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Life must be hard work, but also to know enough, everything can not be forced. For ordinary people, the family is safe, healthy and healthy, which is already happiness, and people cannot be too greedy.
When parents face their children's marriage events, they must guide them correctly and create conditions for them, while at the same time respecting their wishes. As long as the children like it and the two people are truly in love with each other, the parents should not interfere too much, and other family members should not take care of it.
Marriage is a kind of thing to talk about fate, there are thousands of miles to meet, no reason to meet each other. So a couple of men and women are bound together, which is a very beautiful thing and should be blessed. As for the economic conditions of both men and women, this is not a particularly important matter, after all, money can be earned.
02
The daughter-in-law's family is too poor, the eldest sister has always looked down on her, and the daughter-in-law is very aggrieved. One day, the daughter-in-law bought a pair of pants for her mother-in-law, and the eldest sister felt that it was too cheap and fell for half a day, and the mother-in-law was so angry that she said to the eldest sister: "What about you, these pants were bought for me, I like it!" ”
This is something that happened in Tang Ziyi's family, when Tang Ziyi and her husband fell in love, the eldest sister was obstructed in every way, just because tang Ziyi's mother's family conditions were too poor. Fortunately, the husband and in-laws are not concerned, and after marriage, they are very good to Tang Ziyi, which makes Tang Ziyi feel very warm.
Self-narrator: Tang Ziyi
Age: 30 years old
Occupation: Garment factory worker
City: Zunhua
03
My husband and I met at a friend's house, and that day I went to a friend's house to play, and my husband was a classmate of my friend's brother, and he happened to be at a friend's house, and we both met. Later, my husband came after me, saying that he fell in love with me at first sight and wanted to fall in love with me. After he chased me for a while, I was moved!
When my husband and I were in love, I told him that the conditions in my family were not good. My father was sick, unable to work, and had to take medicine all year round. My mom works as a cleaner in a property company, my brother drives a car, and I'm just a female worker in a garment factory.
My husband didn't care at all, he said he just liked me as a person, and other conditions didn't matter. After we were both in love for half a year, he took me home to meet his parents, and I learned that my eldest sister introduced him to a girl with good conditions, but he refused for me.
When I arrived at my husband's house that day, my in-laws were very kind to me and welcomed me very warmly. But the eldest sister was cold to me and spoke very unfriendly, and I didn't know what was going on. Later, I asked my husband, is it because my eldest sister doesn't like me? The husband said that the eldest sister helped him introduce the object.
My husband also told me that my eldest sister had been divorced and had remarried the year before, and that the remarried husband's family had opened a factory and that the family conditions were very good. The eldest sister's husband is also divorced, and he and his ex-wife have two sons, both with him.
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The husband felt that the eldest sister had no status in the in-laws' family, because she couldn't have a child if she wanted to. The brother-in-law was afraid that if he had another child, the eldest sister would be bad for his two sons, so he firmly disagreed with the regeneration of one. The husband said that the eldest sister was interested in the brother-in-law's family having money and was going for the money.
When the eldest sister remarried, the in-laws did not approve of it, and the mother-in-law also quarreled with the eldest sister. In-laws are all people who do their duty, and they don't want to climb the rich family, but the eldest sister loves vanity.
Later, my husband and I got married, and after marriage, I lived with my in-laws, and both my husband and in-laws were very kind to me. Every time my mother's family has an affair, my husband always goes with me to deal with it, and my in-laws have no opinion. But the eldest sister felt that I was dragging down the in-laws' family, it was always difficult to hear, and I was very wronged.
The year after I got married, I gave birth to a son and the family was overjoyed! My mother-in-law quit her job and took care of me and my children at home, taking care of our mother and son comfortably. After my maternity leave, the child was taken by my mother-in-law alone, and I am very grateful to her.
Half a year later, a batch of pants produced in our unit, because the order was cancelled in foreign trade, the boss reduced the price. I bought two pairs of women's pants, one for my mother and the other for my mother-in-law, and I wanted to show my heart.
05
After I took my pants home, just as my eldest sister came back to her mother's house, she saw her mother-in-law trying on the pants I bought for her, and she looked at her with contempt. My mother-in-law was very happy, saying that the pants fit very well, and praised me for my good vision, and I was also very happy.
But the eldest sister poured cold water, saying that the daughter-in-law bought pants for her mother-in-law, how can such cheap pants be taken? I was suddenly embarrassed, which seemed to the big sister to be a bargain, but it was also a good pants in my opinion. My income is not allowed to go to the big shopping mall to buy brand-name pants for my mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law told me not to pay attention to my eldest sister, she has always been like this, if you want to take her seriously, you will be angry. I ignored my eldest sister and went to do housework, and my mother-in-law went to take care of the children. But the eldest sister still counted down, repeatedly suspecting that the pants were of low grade, and the more I listened, the more sad I became.
Later, the mother-in-law became angry, and she yelled at the eldest sister: "How about these pants, what about you!" Ziyi bought it for me, as long as I like it. You're rich, and I haven't seen you buy me anything good!" You have time to chew your tongue here, so you might as well do something serious..."
After the eldest sister was scolded by her mother-in-law, she felt bored, and then went back to her own house in a gray and slippery way. I am very grateful to my mother-in-law, she is a very sensible mother-in-law, always maintain my feelings.
epilogue:
What is happiness? It's something very subjective, and different people have different standards. Some people define happiness by enjoying a material life, and if the material conditions are good, that is happiness; if the material conditions are not good, it is unhappy.
But there are other people who define happiness in terms of spiritual life, and they feel that the spiritual life is good, that is happiness. Tang Ziyi's eldest sister pursues a material life, and she feels that if she has money, she will be happy, so after marrying a rich man, her sense of superiority exploded.
In fact, there is more money and more money, and there is less money and less money. Many things are not necessarily expensive, the daughter-in-law buys a pair of pants for the mother-in-law, which is heavy on affection, and it is the daughter-in-law's heart. The eldest sister is constantly disgusted and counted because she thinks that the pants are too cheap, and the daughter-in-law will of course be unhappy.
Fortunately, the mother-in-law is a clear person, not blindly defending her daughter, but taking into account the feelings of her daughter-in-law. Because the mother-in-law can carry it clearly and does not look down on the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law will honor the mother-in-law, so the family will be happy.
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