What will become of a woman who is not married?

There is a report that as the main body of marriage and childbearing, the post-90s and post-00s marriage and childbearing are postponed a lot, and the delay in marriage increases the possibility of women not marrying for life.

Because of differences in innate physiological structure, marriage affects women far more than men. Women account for a considerable proportion of people who are afraid of marriage and childbearing.

In fact, women do not want to get married is not a unique social phenomenon now. The self-grooming woman more than 100 years ago is such a representative of unmarried women.

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Self-combing woman: Representative of unmarried marriage 100 years ago

As the old saying goes, the premise of marrying a man who marries a man dresses and eats, and a woman does not marry, is to achieve economic independence.

Now women who do not want to get married are the same, most of them have a relatively good economic situation, and it is no problem to support themselves, and they will have the feeling of what is the use of men.

Since the comb women first appeared in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties, when capitalism had just sprouted, there was a need for a large number of female workers in the textile industry in the Pearl River Delta region.

These women workers either engaged in mulberry silkworm farming or became women weavers, and they all had very good incomes. With money, the expectation of marriage is no longer to be able to eat enough and wear warm clothes.

Many women, looking around at the hard work every day and night, but still being abused by their husbands, married women who are scolded by their in-laws are deeply worthless for them.

In order to avoid the unknown harm caused by blind marriage and dumb marriage, they simply "combed up", combed their hair into a married appearance, and never married.

A self-grooming woman said that she did not want to get married when she watched the married women who worked with her working by the loom and took care of their children from time to time.

Marriage to have to work to support the family, to take care of children, there is no status at home, it is better to live comfortably.

In those days, capitalists, as they do now, preferred to employ unmarried women workers without the drag of their families.

Therefore, the material life of the self-combing women is not bad, they have been to many places, and in that era, they can be regarded as well-informed.

Self-combing women are also "organized", they work together when they are young, and they are old and old together.

In the documentary "Self-Combing", the self-combing women live together in the nursing home, usually playing cards and fighting mouths, unwell, and doctors and nurses come to take care of them, and usually have the help of nurses.

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100 years of unchanged grounds for non-marriage

After reading the story of the self-combing woman, you will find that the reason why women do not marry has basically not changed in more than a hundred years.

There is a grandmother in the documentary "Self-Combing", who was not yet married when she was 24 years old, but her cousin was getting married, and when the custom at that time was that the sister did not marry, the younger brother could not get married. Now there are also many parents who use this as a reason to urge marriage.

The 24-year-old girl thought about it, instead of hastily finding someone to marry and not knowing what the future fate is, it is better to simply comb up, not to get married, and maintaining the status quo is also a good choice.

So, she became an unmarried woman.

There is also a 90-year-old grandmother in the documentary, who says, "We just like freedom." If you are married, you still have to bring children and work, so it is better not to get married."

See, the reasons for not getting married are similar, and it feels like life after marriage is not as good as being single.

Now many people don't get married, and it's the same reason.

Although the status of women has been greatly improved compared to before, it cannot be denied that women still suffer from a lot of blatant and invisible discrimination in the workplace.

I remember looking for a job in the year of graduate school, there was a female classmate who was in the direction of engineering, and her male classmates found a job very smoothly, even those who almost did not get a diploma were found, only she was not determined.

Many units will not write "only recruit boys" on the recruitment brochure, because it is easy to be reported and crusaded. But in practice, they will still choose according to such criteria.

Girls are not admitted? Sorry, you're not suitable. There can be many reasons for rejection, the profession does not meet, the personality is not suitable, the experience is insufficient, but it will not be said that the gender does not match.

The unfriendliness to women in the workplace is on the surface, and the stereotype of women in society is a hidden dark arrow.

For thousands of years, the role of women has been that of a husband and a godson. But in modern society, women are increasingly moving towards society, becoming the main role of society like men and becoming the main force of supporting their families.

However, society's expectations for women still stayed in the Qing Dynasty. A woman who cannot marry and teach her children, her career is successful, and she is still a Luthor.

The double exploitation of women in the workplace and society has made more and more women afraid of marriage.

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Women are not married, whose cheese is moved?

Originally, marrying or not getting married was just a life choice, just like the self-combing woman more than a hundred years ago, if she didn't get married, she could still live a life at ease.

But ah, there are always some people who are not used to women who are not married, and not getting married is a freak, it is not normal. Even I can't look at a married person, people don't get married, what about your ass?

I often hear people say in a yin and yang way, don't get married now, when you are old, you will know that you are guilty, and you will be bullied by nursing staff in nursing homes.

Shouldn't being bullied by a nursing home a nursing home be a problem for a caregiver?

How to drop, all live in nursing homes and treat them differently, take good care of children, bully without children, the quality of this caregiver is worrying, should be well educated, good rectification, ah, can blame the bullied people?

In the final analysis, women who choose not to marry are just "disobedients" who follow the rules.

Others are marrying chickens and dogs with dogs, why do you have a maverick and live a life that you want to live, I have to plug you and make you uncomfortable.

I want to say that the main reason why women are not getting married is that they have not met anyone she wants to marry.

This person may not have a successful career, nor may Yushu Linfeng be handsome than Pan An, but he must be a person who knows how to respect women.

Professor Liang Yong'an has said that it is more and more difficult to fall in love now, mainly because men do not adapt to such women. Women are eager to be understood, and men look at women at the level of child.

I once read a post where someone introduced a girlfriend to a successful man after the 80s, and the woman is also the kind of post-80s who has a successful career with an annual salary of millions.

As a result, the man directly said that she was almost 40 years old, what do I want her to do, old, can not give birth.

What's even more bizarre is that many people agree with this view, successful men in their 40s should be young and beautiful women.

Look, after so many years of the fall of the Qing Dynasty, the core competitiveness of women is still young and beautiful + having children, as for thoughts, as for experience, who cares?

Instead of living a lifetime with such a man, it is better to live by yourself! The times have progressed, and so has the mind.

On the one hand, there are women with higher education, who are personally contributing to the progress of modern society;

On the other hand, it is hoped that women's minds are still stuck in the old society of three from four virtues, such a screw situation, marriage has really become a fire pit, who will be willing to jump into it?

In fact, getting married or not getting married is really just a choice, there is no need to put the rise and fall of the whole society on women who do not get married.

When everyone learns to respect others and respect other people's different choices, we will enter a truly happy era.