Parents hope that their children can grow into a lively and cheerful, confident and generous child, but do not know why, the child in the crowd is becoming more and more twisted, shy, and the self-confidence of falling generous is too far away.
No parent wants to raise a child with low self-esteem, which may be related to the way of education or the environment in which it is grown, but many parents are difficult to detect. In fact, if parents can find out the child's "inferiority" emotions in time and guide them as soon as possible, they can still cultivate their children into confident children.
How do parents find their children's feelings of "inferiority"? If the child has the following 5 obvious details, it shows that the child is very "inferior" in his heart, and parents should guide it as soon as possible.
1. Be sensitive to other people's words
If a child has low self-esteem, he will be very sensitive to the words of others, such as a careless word when the teacher criticizes the child, which may cause great harm to the child's psychology. Especially when others refuse their own requests, such as borrowing something, they will feel that the other party is rejecting themselves.
2, do not dare to try new things
For new things, confident children will be very brave to try, because they are not afraid of failure, and they are not afraid of being compared. Children with low self-esteem will be afraid of new things and dare not try, because once they fail, they will feel ridiculed and compared.
3, do not dare to express their own views
When the teacher asks questions in the classroom, many students will scramble to answer the questions, but some students will try their best to lower their heads for fear that the teacher will see their own questions, even if they have good answers in their own hearts, but out of lack of confidence in themselves, and even fear that they will not say well, they will not dare to take the initiative to express their views.
4, outside to encourage the home horizontal
If your child has this situation, in addition to the fear of birth, there is also a possibility that it is more inferior. Under the feeling of inferiority, it is more sensitive and timid on the outside, afraid of being laughed at by others, but at home it is a different look, because the negative emotions accumulated in the outside area will be revealed first in the places where they are familiar, and the temper will be grumpy and arrogant when they are at home.
5, always like to pick other people's faults
Some children will like to judge others and criticize others for no reason, in fact, this is also a manifestation of inferiority. Because the inferior child lacks an inner sense of security, he must form a "protection mechanism" on the outside, which requires him to deny others to affirm himself and "protect" himself from being hurt by others.
If the above 5 points are available to your children, it means that the child has been relatively inferior in his heart, and the guidance of parents is very critical, and give parents two suggestions.
Tip 1: Help children understand themselves more comprehensively and objectively
For children's inferiority, most of them are because the child's cognition of themselves is not comprehensive, and the heart is more negative about themselves, including appearance, IQ and ability, they are very unconfident in themselves, and the reason for this lack of confidence is generally derived from the parents' cognition of the child.
If parents always criticize and accuse children, then the child's cognition of themselves is negative, which will make the child fall into an inferiority complex. If parents always encourage and praise their children, although the children will be confident, they will inevitably make the children too conceited.
Therefore, parents should help their children to fully and objectively understand themselves, do not be stingy in praise in good places, and do not dare to speak up in bad places, and let children know more about themselves, so that their personality will be of good help.
Tip 2: Help your child build their own value system
In addition to the reason why children have low self-esteem, they are not clear about themselves, but also because they care too much about the views of others, their own judgment is not enough, and they are easily affected by others. If the parent can help the child build his value system, the child can judge everything around him very well, know how true and how much is false in other people's words, and be able to distinguish whether others are looking at jokes or giving sincere opinions.
When the child has his own correct value system, his judgment will become stronger, he will not care so much about the judgment of others, he will not become sensitive and suspicious because of the words of others, and his self-confidence will become stronger and stronger.
Children in the process of growing up, always have to suffer a lot of discussion, sometimes other people's malicious remarks, is likely to crush the child's fragile self-confidence, parents can not always protect the child, but can give the child to resist the "protective cover" of bad words, so that the child's self-confidence is not hurt, always confident and free.