When I was young, I liked to play games, and when Plants vs. Zombies first came out, I stayed in front of the computer almost every day, and I couldn't even eat food.
At that time, my mother always said that I was addicted to games, like an addict, and I couldn't get excited if I didn't play games.
If a thing can bring us a different feeling, and gradually get used to this feeling in the subtle, it will be addictive and inseparable.
From another point of view, if we analyze it, in fact, we like a thing very much, after all, if we don't like it, we don't even bother to implement the contact, how can we spend time to continue to understand?
So, in a relationship between the sexes, if we like someone very much, or if the other person likes us, then over time, the other party will form a sense of spiritual dependence, commonly known as addiction.
For women, being able to make men addicted to themselves also means they are men's soul mates.
Psychological research shows that these are the reasons why men are addicted to you, don't believe it.
You can bring different warmth to each other
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" has always been a full-time wife and does not know anything about work.
Therefore, when Chen Junsheng was upset all day in the face of work matters, Luo Zijun did not know what to do, and even comforted him.
Later, Ling Ling, who had a similar experience, appeared, she comforted Chen Junsheng, and suddenly gave the other party a different warmth, and slowly, Chen Junsheng's inner emotional balance tilted to Ling Ling.
Luo Zijun was a school flower-level figure, and his figure was particularly good, which was incomparable to Ling Ling.
The fundamental reason why she lost to Ling Ling is that Ling Ling provides a warmth that Luo Zijun cannot provide, and warmth is the easiest to eat into a person's heart.
Why do we always emphasize finding a soul mate?
That's because soul mates can provide each other with warmth that no one else can give.
As the novelist Jandy Nelson puts it: "Meeting a soul mate is like walking into a house where you once lived, and if you fall into darkness in that house, you'll still be able to walk around freely." ”
You have irreplaceable value in yourself
In the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", in order to protect Zhen Huan, the emperor joined forces with Zhen Huan to perform a drama of fighting for the wind and jealousy, and then pretended to be "house arrested" in Penglaizhou under full anger.
In order to perform the play, the emperor did not go to see Zhen Huan for a long time, during which time An Lingrong accompanied the emperor.
Once, when the emperor was reviewing the recital, he casually lamented the wisdom of his ancestors who "worried and worried before the world, and enjoyed the world after the world".
When the emperor said this, he essentially hoped that An Lingrong could discuss with himself, but An Lingrong did not understand these things, and could only say awkwardly, "The emperor has said so much, he is thirsty, drink some water." ”
In this regard, the emperor was very helpless, saying that if Zhen Huan was by his side at this time, he would definitely discuss with himself, and among the three thousand people in the harem, only Zhen Huan could understand herself.
It can be seen that no matter how good a person looks, if he does not have irreplaceable value, he will be easily replaced by others.
The heart of love of beauty, everyone has it, and everyone will like good-looking things.
But there is no shortage of good-looking people in the world, and if a person has an empty watch, then it is no different from a vase that is not used in the middle.
Therefore, if we want to make a man addicted to himself, we need to enhance our intrinsic value and make ourselves incomparable and irreplaceable.
You are able to provide unparalleled comfort and ease to each other
When the matter of love is not handled properly, it will also fall into a misunderstanding.
This misunderstanding is that women will feel that in a relationship, they are the one who is loved, and since they are loved, then the other party should revolve around themselves.
No matter what you say, you are right, the other party is to unconditionally meet all your requirements, as soon as you are unhappy, the other party will coax yourself, and if you are angry, you will break up.
Although it is said that in a relationship, good love will turn a person into a child and do whatever he wants, this does not mean selfishness and ego, nor does it mean never considering the feelings of men.
Just like when we run eight hundred, when we see the end, we will have motivation, but the end point is getting farther and farther away from us, we run and run, we are exhausted, there is no expectation, how can we continue to move forward?
If a person takes the initiative for a long time, he will be tired, and love will lose its distance and measure, and it will go into decay.
Keigo Higashino has this description in "People with Masks": "The guests of our hotel are all wearing masks, a mask called "guest", and we should never try to unmask them." ”
Love is the result of a two-way rush, two people go forward together, remember each other, give comfort and a sense of ease, can make each other mentally dependent on themselves.