As the saying goes, "Women chase men across the yarn, and men chase women across mountains." ”
We often discuss the topic of older leftover women, in fact, the number of older leftover men around us is also increasing, and in the relationship between the sexes, there are many men who encounter such problems.
1, in the face of the beloved girl, overwhelmed?
2, has been pursuing, but the girl does not agree, and even avoids him.
3, watch the beloved girl become someone else's girlfriend.
So how to quickly eat a woman, to learn the "law of interpersonal interaction".
What is the Interpersonal Interaction Effect?
The law of interpersonal interaction refers to the law of interpersonal interaction in which the other party gives the other party a reward or favor, and the other party produces the effect of corresponding reward and grace exchange.
This law of interaction can be positive and positive, or it can be negative or negative, and you love others to gain the love of others.
The law of interpersonal similarity
When one party wants to pursue the other, it can't be too abrupt, especially for women, who care about the gentlemanly demeanor of men.
In fact, every woman has a strong psychological defense in her heart, and only when they slowly let go of their psychological defenses and gain a sense of security to a certain extent can they truly accept a person.
So getting to know someone is a prerequisite for you to have a good feeling for each other, and for most women, they prefer that their beloved person be an interesting soul that can coincide with themselves.
Psychologists believe that the same and similar factors in the ideological concepts and social life of people can make the two sides attract each other.
For a simple example, if this girl usually loves to read, her overall life is literary and artistic, then what you have to do is to enrich yourself with cultural knowledge or when you contact her, to understand more about some literary content, to be able to talk with her, will establish a good relationship.
Shakespeare said: "Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, nor a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." ”
The law of interpersonal complementarity
Psychologist Freud believed that there is a strong attraction between people, and as long as the two sides can meet each other's needs, they will produce a strong interpersonal attraction. We often say that men are in love with their eyes, women are in love with their ears, and most women will be fascinated by men's romantic words, on the one hand, these words can meet women's psychological needs, on the other hand, they will also establish a strong spiritual pillar for women.
This is also related to the insecurity of most of the women we mentioned above, and these words, these promises can just make women satisfied.
First of all, men should not only be giants in language, be able to give women corresponding commitments, but also give women enough security in behavior to make them pay and perform their duties.
When he needs you to help him in time, often some boys think that as long as they meet the material needs of women, it is enough, in fact, this is far from enough, if you want a woman to really fall in love with you, you have to act as her spiritual pillar, to be able to act as the reliance she needs, you have to learn to protect her in any small matter, to patiently give her comfort.
The law of interpersonal pleasure
Tagore said, "If you love her, let your love envelop her like sunshine and give her freedom." ”
The emotional harmony and mutual liking between people can strengthen the mutual attraction between people.
The premise for a man to eat a woman is that she doesn't have any resistance to you and has a good impression.
Men should actively maintain their image in women's hearts, respect each other in behavior, and let her think that you are a personable woman.
Any emotional relationship is mutual investment, one sentient and one unintentional, then such a relationship is also fruitless.
Every time a man and your beloved woman are in close contact, it is necessary to actively maintain the relationship between the two of you in order to be able to emotionally establish a close distance to each other.
To give a simple example, you can become her friend, then her good friend, and finally become her boyfriend, so that the relationship will progress layer by layer, and the emotional relationship will be stronger.
Many times, the reason why some men can't chase after the woman they love has a lot to do with his own behavior, and the ways and methods he uses to pursue women, and more importantly, because the current woman has not opened her heart to him, nor has she let down her psychological defenses, so no matter what he does, he can't get into his heart.
So you have to do it another way to achieve an interaction in the emotional relationship between you, in order to achieve a more intimate distance.
Any relationship is not a single, but a common result of both parties, and if men want to eat a woman, they must use their hearts to manage the relationship, to understand each other, to meet each other, and then to enter each other's hearts.
References: Psychology of Love, Partial Psychology