My brother is terminally ill and needs her sister to donate bone marrow to survive, in this case, as a sister, are you willing to donate bone marrow?
For the vast majority of people, this problem does not need to be thought about at all, after all, the brotherhood of the hand and brotherhood is comparable to a small bone marrow.
However, in 2016, there was a case in Hunan where the sister refused to donate bone marrow to her brother to save her life, and the key person who led to the sister making this choice was actually the sister's mother-in-law.
The unfortunate sick boy named Zhang Yi was only 17 years old in 2016.
Zhang Yi is one meter eight tall, is a sunny boy, should have had a good future, unfortunately, in 2015, he was diagnosed with leukemia.
Doctors asserted at the time that zhang yi would have less than two years to live if left untreated, and that the only way to treat it was to transplant suitable bone marrow.
Usually, the most suitable bone marrow transplant for leukemia patients is his siblings, and from this point of view, Zhang Yi is lucky because his parents have a total of 3 children, and he has an older sister and a younger brother.
Zhang Yi's parents first let the younger son match, but unfortunately failed to succeed, so the family's hopes turned to the eldest daughter Zhang Ting, fortunately, Zhang Ting and younger brother Zhang Yi were successfully matched.
However, even if the matching is successful, Zhang Ting cannot immediately donate bone marrow to her brother, because she was pregnant at the time and was about to be born.
Of course, the sooner the bone marrow donation, the better, but considering Zhang Ting's physical condition, she can only donate after she gives birth to a child.
Fortunately, although Zhang Yi is seriously ill, there is still a year or so to delay, as long as Zhang Ting can donate bone marrow during this period, his younger brother Zhang Yi will have a glimmer of life.
A few months later, Zhang Ting successfully gave birth to a daughter, but just when everyone thought that she was about to donate bone marrow to her brother, a strange thing happened: Zhang Ting suddenly cut off contact with her mother's family.
What is even more strange is that in the next few months, although the daughter has not been able to contact, Zhang Ting's parents can contact the son-in-law and the family, but every time they ask about donating bone marrow, the other party claims that "Zhang Ting is not willing to donate."
The brother is seriously ill, waiting for the sister's bone marrow to save her life, but the sister has cut off contact with the mother's family, is there really a sister who can't be saved?
Zhang Yi's parents could not imagine that their daughter would be so desperate, so they decided to go to their daughter's house in person.
In early April 2016, Zhang Yi and his parents came to their sister's house, at this time, more than 8 months after Zhang Yi was diagnosed with leukemia, Zhang Yi also underwent 5 times of chemotherapy, and his hair was shaved.
In the past few months, Zhang Ting has refused to talk to her parents and brother, but when she saw the other party appear at her home, Zhang Ting did not continue to avoid, but cried out to her brother.
But even so, the mother did not forgive Zhang Ting's indifference, she asked her daughter loudly, "Why don't you contact your family, why don't you donate bone marrow to your brother." ”
Zhang Ting could not answer her mother's question, and her mouth was full of tears, and there seemed to be something difficult to say.
At this moment, Zhang Ting's mother-in-law suddenly came out of the house, and as soon as she saw her relatives, she put on an ugly face and said in a very heavy tone: "If you dare to donate bone marrow, you will get a divorce!" ”
Hearing this sentence, Zhang Ting's mother was angry, and it turned out that her daughter suddenly changed her mind, and it was the mother-in-law who obstructed it.
Donating bone marrow is not the same as donating organs, and it will not have a great negative impact on the donor's body, not to mention, the recipient is Zhang Ting's brother, as a mother-in-law, why oppose it? What right does she have to object?
Zhang Ting's mother did not understand ten thousand, but reason also told her that instead of sprinkling anger on her own mother, it was better to directly ask her daughter's attitude, after all, it was she who donated bone marrow, as long as she agreed, even if her mother-in-law objected, it would not help.
Unexpectedly, when her mother asked Zhang Ting's wishes again, she shook her head, seeing such a scene, Zhang Ting's mother collapsed, and she said on the spot: If there is something wrong with her son, she will never be able to forgive her daughter, and she will break off relations with her daughter.
Hearing her mother say this, Zhang Ting once again couldn't help but cry, she told her mother that it was not that she did not want to donate, but that her mother-in-law did not let her donate, and threatened her with "divorce".
Zhang Ting has been married to her in-laws for four years, and currently has a 3-year-old son and a 4-month-old daughter, once divorced, it means separating from her own children, which as a mother she can not accept under any circumstances.
Because of this, when the mother-in-law threatened her with divorce, Zhang Ting gave in, but she really could not face her brother's illness, so she chose not to answer the phone of her mother's family and deal with it in an "evasive" way.
After knowing the truth, Zhang Ting's mother still did not forgive her daughter, and she said very bitterly: "If you don't even save your brother, then what is the use of me giving birth to you and raising you?" After saying that, he begged his daughter to change her mind.
However, no matter how the mother pleaded, Zhang Ting was indifferent, seeing the four-month-old granddaughter in her daughter's arms, Zhang Ting's mother realized that if she wanted to save her son's life, she must first pass the pass of her daughter's mother-in-law.
Therefore, Zhang Ting's mother put down her dignity and went straight to her mother and knelt down, kneeling down while crying and shouting: "Please save my son's life!" ”
The act of the family made Zhang Ting's mother-in-law very embarrassed, she pushed with her hand, while saying: "I can't help it, two children, one 3 years old, one 4 months, Zhang Ting is gone, who will take the child?" You can't just think about yourself. ”
Zhang Ting's mother saw that she could not persuade her mother, so she could only ask her son-in-law, but the son-in-law said: he and his wife agreed to donate bone marrow, but because their mother stopped them, they could not do anything.
The implication is that the donation of bone marrow, in the final analysis, still has to be decided by Zhang Ting's mother-in-law, and if she insists on not agreeing, Zhang Ting will not be able to donate.
The statements of the daughter's son-in-law and the mother-in-law made Zhang Ting's mother cry in despair, and under the excitement, she also said a few angry words to Zhang Ting's mother-in-law.
After Zhang Ting's mother-in-law listened, she did not want to show weakness, saying that she was unreasonable, and reiterated that the prerequisite for Zhang Ting's donation of bone marrow was to divorce her son.
A person's body should be in his own hands. Zhang Ting is an adult, not to mention the mother-in-law, even if it is her biological parents, she has no right to interfere with her bone marrow donation, why does the mother-in-law choose to give in as soon as she threatens?
In fact, it is not difficult to understand that in the folk, there is a common saying that "the daughter who marries out spills out the water".
In the eyes of her mother-in-law, since Zhang Ting has married, she has become a person of the in-laws' family, and the priority of the mother's family must be ranked after the in-laws.
Therefore, the mother-in-law will feel that the raising of two children is more important than Zhang Ting's brother's illness, so she refuses to donate bone marrow to her daughter-in-law on this reason.
Rural marriage is very heavy dowry, perhaps when Zhang Ting got married, the in-laws had come up with a large dowry, which will further encourage the arrogance of the mother-in-law to interfere with the daughter-in-law's donation of bone marrow.
Due to the strength of Zhang Ting's mother-in-law, zhang Yi and his parents could not achieve the purpose of this trip, and this result, for 17-year-old Zhang Yi, meant death.
But the strange thing is that Zhang Yi actually did not blame his sister, seeing that the two sides were arguing about donating bone marrow, Zhang Yi also deliberately pulled his sister to the side to talk.
He told his sister that after being ill for several months, everything wanted to open up, and even if his illness could not be cured, he did not want to see his sister divorce for him.
Zhang Yi and Zhang Ting have lived together for more than ten years, the feelings of the sisters and brothers were originally very deep, and now the brother said such words in person, Zhang Ting's emotions were out of control on the spot, she suddenly became strong, and said in front of her mother-in-law: No matter what, she will save her brother's life.
Hearing his wife's statement, Zhang Ting's husband also hurried to persuade his mother, saying that the child could not go without a mother, and he must not let him divorce Zhang Ting because Zhang Ting donated bone marrow.
Perhaps it was the son's defection that softened Zhang Ting's mother-in-law's attitude, and although she was very unwilling, she finally promised not to threaten her daughter-in-law with divorce again.
With the words of her mother-in-law, Zhang Ting finally put her mind at ease, and the problems that had been in her heart for several months had finally been solved.
There's a saying that goes: the ass decides the head.
Zhang Ting's mother cares more about her son, so she is very angry about her daughter's change of attitude; while Zhang Ting's mother-in-law only cares about her grandchildren, so she will prevent her daughter-in-law from donating bone marrow.
Their approach is understandable in all reasonableness.
The most pitiful is Zhang Ting, on the one hand is her brother, on the other hand is her own children, giving up either side, she is not willing to accept.
Therefore, there is reason to believe that in the few months when she broke off contact with her mother's family, Zhang Ting must have experienced countless sufferings, and this kind of suffering may also be encountered by many daughters-in-law.