"Dear Child" premiered, even watched six episodes, really made me cry, said that marriage is not happy, have a child to know, Ren Suxi played the novice mother Fang Yinuo, the marriage and parenting in the various contradictions, showed vividly, see my heart chills, full of fear of marriage.
The line is disconnected when the child is born, and it is not known whether the child is born or not
Fang Yinuo is a spiritual and economically independent middle school teacher, generous and cheerful personality, does not like to calculate, teaching and educating people is also a good temptation, life is very planned, and the combination of Xiao Lu, is considered to be a low marriage, the two people are free love, when Fang Yinuo's parents were against Yinuo marrying Xiao Lu, but Yinuo firmly chose love.
But marriage and love are two different things after all, Xiao Lu is the kind of man who is more good at "mouth kung fu", such a man, when in love, talks about the sky, can coax the girlfriend to be happy, but after entering the marriage, this set does not work, Fang Yinuo's life after marriage is not good.
Xiao Lu's unreliability is vividly displayed in marriage, for the matter of having children, Xiao Lu is not very concerned, but he is forced by his parents to be anxious, so he simply gives birth to a blocked mouth, so after Yinuo is pregnant, he should still drink and drink, he should smoke and smoke, Yinuo prevents him from smoking, and he still complains.
Fang Yinuo is a teacher who educates children on the podium during the day, and she is confident and determined in front of the students, but after returning home at night and taking off her makeup, looking at her ugly self, her heart is up and down, she wants to cry, but she can't cry, she is a strong Fang Yinuo.
When Fang Yinuo was lecturing to the students, the amniotic fluid was broken, calmly arranged for the students to study by themselves, told the students that she would go to have a child first, Xiao Lu received a call to rush to the hospital to accompany him, received a call from the boss and left, said that he would come back in ten minutes, but sat on the sofa drinking beer and watching TV, with no intention of going back.
Yinuo was going to be born when he called Xiao Lu, he slept soundly, hurriedly rushed over not to see his wife and children, busy taking the placenta to his brother stew soup to drink, Yinuo came out of the ward without a family member to pick up, or the nurse sent back to the ward, before the birth of the child, Xiao Lu promised not to take his daughter's placenta to others to eat, the result in a blink of an eye, the wife and children do not care, busy sending placenta.
Xiao Lu sent the placenta slowly back to the operating room, the child and Yinuo had already returned to the ward, he was still walking around the door of the operating room with hindsight, in fact, he was not a nerve bar, but he did not care enough about his wife, even if he was a fool, he knew that his wife and children were more important than the placenta, would he not know.
Xiao Lu hated his wife, and only his parents were distressed
Yinuo after giving birth to a child after urinary incontinence, Xiao Lu to change pants, after the change in the bathroom for half a day do not want to come out, relatives and friends come to visit Yinuo, everyone is happy for the child, no one cares about the child after the birth of a promise, only her parents wipe sweat, one hand over the water.
Xiao Lu washed his hands for half a day and came out, wiped his hands over and over again, unwilling to go in to see Yinuo, looked at his hands, his eyes were full of disgust, his mother-in-law went to the hospital to take a look, said a few words of instruction like a guest, and left, it was Yinuo's parents who had been with him, Xiao Lu was always like an outsider.
On the day of discharge, a scene presented in front of the door was dirty and messy, the coffee table on the sofa was full of leftover food and garbage, the bed room was messy, or the mother-in-law helped clean up, Xiao Lu's mother has been by the side, saying that the old sow is good to give birth to ten eight, which means that women are not so fragile when they give birth.
Xiao Lu's mother is very attentive to come to take care of, saying that instead of being so expensive, it is better to give her money, she comes to take care of it, and it is okay to give less, but Yinuo pays attention to scientific parenting, scientific confinement, and does not want her mother-in-law to point fingers, so she invited a "professional" sister-in-law.
Yinuo has to get up several times a day in the middle of the night to feed, physical weakness wants Xiao Lu to pour a cup of water, but he pretends not to sleep, or the moon sister-in-law pours water, after doing the husband has not yet a month sister-in-law intimate, and this is just the beginning, after the days of having children, Xiao Lu's performance is even more disappointing, did not fulfill the responsibility of a wife, a husband.
Yinuo did a lot of homework before giving birth to a child, and after giving birth to a child, all his thoughts were on the child, and Xiao Lu obviously did not care much about his wife and children, shouting that he was good to you, but in fact, he did half of what he did, he got a turtle to give Yinuo a body, and the result was put down to a little high incense in the blink of an eye.
In addition to the child's jaundice, Yinuo told Xiao Lu many times that there was a problem, Xiao Lu would rather believe in outsiders than believe in Yinuo, and blame Yinuo for being too sensitive, what the mother needs most at this time is comfort, Xiao Lu is thinking about how to let her stop, rather than calm her emotions, blame Yinuo for disturbing his rest.
Hehe in Xiao Lu's indifference and nanny's and thin mud, jaundice value became higher and higher, sent to the hospital has been seriously exceeded, Xiao Lu and Yinuo went to the hospital to see the child, Xiao Lu did not even know which one his child was, think that the child looks the same.
He He cried in the hospital tearing his heart and lungs, but Xiao Lu said lightly: "It's just two or three days in the hospital, nothing, children cry more, maybe they can increase lung capacity, so many children who shine blue light, the jaundice value is high, this is not a big deal."
Sister-in-law because of the hehe to see a doctor, did not dare to face a promise, she secretly ran, Xiao Lu in order to have someone to take care of a promise, the mother to invite, a promise of confinement life, in addition to the husband and wife contradictions, and added a mother-in-law contradiction, more blocked heart.
When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradict each other, they push the mistake out
In fact, Xiao Lu's mother is not a mother-in-law with bad intentions, nor is it the kind of person who will mistreat the daughter-in-law, but the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is still inevitable, the two people have different parenting concepts, each has an idea, and Xiao Lu does not play a role in regulating between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, but blindly and thin mud.
Gao Caiping is a single mother, her greatest pride is that she raised two sons by her own strength, both of whom are healthy and healthy, and there is nothing wrong with it, so she insists on teaching her daughter-in-law with the experience of the older generation, and raising Hehe in this way.
And Yinuo is a high-level intellectual, has always been as long as she said to teach others, no one else told her, before giving birth to a child she read a lot of books, at every turn to open her mouth is "people experts said ...", the child daily arrangements to die, with a small book to remember, there is no soul space.
The difference in the concept of parenting has led to a sharp increase in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Gao Caiping took a bunch of old clothes that Xiao Lu Xiaoxu wore when he was a child for Hehe to wear, and Yinuo wanted to raise Hehe as a little princess, naturally she would not let her wear old clothes, and the first battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began as soon as she entered the door.
Xiao Lu was a double-faced spy, saying that side over here, saying this side over there, but from beginning to end, he did not have his own opinion, just because of Xiao Lu's two-sided approach, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could not be resolved, if Xiao Lu could stand in line or put forward his own point of view, the two people would not fight like this.
Xiao Lu told Yinuo: When I was a child, there was no expert, I was not the same grown up, my mother was not suitable for taking children, how did Xiao Xu and I grow up!
Xiao Lu's such a way of saying and doing, on the surface is enlightened, in fact, it is to add blockage, obviously the purpose of the mother-in-law is to help take care of the daughter-in-law, and then say that it is not a promise to come, it is Xiao Lu who is invited to be first chopped and then played, but in turn, it is necessary for the daughter-in-law to tolerate the mother-in-law, to tell the truth, usually how to tolerate can be, but it is really inappropriate to ask a mother during the confinement period.
After a woman gives birth, she has to face a lot of physical and psychological problems, it is easy to fall into inferiority and depression, during the confinement period, it should have been well cultivated and restored, in order to return to normal faster, the result is that the husband is unwilling to manage, but the mother-in-law is always working with herself, so it is really easy to be depressed.
A woman with a big heart like Yinuo, unable to face all this normally, has been suppressing emotions, sitting alone in the dark night many times, even running to the bathtub and curling up helplessly, no one notices her emotions, especially Xiao Lu is annoyed at a glance, Yinuo is facing collapse several times, it is no wonder that there are so many pregnant women in the world, who will choose to commit suicide after giving birth.
Gao Caiping took Hehe and did not forget to go out to play mahjong, smoking in front of the child, several times was found by Yinuo, Xiao Lu was in the mud, hiding Yinuo, the result of the child fell down the slope, almost caused a catastrophe, Yinuo's emotions directly collapsed, wanted to tear his face with his mother-in-law, and could not stand the mother-in-law's bitter pleading.
So a more wonderful scene was staged, the mother-in-law and the mother gathered together, plus a delicious lazy little uncle who was not polite, the family staged a good drama every day, a family of five people, divided into three factions, Yinuo and her mother are one faction, Xiao Xu and Gao Caiping a faction, Xiao Lu a faction, the other two factions constantly tear each other apart, Xiao Lu professional throwing pot.
There is a certain difference between the two families, Yinuo's family has always been clean and tidy, like to pay attention to the rules of the family, the most unaccustomed is dirty and messy, and Gao Caiping is an informal person, big grin, thick lines, no bad thoughts, do not know how to consider the feelings of others.
The two sons have no sense of responsibility under her education with thick lines, cool and thin, not especially Xiao Xu, the elder and the young do not know, the sister-in-law's home as their own home, smoking in the toilet to make dirty, in the bedroom smoke curtains are burned, all day in the brother's house to eat and drink, housekeeper is not good to be a person.
Yinuo's mother also managed more, an outsider, bypassed the daughter and son-in-law to directly educate the brother of the family, but also said that Gao Caiping did not know how to teach his son, the result of the four people quarreled, making a lot of trouble, Xiao Lu entered the door to see this door, everyone was telling their dissatisfaction.
In this regard, Xiao Lu not only did not take out the responsibility of a head of the family to solve the problem reasonably, but felt that he was the most aggrieved one, he in turn blamed him for desperately giving birth to a promise, blamed the mother who raised him and helped him with the child, and the mother-in-law who quit his job to take care of his wife and children, for such a long time, he never said a word of hardship or thanks to them, and in turn felt that those people were making trouble for him, Xiao Lu roared:
You continue to argue, then make trouble, you are happy, all right, all are reasonable, happy is good, I am wrong, I should not put you together, all thinking about the little things in my heart, just my own feelings, that self-esteem, do not consider considering others, since I was born, I have a stable day, I work hard during the day, I go home at night, this is not happy, coaxing, that is unhappy, coaxing, coax I also want to be coaxed, I sleep on the couch now, every day at work back pain, who of you have asked me, who cares about me, have you ever hurt me?
If you don't look at Xiao Lu's usual performance, hearing his words may really hurt him, but looking at his behavior and words and deeds, it is really not a little different, the mouth is very good, in fact, always evading, unwilling to be tired, unwilling to pay, to tell the truth, Hehe was born for so long, Xiao Lu basically did not hug, let alone coaxing, the child occasionally made him unable to sleep, he also blamed a promise in turn.
Escape home, private meetings with female customers, Xiao Lu is too cold
And what is even more excessive is not that Xiao Lu does not care about his wife and children, but that he abandons his wife and children, goes outside in the middle of the night to coax other women to be happy, accompanies other women to press the road, accompanies others to drink and send people home, cares about his wife's emotions, he feels tired, and he is very energetic when he coaxes other women.
When Xiao Lu was running business, he met a young and beautiful rich second-generation girl Zhu Zhu, accompanied people to feed stray dogs, took her to drink flower tea, and gave gifts to others when they first met, and it didn't take long for the two to know each other, Xiao Lu's mind seemed to run to Zhu Zhu.
Hehe from the hospital to take the blue light after returning, has always liked to cry, every time he saw the child crying, Xiao Lu wanted to avoid, so overtime, socialization became an excuse for him not to go home, even if he returned to the door, she was not willing to enter the door, listening to the child's crying from upstairs, Xiao Lu turned around and drove outside, and did not return overnight.
Yinuo has felt the change of Xiao Lu, a pregnant woman who is still in the confinement period, no one cares, but she still has to find ways to pay attention to the emotions of others, try to restrain herself from getting angry with anyone, after Yinuo is out of the confinement, the first thing is to repair the relationship between husband and wife.
She happily went to the vegetable market to sell fish, wanted to make a delicious meal, and talked to Xiao Lu well, but Xiao Lu called and said that he would not go home, took Zhu Zhu to eat delicious food outside, and played the "road adventure" game together.
Xiao Lu seems to have found a new joy of life in this chicken feather life, he lies and opens his mouth, throws the child to Yinuo alone, goes out to date Zhu Zhu every day, but calls and lies to say that he has a social, but in the blink of an eye, he is seen by friends pulling and pulling on the street.
Zhu Zhu is a child of a single-parent family, her mother is too strict with her, because of the lack of fatherly love since childhood, so she liked Xiao Lu, even if Zhu Zhu did not understand things, but Xiao Lu is already an adult, and still entangled, it is not just a simple socialization, it is completely unclear.
Hehe had a high fever and called Xiao Lu, but he and Zhu Zhu did not answer the phone, the result was that the child was dropped, Yinuo and his mother helplessly took the child to the hospital in the heavy rain, Yinuo also had a mother to help her, in reality, many mothers are alone with the child, how difficult it is to imagine.
Xiao Lu's approach, there is no bit of responsibility and responsibility, cool to the extreme, such a man, it is not worth entrusting for life, but unfortunately Yinuo did not see this clearly before marriage, until he had a child to understand, but everything is too late, even if he is wronged, in order to give Hehe a complete home, until the last resort, Yinuo can not choose to divorce, which may be the sadness of marriage.
Marriage is not happy, have a child once to know
There is a saying in the original "Heart Residence": "Only when you are married, you will re-examine the people around you." People and things you think you are familiar with will be reshuffled at this moment. You will become more mature."
In fact, this kind of maturity is not a normal growth, but a kind of destruction of marriage to people, a promise of marriage, every day to endure this perverted "ripening", and men are not willing to face growth.
Whether a man is worth marrying or not, he knows if he has a child, but when it comes to the step of having a child, many things have been involuntarily, just like Yinuo, after having Hehe, no matter how asshole Xiao Lu is, no matter how difficult the mother-in-law is, no matter how speechless the little uncle is, in order to give Hehe a good growth environment, she has to endure and hide her temper.
It is said that the marriage that the parents oppose is mostly unhappy, in fact, this is not unreasonable, Yinuo's parents do not look up to Xiao Lu's family, not entirely because of her snobbish eyes, but Xiao Lu's family, in fact, is very "unbearable", it is difficult to entrust their daughters to such a family is difficult to be happy.
Xiao Lu is a child of a single-parent family, the mother Gao Caiping has no culture, raising children to "as long as you can feed can be" for the purpose, do not pay attention to the child's character education problems, so the two sons raised, a selfish and cold, only care about their own feelings, a lazy scoundrel, have reached adulthood, but also rely on the mother to take care of, but also a bunch of crooked reasoning, such a man, this life, will not have anything to do.
Looking for a boyfriend can find someone handsome and sweet, but marrying someone must look at each other's family, if the other party's relatives make you feel disgusted, then this man can not be good, his good, may be just a kind of appearance, when you see through, everything is late.
Even if he is really a phoenix flying out of the chicken nest, his "chicken" relatives cannot escape for a lifetime, just like Yinuo, even if Xiao Lu can change behind him, single-mindedly to Yinuo, his "one old and one small" will always be the burden of him and Yinuo.
The younger brother is not angry, Gao Caiping will definitely have to bear Xiao Lu after a hundred years, if Xiao Xu is such a rogue as he is now, he will definitely rely on his brother and sister-in-law to live a life, and it is almost impossible for Yinuo to live a plain life for a family of three.
Therefore, before a woman marries, she must polish her eyes, don't be like Yinuo, her brain is hot, she marries Xiao Lu despite her parents' opposition, and as a result, she pushes herself into the fire pit, regret is too late, all the pain, but also bear it herself, a lifetime for her "blindness" to pay!