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Most women will automatically choose the division of labor within the female protagonist and the male protagonist after entering the marriage. This model is not wrong in the past, in the past, everyone only wanted to survive, and could only divide the work in this way to take care of the career and family.
But now it is different, the standard of living has improved, survival is no longer a problem, and what remains is the quality of life. Many men, in order to pursue a material life and want to get better development, tend to ignore the women who pay silently behind their backs.
This is what we often say: when a man has money, he becomes bad.
And what we are going to tell today is a story about men who have money and become bad.
A couple who have been married for 25 years, after years of working together, finally made their career bigger and stronger, and their lives have improved. Just when the wife thought that she could be rich and safe, she found that her husband had changed his heart and was ambiguous with other women outside.
After the wife discovered her husband's secret, the husband chose to escape again and again, trying to drag things on. I don't want to explain the reasons for this, nor do I want to give any explanation.
Is it true that the wife of the chaff can only share the suffering and cannot share the same happiness?
Let's take a look.
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01 Secrets in Alipay
When a woman ignores herself, loves a man too much, and forgets to love herself, she will give the man the illusion that he can be more at ease without you.
As a woman, you must learn to spend money on yourself, because no one wants to slowly appreciate your interesting soul through your sloppy appearance. Especially for couples after marriage, men who have been watching you for decades will produce video fatigue.
On this day, the program team received a request for help from a middle-aged woman, claiming that she had discovered the secret of her husband's cheating, but no matter how she asked, her husband just wouldn't admit it, so she wanted to use the help of the media to solve the contradiction between husband and wife.
The program team that received the request for help, with the equipment, came to the place where the woman agreed to meet.
Seeing the arrival of the reporter, the woman claimed to be Cao Xiuying, 42 years old, and her husband was named Chen Zhizhong, who was the same age as her this year, and the two had been together for 25 years.
Cao Xiuying told reporters that when she and Chen Zhizhong were just together, the other party was just a poor boy in the countryside, and the family was poor and white, and even a decent dress could not afford to buy.
After 25 years of hard work, the house and car are readily available, and the couple has become the envy of everyone to get rich, and now there is a factory building covering an area of more than 1,000 square meters. Cao Xiuying said as she led the reporter to her family's bed factory.
From the lens, you can see that this is a modern bed factory, and after the reporter saw such a large factory, he couldn't help but praise Cao Xiuying, and her face was immediately full of pride. It can be seen that Cao Xiuying is still very satisfied with the current achievements.
Cao Xiuying said that the beds produced by her family are sold all over the country, and they are one of the richest families in the local area, and even their relatives and friends around them are envious.
This originally rich and well-off family, until two months ago, Cao Xiuying accidentally discovered in her husband's mobile phone Alipay, that her husband had been in contact with a mysterious woman who had been remarked as a wife. Subsequently, the information inside shocked Cao Xiuying.
When it came to this, Cao Xiuying took out a bunch of chat record papers that had been printed in advance and showed them to reporters.
Through the screen, we can see that in addition to some chat information, there are many large transfer records, the lowest transfer record is 1314, followed by the birthday greeting transfer 5200, more is one to twenty thousand transfer records, followed by the husband to ask each other to buy things casually chat words.
After reading this information, the reporter immediately said that there will be no misunderstanding between the two of them, maybe it is just a business partner, and the money is just a business transaction.
Cao Xiuying immediately got angry when she heard it, saying that everyone is not a child anymore and understands what the meaning of these numbers for transfer is. And after she learned about this matter, she also asked her husband many times what these transfers meant, but the other party just kept avoiding and did not answer her once, which caused her to be worried for two months.
Then Cao Xiuying also told reporters that she also found her husband singing love songs with the woman on her husband's mobile phone.
In contrast, over the years, Cao Xiuying has not even received a red envelope of 520 yuan from her husband, nor has she sung a song with her husband once, which is a huge contrast between the previous and the latter, which makes her sad. Although husband and wife are still in the same roof, it is rare to say a few words a day. And over time, her husband's practices have intensified.
Cao Xiuying said that after she found out about this matter, her husband became more and more unkind, often going out in the name of talking about business, and once he went out, he did not return for several days and nights, and never reported to her, which was not before.
Could it be that Cao Xiuying's husband, Chen Zhizhong, who is estranged from the family, is really influenced by this mysterious woman in Alipay? The reporter decided to ask her husband for clarification first.
02 Silent
Chen Zhizhong saw his wife arrive with the program team, did not say hello, and his attitude seemed a little cold.
As soon as Cao Xiuying saw her husband's indifferent attitude, she took the printed Alipay information and questioned him loudly, hoping to get a clear reply from her husband, but Chen Zhizhong let his wife accuse and was unwilling to say more.
Chen Zhizhong explained that the woman known as his wife was actually an ordinary friend of his, and he set this note just as a joke.
But an ordinary friend, why did Chen Zhizhong still hide from his wife and chat with Alipay TEXT messages?
As soon as Cao Xiuying heard her husband say that it was just a joke, she immediately angrily said: Joke? Who doesn't know what it means to transfer 1314 and 5200? Still note the wife? We haven't divorced yet, you're so quick to find one out there? ...
Cao Xiuying pointed out that her husband transferred 5200 yuan and 1314 yuan for this mysterious woman, and it was absolutely impossible to send such a sensitive amount of money with this woman, just an ordinary friend relationship. She constantly complained to reporters that it was nothing more than her husband's lies, and she was crying uncontrollably.
As soon as the reporter saw this picture, he immediately said to Chen Zhizhong that this number is really a bit too ambiguous, and people will inevitably think of other places.
As soon as Chen Zhizhong heard this, he immediately said that the money was just the money borrowed from the woman before, and now it was just returned to others, not at all what his wife thought.
But such an explanation is ultimately unconvincing.
Seeing her husband's evasive attitude, Cao Xiuying's emotions also became excited, and she immediately asked her husband to take out the IOU for borrowing money and send out the woman's transfer record to see. And said that her husband deliberately avoided his private chat on Alipay, that is, he had come together with this woman.
As a result, Chen Zhizhong changed his mouth to say that he borrowed it in person, and at that time, there was only a verbal agreement, and there was no note to record anything, so now he couldn't get these out.
In this way, Chen Zhizhong fell silent again, no matter how Cao Xiuying said and scolded him, he did not pay attention, just from the beginning of lying down, to the end of sitting up. For Cao Xiuying's scolding, Chen Zhizhong's face was a little dismissive, and the corners of his mouth were slightly raised, as if he was watching a play there.
However, just when Cao Xiuying was nagging and talking endlessly next to him, Chen Zhizhong pulled the reporter to say the reason why he did not dare to say more. He pointed to the scars on his face and hands, saying that it was his wife who hurt him with her hands and even scissors, and he did not dare to argue with his wife, because he was afraid that her wife would hurt him again.
In the face of her husband's statement, Cao Xiuying was very angry, claiming that these were all excuses that her husband was looking for in order to escape her mistakes. Seeing that her husband did not argue too much with herself, Cao Xiuying showed the reporter a photo of her youth.
The yellowed old photographs record the passage of time and also freeze Cao Xiuying's young and beautiful appearance. As can be seen from the photos, Cao Xiuying at that time was like a female star in a Hong Kong movie, with a tight posture and a smile.
Cao Xiuying said that when she was young, there were more than a dozen suitors at most, including many young men with superior family backgrounds and handsome looks, but for their pursuit, Cao Xiuying felt that her education level was not enough, so she rejected them one by one, until the appearance of chen Zhizhong, who was not proud of her appearance.
Although Chen Zhizhong's appearance is mediocre and his family is not good, his honesty and calmness have deeply touched Cao Xiuying. Marrying someone to marry an honest person, this is Cao Xiuying's love creed, under the unremitting pursuit of Chen Zhizhong, the two finally came together.
Cao Xiuying said that over the years, whether in the family or career, she has done her best to help her husband, who has changed from a poor boy to a big boss today. Originally, everything in the family developed according to the formal, but with the appearance of the mysterious woman in this Alipay, the warmth of the family was completely broken.
For her husband to accuse himself of being suspicious, Cao Xiuying denied it. In her opinion, the husband had a family and a room, and he still had frequent contacts with the woman, and even had no home for several consecutive days, that is, he came together with the woman.
In order to verify this matter, under the persuasion of the reporter, Cao Xiuying and her husband wanted to call the woman and called each other.
As soon as the other party answered the phone, he immediately told Cao Xiuying that she was also a victim. At the beginning of her acquaintance with Chen Zhizhong, she was deceived by Chen Zhizhong and did not know about her family, so she also belonged to the beginning of free love. It wasn't until later that Chen Zhizhong often told her to go home to see her son that she didn't know that she was a third party.
The woman on the other end of the phone went on to say that although she now knew about Chen Zhizhong's family situation, she did not want to continue to be with him, and the reason why she was now in contact with Chen Zhizhong was because Chen Zhizhong owed her money.
For the woman's statement, Cao Xiuying angrily retorted that if it was only a loan relationship, then she could completely come to find her own theory, why should she call her husband husband in Alipay? Then Cao Xiuying warned the woman, hoping that she would not break up her family and be able to take the initiative to quit.
However, when it came to this, the other party showed an ambiguous attitude and refused to promise to cut off contact with Chen Zhizhong. After the warning was fruitless, Cao Xiuying decided to find her husband again to theorize.
03 began to drift
Women, more importantly, learn to elevate themselves inside, become attractive, and radiate brilliance. Although women are pleasing to themselves, in fact, whether it is for men or only for themselves, these are necessary.
When they met again, Chen Zhizhong finally admitted that in fact, he had come together with the woman.
As soon as she heard her husband admit it, Cao Xiuying immediately told the reporter that since she found out about this matter, she had forgiven Chen Zhizhong again and again, but the other party was a dog, could not change eating, promised not to go today, and immediately revealed the prototype in a few days, and secretly ran out to live outside for a few days.
And looking at his wife saying this about himself, Chen Zhizhong didn't care about it, and at the moment, compared to making a break with the woman, he even expressed his hope for divorce.
Why did Cao Xiuying's once honest and considerate husband now become such a cold and determined decision? At this time, Cao Xiuying said a detail.
Cao Xiuying said that after her husband became the boss, her pursuit of materials became higher and higher, and she often bought hundreds of thousands of yuan of brand shoes, while she herself was only willing to buy promotional shoes for dozens of yuan online. And in recent years, the family has made money by opening a factory, and her husband has also purchased more than 400,000 SUV luxury cars, put on expensive brand clothing, and is prominent in front of people, but at home, her husband is reluctant to take out a few thousand dollars to decorate the house.
Speaking of this time, Cao Xiuying took reporters to visit her current home.
As you can see from the picture, the house is still the same old house as before, there is no decoration, the furniture is very old, even the stove for cooking is still a cement stove. In terms of electrical appliances, there are only simple home appliances such as refrigerators, and there are not too many other modern home appliances, which are not at all like the homes of big bosses, but like ordinary rural families.
Cao Xiuying and reporters said that since her husband bought a luxury car, he felt that he was very remarkable, and his face was often full of confidence. Coupled with the fact that there may be a few women who like him (or they may just like his money), it is even more important to think that he is very strong and begins to get lost.
Cao Xiuying believes that after more than 20 years of marriage, she has always adhered to the concept of thrift and thrift, and has never changed, but the difference is that her husband has gradually lost himself after becoming the boss and driving a luxury car. Coming together with the woman is actually just a microcosm of the husband's pursuit of fame and vanity over the years.
At this time, Chen Zhonghua also followed the program group, and after Cao Xiuying saw her husband, she accused her again, saying that Chen Zhizhong had never regarded her as his own person, just like he was a free nanny, and now he wanted to divorce, thinking that she could not help much.
In Cao Xiuying's view, her husband is now rich and wants to abandon her as a bad wife. Speaking of this, Cao Xiuying is even more sad.
Cao Xiuying counted the difficulties of marrying her husband over the years, and she couldn't understand how she had suffered with her husband for 25 years, but she was no better than a woman she had just met and gave her husband more than a year of tender township.
Chen Zhizhong said that his wife has a strong personality and is harsh on him, and he rarely feels his wife's warmth at home in recent years, coupled with his commitment to making the business bigger and stronger over the years, while his wife is small and rich, and the concept of discord has led to a more and more cold relationship.
Just a year ago, Chen Zhizhong met a woman who was also doing business. In Chen Zhizhong's eyes, this woman is empathetic, the same as her own interests, the two were together for more than a year, Chen Zhizhong once again experienced the feeling of love.
So now, can Chen Zhizhong finally review his own problems, and where will this marriage that has gone through twists and turns go?
04 Eating from the bowl, thinking about the pot
In order to resolve the contradiction between the two as soon as possible, the program team decided to let the mediator come to the door to mediate for both parties.
At the beginning of the mediation, Cao Xiuying said that she had always been tolerant of her husband, and as long as her husband and the woman broke off contact and returned to the family, she would not blame the past.
But she gave her husband a chance again and again, but he disappointed her again and again, and now she could no longer believe her husband.
As for his wife's complaint, Chen Zhizhong did not make a statement. In response to Chen Zhizhong's evasive attitude, the mediator immediately persuaded.
The mediator pointed out that the sons of Chen Zhizhong and his wife are now in a period of adolescent rebellion, and Chen Zhizhong's rebellious family behavior not only caused indelible harm to his wife, but also caused a huge negative impact on the future growth of the child.
For the sake of the child's future life, he should take on the responsibility of being a father, seriously reflect and correct his mistakes, and strive to minimize the impact of the distribution on the child.
At this time, Chen Zhizhong's attitude was relaxed, and he said that he had something to say to the mediator alone.
Until this moment, Chen Zhizhong finally realized that he had an unshirkable responsibility for this family conflict, when he had broken through the moral bottom line because of a momentary vanity impulse, and now this practice has deeply hurt his wife and family, and he still loves his wife and does not want to leave the family.
The mediator suggested that Chen Zhizhong should admit his mistake as soon as possible and save the current marital crisis.
Just when everyone thought that Chen Zhizhong could realize his mistake and turn back to the shore, he was still deeply involved in the relationship with the woman and could not extricate himself.
Perhaps at this moment, he only thinks of the sweetness brought to him by love, but he does not seriously think about the responsibility and responsibility that he should have as a husband and a father.
Cao Xiuying said that her husband must give her a clear answer today, and Chen Zhizhong's answer is still in a few days. It is precisely because of his long-term hesitant attitude that the gap between husband and wife has become deeper and deeper.
When the stalemate could not be reached, Chen Zhizhong claimed that something was wrong and got up to leave.
For her husband's sudden departure from the table, Cao Xiuying did not come forward to ask questions, and at this moment she was completely disappointed in her husband. In the end, Cao Xiuying decided to divorce Chen Zhizhong.
As the saying goes, the wife of the chaff cannot be abandoned, and no matter how rich we are, we cannot abandon the person who is willing to start from scratch with us.
In this marriage, Cao Xiuying's biggest mistake is to ignore herself. In the eyes of men, it is very tiring to work outside, it is he who supports the family alone, but he ignores the value of women's contributions in the family, and has never thought of respecting women's efforts.
But marriage is a big tree that requires two people to run together, and from the moment of marriage, the two are bound together.
Sunshine, rain, dew, air and water are indispensable, with these things can make the tree take root deeper, in order to resist the wind and rain, and produce fruitful fruits.
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