Text/Little Fan Emotion
When Fang Yinuo was confinement, he thought that finding a sister-in-law could help him take care of his children. It turned out that because of the sister-in-law, her life was once again anxious.
Because Hehe was found to have jaundice, Sister-in-law Yue did not quit and said goodbye. After sister-in-law Yue left, Yinuo found that one of his books was also missing.
Five years later, Hehe was hospitalized. Yinuo met his original sister-in-law in the hospital. Sister-in-law Yue was embarrassed to return the promise. It turned out that it was she who had taken Yinuo's book.
Why did Sister-in-law Yue steal Yinuo's book in the first place? Why did she risk her blaming the book after five years?
In order to find the answer, I replayed those episodes and found that the loss and return of the book did not mean much to the sister-in-law.
However, the significance of the sister-in-law's theft and return of books to Yinuo is very important. This month's sister-in-law has a very great impact on her marriage. From the time she first invited her sister-in-law to the door, the tragedy had been quietly buried.
When Sister-in-law Yue stole the book from Fang Yinuo's moon, a year later, at the Hehe's first birthday feast, Zhu Zhu held a photo and audio recording to prove the fact of Xiao Lu's derailment.
In the same year, Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced.
Now, Hehe is 5 years old, and sister-in-law Yue found Yinuo to return the book, four years after she took it away. She could never have imagined that this book that had been stolen and returned would reveal the truth that Fang Yinuo had buried for 4 years...
The two faces of Yue Yi's sister-in-law are the beginning of the rupture of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's relationship
Xiao Lu watched a ball game at home when Yinuo gave birth, and gave the placenta to his mother at the first time after Yinuo gave birth to a child, etc., all of which Yinuo chose to tolerate.
In fact, their real contradiction began after the sister-in-law came.
When sister-in-law Yue first came, she had just entered Yinuo's home and accurately judged that the temperature in the house was about 25 degrees. He also taught her how to remove dirt from the newborn's navel.
Because of the arrival of the sister-in-law, Hehe magically stopped crying, which made Yinuo feel that inviting the sister-in-law was the most correct decision.
However, Yinuo's mother came to visit her grandson and asked her to guard against her sister-in-law. Although Yinuo did not agree with his mouth, he was suspicious in his heart.
If a mother has too much influence over her married daughter. Sometimes it's not necessarily a good thing. Of course, mothers love their daughters, and if the mother says positive energy to her daughter, it will add icing on the cake to her daughter's marriage. If a mother like Yinuo reminds her everyone every day, it is bound to have some negative impact on her daughter's marriage.
Yinuo's mother's behavior also confirmed this later.
Because of her mother's reminder, Yinuo began to secretly pay attention to Yue's sister-in-law, and if she really found it catty, she smelled the smell of milk powder on the bottle, and she felt that yue sister-in-law deliberately added milk powder to Hehe's breast milk in order to sleep peacefully at night.
Out of concern for her daughter, she woke up Xiao Lu, who was sleeping, and told him about it.
Xiao Lu did not think so, he thought that Yinuo was too sensitive, and he felt that Yue's sister-in-law was very good.
Yinuo did not hesitate to tell Xiao Lu about the unqualified sister-in-law.
She was a new mother, her mind was full of daughters, and her anxiety was a normal state of a mother.
But Xiao Lu was busy all day, too tired at night, and would be woken up by his wife twice, and if he said things that he thought were insignificant, he would feel that his wife was too pretentious and too sensitive. He felt that his sister-in-law was thoughtful and would take good care of people.
Xiao Lu's behavior of protecting Yue Yue's sister-in-law made Yi Nuo very incomprehensible. She is a person in the confinement, the husband does not care about it, she said to him about the child, he said that he was too sensitive, this is the beginning of the real estrangement between their husband and wife.
Why would Xiao Lu protect Sister-in-law Yue?
That's because Sister-in-law Yue is a person with two faces. She can say that Yinuo is not, say her own expertise. She wouldn't give in to her female employer.
But she is a different face to Xiao Lu, she will leave food for Xiao Lu at night, and intimately said that she is afraid that eating too much at night is not good, so she will leave less. After that, she kept his meal and so on.
She would tell Xiao Lu to leave the dirty clothes there, and she would wash them.
She was obviously arguing with Yinuo, and when she saw Xiao Lu return, she immediately changed into a warm face and made green tea for Xiao Lu.
She was obviously a sister-in-law for a month, but she even wanted to wash the man's clothes. If she is kind to do laundry, but her very different attitude towards Xiao Lu and Yinuo makes people wonder, why should she do this?
She left a good impression on Xiao Lu, so when Yinuo told Xiao Lu that she was not good, Xiao Lu would defend her, thinking that Yinuo was suspicious in the moon, which made the whole family anxious with her.
Yinuo's concern for the child was not understood by Xiao Lu, but was said to be overkill by her husband, which made her feel very wronged.
She was not aggrieved because she was tired, but because her husband did not share the same heart with herself. When she was worried about her daughter and told Xiao Lu, she talked to Xiao Lu as a relative. However, her trusted relatives said that she was sensitive, and not only did not stand in her position and hate her, but sympathized with a sister-in-law who was a stranger to them.
This is the source of Yinuo's true sadness. As a new mother, her anxiety and sensitivity can be understood in the face of her hard-won daughter. However, Xiao Lu did not understand, he was too tired to work every day, and he promised to invite his sister-in-law so that his wife and children could be well taken care of. Now, his wife nagged him every day for the sake of his sister-in-law, and woke him up at night, and he felt that his wife had too many things to do. Of course, Xiao Lu's words could only be hidden in his heart, but what he said and the attitude he showed gave Yinuo a bad guidance.
Yinuo must not only worry that Yue Yue is not good for Hehe, but also bear the grievances brought by Xiao Lu, under such pressure and anxiety, can she become more and more sensitive?
Along with sensitivity comes low self-esteem. She didn't let Xiao Lu kiss her, she felt that she hadn't showered in a month and had a smell on her body. So she refused Xiao Lu's affection. Couples have not had sex for a long time, which also lays the groundwork for their tragedies later.
Because of the jaundice of Hehe, the contradiction between the couple broke out completely.
When Yinuo saw that Hehe had jaundice on his face, yue said that the newborn was very normal, and later found that the jaundice was serious, she still did not take it seriously, if it were not for Yinuo's insistence on letting Xiao Lu take Hehe to the hospital for examination, Hehe might have been delayed.
After Hehe was diagnosed, Sister-in-law Yue heard two nurses say that there was a problem in the breast milk of other mothers, and she was afraid of taking responsibility, so the evil person complained first, telling Xiao Lu that there was a problem with Yinuo's breast milk.
As a result, Xiao Lu inadvertently said this matter again, and Yinuo said with grievance:
What do you mean? I have a problem with my breast milk! It's because of me, Hehe, who is lying there shining blue light, isn't it? If I have a problem with my breast milk, I won't be able to feed my baby, husband!
Yinuo's "husband" is that she is asking Xiao Lu for help, she looks at Hehe sick, the heartache is not good, and now Xiao Lu said that it is a problem of breast milk, that is to say, the daughter is sick because of herself, which is unacceptable to Yinuo, and there is no evidence, no mother can accept that she harmed her daughter. Her words seem to be an outburst, but in fact, she is telling Xiao Lu about her grievances, and she is eager to get Xiao Lu's understanding.
Xiao Lu regretted that he was quick for a while, he quickly said that he didn't mean that, he comforted that there were many children in Yinuo Hospital who were taking blue light wherever they were, which was not a big problem.
Xiao Lu's words caused a complete explosion of Yinuo, and she slapped the table uncontrollably and shouted:
What is not a big problem? Jaundice this kind of problem, small if the liver function is impaired, heavy if it is life-threatening, you know?
Yinuo's outbreak is her double dissatisfaction with Yue he and her husband, she is angry at Yue Yue sister-in-law does not listen to her words, did not pay attention to Hehe's jaundice early, she is angry that her husband does not care about Hehe, and now her daughter is lying in the hospital, she questions Yuejiao, but he helps Yuejiao.
Yinuo began to have a grudge against him from this time. Yinuo believes that when he was worried about his daughter, Xiao Lu, who was a father, was not like himself, but had been defending the irrelevant sister-in-law, and in Xiao Lu's heart, he and Hehe were not even as good as an outsider.
Neither husband nor wife thought that the sister-in-law entered the door and was the beginning of their marriage.
The constant war at home made Xiao Lu reluctant to go home, and Zhu Zhu's calculation became the last straw that crushed their marriage
Because the new sister-in-law would not arrive until half a month later, Xiao Lu called his mother.
Yinuo originally felt that her mother-in-law was unreliable, when she saw her mother-in-law bring those old clothes from Xiao Lu's childhood, when she saw her mother-in-law smoking, she complained to Xiao Lu again and again.
Xiao Lu came back to a halt between his mother and Yinuo.
In the end, because the mother-in-law fell down, Yinuo's mother quit her job to help.
Yinuo's mother arranged cooking and housework for Xiao Lu's mother to do, while she took care of her daughter and grandson herself. Xiao Lu's mother had no opinion.
It is reasonable to say that no matter how the division of labor is, their main purpose is to let Yinuo recuperate well and let Hehe be taken care of. As a result, because of the strength of Yinuo's mother and the grievances of Xiao Lu's mother, the family has constant contradictions every day.
Xiao Lu sandwiched between three women every day, painstakingly mediating for them.
Such quarrels make Xiao Lu feel a lot of pressure, he is also an ordinary person, he works during the day, and when he arrives home at night, he also has to face the family problems of a chicken feather, coaxing this and that, he is also very tired. So he began to dodge, preferring to sit in the car rather than go home.
It was at this time that the gap between husband and wife arose. Before they quarreled, they didn't get tired of each other. And now, Xiao Lu only wanted to escape.
In marriage, a woman usually needs her husband's emotional value because of stress, but for most men, the pressure of the wife is also a stress for him. When he couldn't hold on, he wanted to flee.
Zhu Zhu seized the opportunity at this time, Zhu Zhu grew up in a single-parent family, after her father had an affair, her mother grew up alone with her, her mother's strict family rules made her feel suffocated, Xiao Lu would take her to eat roadside stalls, would take her over the fence, and would take her to do things against the norm.
Zhu Zhu's heart, which had been restrained for more than twenty years, suddenly wanted to break through the previous decent life, and she took Xiao Lu home after he was drunk once, creating the illusion that Xiao Lu was cheating. Yes, Xiao Lu was wronged by Zhu Zhu, and he did not really cheat. This is the conclusion I came to when I went to play back that clip again.
That night, Xiao Lu was so drunk that he didn't know that Zhu Zhu carried him home, he wasn't half drunk, he was drunk like mud, and a person who was incapacitated could not do that kind of thing.
In fact, from Zhu Zhu's deliberate photo as evidence, it can be inferred that Xiao Lu did not do anything to her. Zhu Zhu is a girl, she is in love with Xiao Lu, if they really have unbearable behavior between them, will normal people think of taking pictures and threatening?
Judging from Zhu Zhu's performance of directly making a first birthday party later, she adopted a straight-forward approach.
She deliberately took photos as evidence. In fact, it just proves that she is a thief, Xiao Lu has nothing to do with her, and she wants to use a photo to slander him. Regarding the plot of Zhu Zhu's design of Xiao Lu, I estimate that Zhu Zhu will tell it himself later.
But the reason why Xiao Lu and Yinuo divorced was that there was a gap between them. Yinuo's dissatisfaction with Xiao Lu, from the door of yue sister-in-law, every time she complained to Xiao Lu, Xiao Lu began to face Xiao Lu. When she complained to Xiao Lu, she still regarded him as a relative in her heart. The mother-in-law came to the door, and although she was dissatisfied, she was still giving in. When there was a conflict between her mother and her mother-in-law and Xiao Xu, she had already begun to fight back. At that time, she had turned from complaining to resenting Xiao Lu.
It is not easy to warm a person's heart, but it is a moment to want a person to chill. And most of the time, the marriage is broken by the small things that we usually don't care about, when the small things accumulate, when the scars increase again and again, the heart slowly becomes cold.
The book that Yue Sister-in-law returned revealed the truth that Fang Yinuo had been buried in his heart for 4 years
Yinuo hated Xiao Lu's betrayal, and after the divorce, he resolutely refused to let Xiao Lu see Hehe. Later, she married Xie Tianhua, although there was no vigorous love, but the marriage was also harmonious.
If it weren't for the fact that Hehe was sick and couldn't find a match, Maybe Yinuo wouldn't have let Xiao Lu see Hehe in this life.
Over the years, although Yinuo is superficially light and breezy, in fact, she has not let go of her heart knot and walked out of the hurt she once had.
Over the years, Xiao Lu has long since let go of the past, and she has always been trapped in the whirlpool of the past and cannot extricate herself. She went to talk to Lei Wen and said that Xiao Lu's appearance made her afraid. Because she had never forgotten the past, she was afraid.
She saw that Gao Caiping had brought Dong Fan to see Hehe, and she was very unhappy and asked Xiao Lu to take them away.
People always can't control their emotions, thinking in their hearts is one thing, how to do it is another thing. After Xiao Lu's matching failed, Yinuo was afraid that his long-term relationship with Hehe would affect his family, and he specially warned him to stay away from Hehe, and the two quarreled. When she argues with Xiao Lu, she is discovered by Xie Dan, who is an unforgiving character and begins to question her when she returns home.
That night, Xie Tianhua was drunk because of his heart.
Everything was mixed together, and Yinuo began to think about his life.
The night she returned to the hospital, she saw her sister-in-law waiting for her. They had met before, and my sister-in-law was now working as a nurse in the hospital.
Sister-in-law Yue specially sought out a promise to return the book because of guilt. At that time, because she liked the book, she flipped through the pages when the child was sleeping, and the anxious Yinuo accused the sister-in-law of the month, that is, the child should find something else to do when she sleeps.
Because of her accusations, and because Hehe was hospitalized, yue's sister-in-law was afraid of being dragged down, so she did not say goodbye and took the book away when she left.
They met again after a gap of five years, they were in the hospital, and the baby that the sister-in-law had been holding was suffering from blood cancer, and now lay quietly on the hospital bed.
The original sister-in-law became a nurse, and the original Yinuo experienced divorce and remarriage, and the child fell ill.
These five short years are between the whiskers of happy people, but the fate of a miserable person's half life. In these five years, Yinuo has grown from a new mother who was anxious and did not understand others to a good mother who knows how to give in and knows how to understand others. This, as can be seen from her attitude towards Xie Dan, has changed a lot.
And when Sister-in-law Yue left Yinuo's house to take the book by hand, it showed that she had a problem with her quality, and when Yinuo questioned her to drink milk powder for the child at the beginning, Yue's eyes fluttered, obviously lying. When she left Yinuo's house, Yinuo did not report her. She went from being a month-old sister-in-law to a caregiver, probably reported by other employers, and she couldn't work as a nurse for a month.
But for whatever reason, she confessed her mistake to Yinuo and took the initiative to take out the book, indicating that she already knew to bear the mistake.
And Yinuo has given her the book from the original complaint to the sister-in-law, not just to forgive the sister-in-law.
When the first sister-in-law was at her house, it was the time when Yinuo was the most devastated and crazy, and she and Xiao Lu also began to have a disagreement at that time, and now after five years, although it is not a vicissitude, it is already a human being.
From the year of divorce to the current four years, Fang Yinuo has always had resentment towards Xiao Lu in her heart, and now she is willing to forgive her sister-in-law and give the book to others. It also shows from the side that Yinuo has let go of the past in his heart.
Such a let-down is not easy for Yinuo. It is precisely because she let go of her past hatred that she will send a message to Xiao Lu to apologize and accept him and Dong Fan to visit Hehe.
For Yinuo, the past is over, and she already has an idea in her mind about how to go after that.
In fact, looking closely at this drama, although it concentrates a lot of bad things on one person, it is not selling anxiety, it wants to tell us through what happened to Yinuo, how should marriage be managed? How should life go?
Just like Qin Hao's wife Yi Nengjing wrote:
Where is there so much smooth water in life? It's just a place of chicken feathers trying to become a peacock. Everyone has to learn to balance between themselves and each other.
Life is not just romantic, after entering the marriage, it is more of a bland chai rice oil and salt and the daily life of raising a baby and a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And the truth of marriage is to try to live a good life in a place of chicken feathers.
The sooner you know about marriage, the more family affection needs to be treated soberly, and the happier the people. Life can be unbearable, but love is always the most filling salvation in a thousand holes.
There is no marriage that is inherently fit. Whether the marriage is good or not depends mainly on the degree to which the two people cherish the marriage and whether they manage it with heart.
Cherish marriage, running marriage is not so simple as lip service, want to have a happy marriage, husband and wife two people to each other have enough tolerance, consideration, understanding, and good communication.
Empathetic thinking and sharing together will always be the most important magic weapon for resolving contradictions.
Love is the cure for everything!