Nowadays, the mainland has fully opened up the three-child policy, so it has "taken away" the attention of the second-child family. In fact, there are many families with second children now, but is the good life of the second child really as beautiful as imagined?
In fact, the hardships of raising a second child can only be experienced by the mother, so most of the mothers who "do not actively" respond to the third child, the helplessness of life, the hardships of bringing the baby, the mother seems to be a person who has carried most of it. Therefore, the decision of the second child must be carefully considered by mothers.
First, the "hard" life of the mother's second child began when she began to conceive the second child
Since ancient times, the traditional family distribution in China has been the male lord and the female lord, and the outside of the master is always dissatisfied with the master. In fact, those in Christ give no less than those outside the Lord. When it comes to child rearing, most women in the family dominate, spending significantly more thought and time than men. Even under the banner of equal distribution, the burden on the mother is still very heavy. Especially those families with the idea of "who is born and who brings" are torturous.
He devoted himself to the care of his two children, but he was not able to get the understanding of his family. Children are born on their own, and care becomes "deserved". Always exaggerating the greatness of motherhood, turning one's own helplessness and grievances into the motivation to take care of children, such suffering is not as much as the mother is willing to experience many times.
Should I choose to become a second-child family? This is something that all moms and dads need to think about carefully.
1. Can the life after the second child achieve tacit division of labor?
It is not that women are born to take care of children, but for the mother, motherhood forces her to grow up quickly. The hardships of parenting the second child only increase, not to have the experience of one child will be easy. Therefore, fathers should also share the pressure on their children's parenting.
The so-called men and women are not tired of working together, and under the tacit division of labor and cooperation between husband and wife, they can find fun in hard life, tired and happy, and the happiness of two people is the happiness of the family.
2. Do you have a long-term life plan?
Tomorrow and accidents, no one knows which will come first. Life is mixed with many unexpected factors, and unexpected changes are a test for a family. Without a long-term life plan, you will only be led by life in the end. Therefore, before becoming a two-child family, women must first consider whether they can accept the situation of not being able to return to the workplace. It is generally possible to let women return to the family to take care of the second treasure, so it is also necessary to plan in this thinking.
3. Do you have the conditions to become a parent of a second child?
The second child is not just as simple as giving birth to a child, we as parents need to consider the parenting of the child in the later stages. Whether the family has enough funds to raise children, whether it will reduce the quality of life of the family, etc. need to be considered, unlike the ancient times, just to be able to eat enough. Although becoming a father and mother does not require an examination, we should be responsible for him, otherwise how can we bring them to the human world to suffer?
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