When we are young, the most important thing in our lives is not love, but friendship, two people have endless hearts, go to many places together, fight together, and even promise to be together all the time.
However, as I walked, I found that my friends who had nothing to say had not met for a long time, and there were fewer words, and it seemed very awkward to meet, and I didn't know where to start.
But obviously it was so good before, why did it suddenly become so strange, as if she had never appeared in your life, as if none of your past existed.
It is said that love is fickle, why is the relationship between friends so difficult?
In fact, there are only two reasons.
Not a one-way street after all
It is said that Lu Yao knows the horsepower for a long time, and two people may initially have a good feeling for each other because of a small matter, and feel that the other party is reliable and suitable for being friends.
So I walked around slowly, but as I made contact, the deeper I got to know each other, I might disagree on many issues.
It may be better to be able to communicate and resolve the feelings in time, but if it is some principled discord, the gap between the two people will become larger.
In the end, there was no way to continue to communicate, and it was naturally strange.
Recently watched "The Biography of Zhen Huan" and deeply experienced, in which An Lingrong and Zhen Huan originally had a good feeling because Zhen Huan helped her enter the palace to break the siege, hoping to be a good friend and take care of each other.
However, as the two people became more connected, the careful eyes caused by the inferiority in An Lingrong's bones became more and more obvious, and Zhen Huan and Shen Meizhuang did not like such behavior because of their family situation and their own conduct.
There was a gap between them, and later An Lingrong competed for favors, and a series of operations made them completely out of drama.
An Lingrong was not happy and did not dare to speak frankly about his inner thoughts, but always used the words of others to deliberately test and provoke in front of Shen Meizhuang.
Shen Meizhuang even when he was most upset, he directly said his heart to Zhen Huan, I am jealous of you, but only a little.
Shen Meizhuang still thought about zhen huan even when she was angry, and when zhen huan fell out of favor, An Lingrong never cared.
Zhen Huan said: The world is hot and cold, it has always been easy to be rich and noble, and it is easy to share hardships and hardships, and people's hearts are like this, so why should I be cold.
Shen Meizhuang and Zhen Huan are just bad for people who are not good to themselves, but An Lingrong is unscrupulous for his own sake.
Their thoughts and patterns are different, and each temptation makes everyone gradually alienate from each other's hearts, and slowly withdraws from each other's world, doomed to be unable to go on.
In addition, there is no hope that no interest will be separated
It is said that marriage is an exchange of benefits, in fact, friendship is sometimes not the case, whether it is to provide emotional value or economic value, it is mutually needed.
When there is no such connection between two people, it fades.
The friendship when you were young was because you could tell each other a lot of feelings, and the friendship later was to be able to help yourself, and when you gradually stopped living in each other's circle.
When no matter what aspect can not provide value, the two people have nothing to say, and some are just greetings, not lasting.
Why do you say to contact more, because you come and go to enhance feelings, whether it is to trouble each other or help, it is to provide value.
But many people because of the distance, family, or living conditions are different, and finally want to integrate into the end can not be.
Some people say that friends cannot continue without interests, but true friends are like the sand of an hourglass, and it is the one that leaks to the end.
But no matter what, at any time, no matter what the relationship, treat others sincerely, don't be overly jealous, take the initiative to help, there will always be someone worthy of your cherishing.
Between people and people, each other values each other, and parity is the most important.