiness, so don't focus all your time on one thing. Only by enhancing our own value can we have happiness.