Many netizens have recently discussed hotly, saying that they are more and more discovered, counting on raising children to prevent aging is not a play at all, if you want to really want children for "anti-aging", then after you are old, 80% of your hopes have failed.
Indeed, in the daily news reports, we have seen many reports of people who have been insulted by their children in public, and those who are careful to please their children at home and only promise... One by one, it seems to be very pitiful, making people think that parents have raised their children for so many years than raising white-eyed wolves.
But in fact, if you carefully investigate the way they have educated their children in the past, it will be clear why children who grow up in the palm of their hands are becoming less and less filial. Families whose children are not filial piety especially love such education, hurry up and see if you are also recruited!
1. Parents spoil their children too much
Most of the children now are the treasures of the family, plus the current conditions are good, the general children have any requirements, the elders will try their best to meet; on the contrary, if the children have made any mistakes, they are scolded by their parents, and the grandparents will immediately run to protect the children.
If the child has been the bully in the family for a long time, and the family has always responded to him, then the child in this educational environment naturally does not understand the mood of others, only blindly asks, and when the elders are old, they do not know how to care and take care.
2. Be too strict with your child
For example, the opposite case of over-spoiling children is that some parents hate iron and steel, in order for their children to become talented as soon as possible, these parents are particularly strict about their children's education, and they are not allowed to do this and that in ordinary life, which is very limited to children's thinking and life.
Too strict an environment, so that the child's personality becomes more and more rebellious after entering puberty. They long for freedom, so they use extreme methods to work against their parents and elders, and over time, it is difficult for children to listen to their parents, and naturally their relationship with their parents becomes estranged.
How can parents educate and guide them to promote the relationship between the two generations and let their children learn to care for others?
1. Respect the child's personality development
It is understandable that parents want their children to become talented, but they cannot be forced to make their children what they think they are. Each child has their own personality, are unique, in order to allow children to develop a healthy personality, parents should know how to teach according to their aptitude.
Therefore, the premise of teaching children is to respect their individuality, perhaps they do not do well in cultural classes, but their artistic cells are beyond ordinary people. At this time, parents must learn from each other's strengths and teach according to their aptitudes, and they cannot blindly think that the useless interest in painting music will affect the learning of the curriculum, so they are forced to blindly strengthen the study of cultural courses.
2. Communicate with children equally
Parents can not be the parents of their children, just educate their children in a lofty posture, and the best way to communicate with children is to be their children's friends. With an equal and respectful attitude, discuss with the child, and on family matters, you can also invite the child to jointly advise.
3. Set a good example for your child
If parents want their children to be sensible and filial, then parents, as children, must be filial to their elders. In this way, the child will see it in his eyes and remember it in his heart. Naturally, they feel that gratitude and reciprocity are normal. Therefore, on the issue of children's education, how parents can set a good example for their children is the key.
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