The frightening "terrible two-year-old", this life-saving guide is quick to accept!

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Obedient babies are all similar, and difficult babies have their own difficulties.

I have met many babies and parents in my career.

There are indeed moms and dads who may have saved the galaxy in their previous lives, and they will meet the kind of angel babies who love to sleep without crying or making trouble.

But most babies are not easy to handle, and human cubs seem to be born with a talent for torturing their caregivers.

How many old mothers are hovering in the whirlpool of collapse and recovery, relying on the occasional mother's kindness and filial piety and the support of grandparents and grandparents to hang a breath of fairy breath.

How old is the hardest thing to do?

Most people would say 2-3 years old at this stage.

Foreigners even name children at this stage, what terrible 2 horrible 3, how scary how to come.

However, according to my personal experience in class, this stage is indeed the peak of the emergence of small leather monkeys.

Most of the questions I consulted about children are also at this stage.

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Why is it so difficult for children at this stage to do it?

1. The child's mobility is enhanced.

The reason why two- or three-year-old babies will make the chickens and dogs jump at home is because at this stage their physical fitness is developing rapidly, and the desire to explore is very strong. They never seem to stop and never get tired.

Immersed in the joy of Columbus's discovery of a new continent every day, walking the old mother wanted to cry without tears.

Have you ever wondered as much as I did whether these babies had a clockwork on them?

2, the child begins to pursue the feeling of autonomy.

According to the psychoanalytic psychologist Erikson's theory of personality development, at the age of 2-4, the main developmental goal of a person is to gain a sense of autonomy and overcome shyness and anxiety.

The concrete manifestation is to control the self and control the environment through confrontation.

The specific performance is: everything must be done by yourself, and the word "no" is hung on the lips.

Baby eating, right? No!

Baby let's hang out, shall we? No!

It is impossible to be reasonable, and rebellion is finished.

How can I prove that I am an independent individual without rebellion?

3. Obsessive-compulsive disorder caused by a preliminary understanding of the integrity of things.

Begin to realize what is complete, eat a whole piece of cake, eat apples to eat a whole.

One of the most miserable dads I've ever seen broke open when he gave his daughter a cookie, and then she started crying.

Take a new piece of the head office, right?

It's not that simple, you have to restore the piece that was broken open for me, and hongu will stop crying.

Things must be arranged in their own order, and if they do not go well, they must start working.

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How should parents deal with the baby who rebelled early?

1. Reduce the tone of communication with commands.

There is a saying that if you want your child to say "no" less often, you first need to reduce the frequency of saying no when communicating with him.

Because when you keep using "no" to stop him, he will feel that "no" is a very powerful word, and when he wants to resist, he will naturally take it out and use it.

As the so-called words and deeds are taught, the child is like a mirror.

Parents are rude, children will learn to be rude, followed by the never-ending violence against violence.

Children will derive their own language patterns from our language patterns, resulting in corresponding thinking patterns.

Just like many parents deal with their children's aggressive behavior, the way to deal with it is to scold or even beat up.

For children, when he sees that the person closest to him and loves releases his emotions in this way, he will naturally imitate it.

2. Give your child time to prepare.

The child's ability to follow instructions requires gradual exercise, so he should be reminded as soon as possible.

For example: Fruit, in ten minutes, we will be eating, you need to pack up toys and wash your hands.

Duoduo, after five minutes we can't play with toys because we have to go home for dinner, so you still have one last chance to ride the slide.

3. Divert attention.

At this stage, the attention of children is easily diverted. We can take advantage of this when we are at a stalemate with our children.

For example, if a child just doesn't come to dinner, you don't have to call him all the time.

You can sit down to eat and say out loud: The scrambled tomato eggs that Mom made today are so beautiful, like a flower.

4. Listen patiently to your child.

At the age of two or three, most children will usher in a language explosion period, and they like to use their own level 10 baby language to talk to adults.

The children in the early education class are also, when they are familiar with the teacher, they will become small talk, as big as where to play during the holidays, as small as the bag that was bitten by mosquitoes last night, they will take it out and share it over and over again.

If the caregiver does not have the patience to listen or does not respond in time, the child will feel depressed and thus in a bad mood.

5. Be good at using positive cues.

Surveys show that children's emotions are largely influenced by cues from adults.

Use positive cues and positive reinforcement when communicating with your child.

If you want to make your child brave, the best way is to say to him: I saw you do xxx, I think you are brave, not: have you finished xxx, I think you are really useless.

6. Don't get into a dispute.

Many parents choose to "confront" children when they begin to rebel.

However, in the face of four or six, they do not understand but know how to use a hundred means to make their parents collapse, and the baby with strong combat effectiveness will only lead to both defeats and injuries.

The way to avoid disputes is not to get into disputes, such as the harmless situation of eating a complete cookie mentioned above.

At the same time, provide children with limited choices, such as some children only wear their own choice of clothes, then you will take out two or three suitable clothes, let him make his own choice.

In fact, whether it is terrible 2 or horrible 3, those performances that were head-starter at the time will slowly ease and disappear as the child grows.

So when you look at this stage with the mentality of crossing the robbery, it will be much calmer and more indifferent.

I am Early Childhood Teacher Pete, an early childhood education teacher who has been in the industry for 7 years, a positive parenting instructor, a psychological counselor, a daily update parenting dry goods, pay attention to me, and grow up with your children.