Hello Teacher Cai,
Let's make my story public, and I'd like to hear your advice.
Since I was a child, my original family was not good, my siblings plus my parents had a family of 5, my parents divorced when we were very young, and then they were separated and quarrelsome.
Such a family atmosphere caused me to lack love, lack of confidence, and insecurity.
During school, my dad often instilled some ideas in me, saying that going to school is the most important thing to learn to get good grades, and the rest should not be left alone.
So, I grew up with scholarships every semester. Because I only care about reading and studying, everyone thinks that my personality is not easy to get along with, and the relationship between classmates is not good.
I didn't have friends until college.
I don't look good, fat and black, see the person I like, afraid that I don't deserve him, I don't have the courage to confess, and no one chases me, I envy those classmates who have boyfriends.
Still, God is looking after me! During the summer vacation of college, I met a netizen on the forum, which is my current husband.
We talked on QQ for more than two years, and he offered to meet, ran from the northeast to Shanghai to find me, got a job, and rented a house near the school.
The love stage is so happy, so sweet, I like him so much, that aspect is also very harmonious, soul and sex, until I graduated from college.
At that time, it was also time to talk about marriage, but my parents thought that he was a rural person, his family was poor, he could not afford to give a bride price, and he did not agree to be with us.
I secretly got a license from my parents and him, and the banquet was held in his village.
At that time, I knew that I liked him and wanted to marry him, whether he had money or not, whether he had a car or a house, whether he had a wedding or a wedding dress.
Soon after the marriage, we had crystallization, and the family of three was happy and happy. But the good times did not last long, and my parents sold me a house in my hometown for 700,000 yuan.
I want us to go to the city to buy a house, and later my children can go to better schools.
It is said that the woman has been pregnant for 3 years, and I gave him the money for safekeeping.
As a result, he took the money to play with women outside, and that time, I was really angry and slapped him hard, and both teeth fell out.
He knelt down in front of me and begged me not to get a divorce, would cut it off with the women outside, and said he would never do it again.
At that time, the children were small, and I couldn't make up my mind to leave this family, although I didn't divorce him, but I always had a thorn in my heart, I didn't want to have an intimate life with him, and I felt that he was disgusting from the bottom of my heart.
From then on, I felt that this man might not be reliable, so I worked hard to get a teacher's certificate and successfully found a job in school.
One day two years later, he suddenly told me that he didn't want to work in the factory for the rest of his life.
His friend had a project he wanted to do with him, and he said it was an opportunity, and I was half-convinced, but let him go anyway.
At first, he went home to visit his wife and children once a month, but he did not go home once in the next six months, and even the New Year was outside.
A woman's sixth sense made me realize something was wrong, and I found out again that he was out there looking for a woman again, this time as last time, I met online, and my husband raised her.
I also lied to me that she was a customer, and that these were the scenes of the mall, and I was dizzy.
In March this year, he came back to tell me that the company was not running well, and still owed more than 500,000 yuan in foreign debt, and asked me to sell the house to repay the loan.
If I disagree, he's going to be with the women out there and not want this home.
Recently, the debt collection outside was urgent, and he cried and made trouble like a madman, smashed the TV set, and abused me at home, forcing me to sell the house.
I have thought about selling the house and helping him pay off his debts, as long as he returns to the family, my requirements are not high.
However, he is a person who cannot be kept, he feels that he is handsome, has high emotional intelligence, picks flowers and weeds everywhere, and when they are first together, people are poor and honest, and we are happy.
Only later my parents gave a sum of money, he could not control the wealth, swelled, I really regret that my parents sold the house, would rather be poor, at least happy...
Not done...
