"No one has a thousand days, and no flowers have a hundred days."
Everyone goes through a trough of wandering, unhappiness, sadness, frustration and overwhelmed.
The background often receives messages like this:
"I've been having trouble lately, and I'm quite irritable and I don't know how to fix them."
"There are a lot of worries, a lot of trouble, and it's boring all day."
"What should I do if I encounter a low point in my life and feel that my life has lost hope?"
"Helpless, restless, irritable, how to get yourself out?"
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When you are at a low point in life, your inner emotions have nowhere to vent, you don't want to emit negative energy, you don't want your family to worry, and you don't want to complain, because you know that complaining is the most useless.
The more the inner boredom piles up, the more it cannot be discharged, and the person will be overwhelmed.
So stagnating in the trough, unable to find an exit, a vicious circle.
The older you get, the more you find that a lot of suffering and negative emotions can only be faced and resolved by yourself, and others can't help it.
Even if you can get a moment of comfort and encouragement, it is still yourself who finally faces the difficulties and grits your teeth step by step to get out of the trough.
So, when you are alone, how can you help yourself out of the predicament?
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Attitude during the trough
Determines the height of your life
The famous philosopher Nietzsche once said:
"People who suffer, have no right to pessimism. A suffering person, if he is pessimistic, will not have the courage to face reality, will not have the strength to fight suffering, and as a result he will suffer even more. ”
Deeply.
The more painful the period, the better the mentality.
Difficulties and mentalities are a trade-off relationship.
With a good mentality, a bright hope in the heart and the willpower to fight to the end, there are fewer difficulties.
If the mentality collapses first, withers, and loses morale, it can only hover at the bottom of the valley.
Self-abandonment in the trough is a more frightening and insurmountable obstacle than any annoyance encountered.
Whatever the cause of falling into the trough of life, the biggest challenge is never the things that happen, but yourself.
Cowardice, trepidation, comfort zones, and frustration can cause people to develop extremely uncomfortable boredom when they encounter change.
At this time, having the courage to face things that are like being tied to a dead knot, having the courage to resolve their inner troubles, you can have a better state to get out of the trough of life.
I once heard two friends talk about life, and I still remember it clearly:
"Sometimes it feels like you're stuck on the Ferris wheel, one second you're at the top, and the next you're falling to the bottom, which is desperate."
"The important thing in life is experience, if you don't go back and forth between joy and despair, how boring is it to live?"
In a long life, desolation is also an indispensable color, but the desolate light can only be seen out of the trough.
The criterion for judging whether a person is successful is often not how high he can stand, but how much rebound he can have when he falls into a trough.
A dilemma is like pressing you on a spring, how much growth can you achieve with how much force you can exert to get rid of the hands that are holding the throat of fate.
Life is resilient, and your attitude during the trough determines the height of your life.
Life is like a kaleidoscope, and no one can say whether it is good or bad until the end.
Only by still being prepared in the trough can you seize the opportunity and jump forward when things turn around.
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"Static" and "moving" are combined
It is the cracking dafa of the trough period
Jing refers to the ability to sit down and think calmly even after adjusting one's attitude to the state of ordinary mind, even though one is still suffering from pain and suffering.
Calm down and examine your own soul and heart.
On days when you are non-stop, stop and think, "What is important to yourself?" Is this direction right now? What went wrong? ”
Give yourself a chance to talk to yourself, touch the soft heart, and think deeply, almost essentially.
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Calm down, give yourself a little time and space, and learn to accept your own vulnerability and vulnerability, rather than blindly harshly condemning yourself, embarrassing yourself, and hitting yourself.
Only by precipitating the troubles, opening up a quiet corner for the heart full of holes, and gushing out the endless strength, can we better sort out the way of thinking.
Moving, is to actively find a breakthrough after thinking.
"Time is the cure for everything."
We believe that time can heal wounds and bring people out of the trough, but this is also a prerequisite, that is, people must learn to save themselves.
Because time can heal only those who are willing to save themselves.
If you just want to lie down and let the trough pass, it is tantamount to waiting for the rabbit.
In the movie "When Happiness Knocks", the male protagonist suffered a heavy blow from career failure, marriage breakdown, and economic collapse, and was even driven out of the apartment, with his son who was still in kindergarten, living on the street, and because of homelessness, he was reduced to spending a long and cold night in a public toilet.
He also cried because of this, but fortunately, he never gave up on self-help.
The trough period made him understand that his current job did not bring a bright future, and he resolutely chose to cross industries.
After coaxing his son to sleep in the almshouse at night, he picked up the lights and fought at night to learn new areas of knowledge.
There was still no shortage of blows during the period, but fortunately, the emperor did not pay off, and the male protagonist finally knocked on the door through his own efforts to make happiness come knocking.
A person who is in a low valley will not help if he does not save himself.
Only by finding ways to save themselves can we get out of the trough and go uphill.
At that time, looking back at the trough, we can truly feel the healing power of time.
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Life is full of troubles
To endure is to be sunny
The novelist Lu Nei once said: "In everyone's life, there are a few bites of cold overnight food that cannot be eaten, and they must be swallowed, rather than placed in front of their eyes in a daze." ”
There is a term in psychology called "resilience", which refers to the ability of people to face adversity, trauma, or other major stress.
Resilience includes three types:
The ability to accept and accept reality,
The ability to find the true meaning of life in the midst of crisis,
The ability to adapt to problems.
In the life of an adult, the glass heart is useless, and the fight is the ability to repair itself.
People may be sad when they are young because of the loss of toys,
When you grow up, you may feel sad for the people you don't get or lose, and even lament the childish ignorance of that year.
When you are old, you will gently forget all this.
In the future, everything is full of unknown uneasiness, but there is no lack of surprises.
So, no matter what you're going through, believe that it's really going to pass.
You can cry, you can do nothing for a while, but remember to set a deadline, and once the deadline is over, you must let yourself start again.
When the sky is darkest, it is also closest to dawn.
When you are in a low valley, you don't need to be afraid, adjust your mentality, take action, and just move forward safely.
When you get out of the trough and look back at the past, you will find that the hurdles that you thought you couldn't go to before have already been stepped on by you.
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