Many times, parents panic the baby is not calm.
It is said that the child is the shadow of the parents, from the child's every move, you can roughly judge the appearance of the parents, if the parents are calm and calm, the children cultivated will not be surprised at first.
This is not only a matter of genetics, but also has a subtle influence in daily life, children will pay close attention to all the behaviors of their parents, imitation has become an important means for them to accumulate experience.
I'm a mom and I have to be steady
Hua Hua was sent to kindergarten by her mother as usual, he has long been free of anxiety and separation fear of entering the kindergarten, and he can say goodbye to his mother happily every day and watch his mother do his own things after leaving.
For this, the mother is also very pleased, if the child goes to school every day to tear his heart and lungs, he will be sullen all day, always worried about the child, there is no way to go to a good class.
It's just that when my mother first arrived at the unit, the teacher called my mother and said that Hua Hua suddenly fainted, how can this be good? Obviously, when I went out in the morning, I was still fine, how did I suddenly have a problem?
Mom didn't have time to think too much, immediately got out of the way to go to the kindergarten, and when he arrived at the kindergarten, she didn't feel overwhelmed as everyone thought, nor did she have any complaints and responsibilities, but quietly accompanied Hua Hua and gently stroked Hua Hua.
After resting for a while, Hua Hua's state also stabilized, and the teacher called out her mother and asked her mother, how did you do it so calmly? Did you have any previous experience? You're different from other moms!
Mom smiled and replied to the teacher: I am a mother, I must be stable, although I do not know medical skills, but I know that the kindergarten doctor will do my best to deal with it, I just need to believe you can! Then his mother took Hua Hua back home first, calming and soothing his fear.
Parenting psychology: You don't need to be good, emotional stability is the best education and support you can do
Children need a certain amount of space for emotional management
Some parents believe that in the process of growing up, the management of emotions needs to be guided by parents, and it is true that when children are born, emotions are strange to them, and they don't even know to laugh when they are happy and cry when they are sad.
This is also why many children only use tears to vent all their emotions, even if they like one thing, they cannot express their inner thoughts correctly. Causes adults to misunderstand them based on their performance.
But when the child is more than two years old, parents should slowly let go of their hands, let them explore their own social interaction, seize the sensitive period of social interaction, even if they make mistakes, it does not matter, they will always grow up.
If they are more than two years old, their parents still control their behavior and emotional management, which will lead to their loss of self, loss of independence, encounter any problems will always seek help from their parents, they simply can not objectively ask themselves, what do I want to do, how will I feel happy?
The negative emotions of the parents can exacerbate the baby's uneasiness
When an event occurs, the child will judge whether he has done something wrong according to the parent's expression and emotions, and if the parent is a happy and joyful expression, it means that he has done it right. On the contrary, the parents' expressions are very solemn, and even some are angry, and the child will be very uneasy, afraid that the parents will punish themselves.
At this time, no matter what parents say and do, they will make the children worried, overdraft their sense of security, in their thinking, can not analyze whether parents will continue to like themselves after punishing themselves, if they do not like themselves, what to do?
In this way, the source of the child's guilt and negative emotions is not because of recognizing his own mistakes, but because seeing the negative emotions of his parents is obviously a thing that is not enough to worry about, but the child's sense of security is decreasing, and the gain is not worth the loss!
Compared with those parents who can control their emotions, their children will grow up better, even if they make mistakes, take the initiative to admit it, and will not correct it next time? There is really no need to be as cruel and helpless as the end of the world!
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