Anyone needs to keep some of their own private space, and the private space here is not a reservation between the two parties about each other's feelings, but only a degree of relative self and freedom. Because the essence of love is attraction, without any secret, it will lose attraction, and long-term feelings will have problems.
Allowing yourself to be independent and have some of your own little secrets is not a bad thing in the relationship, honesty and trust between husband and wife is needed, this is the foundation, but leaving your own private space and some of your own little secrets will make life more exciting. Although husband and wife should be sincere, trust should be the cornerstone. But I personally think that for the sake of family harmony, there are some secrets that cannot be said like anyone, even if it is a husband, even if it is rotten in the stomach.
If your past is unacceptable to ordinary people, if you tell the other party about these unbearable pasts, you may not say anything for the sake of face at that time, and then think about it, the other party will definitely respond, and there will be shadows in your heart. For example, some people have made a lot of boyfriend and girlfriend friends before marriage, and they have all lived together, if you give these things out, do you think you two will become neighbors in the future?
Husband and wife have lived together, increasingly flat, the degree of familiarity with each other exceeds others, if there is no privacy, a little sense of mystery is gone, it is estimated that the freshness of the past is faster! The best relationship is that husband and wife are husband and wife, but also friends, lovers and partners! A cooperative relationship! Maintaining a sufficient sense of boundaries helps couples to get along more harmoniously.
Is it a pity not to have a soul mate? The so-called soul mate really doesn't feel like the person around me. Some people around them are not even as good as strangers, except for hurt, touching things, very few. True soul mates, the scope is wide, it can be a book, it can be a certain music of an era; it can be an event of a certain era, it can also be a pursuit.
Of course, it can also be a confidant who accompanies his growth and experience all his life. Born from the heart, you can meet a true soul mate. How big the heart is, how wide the heavens and the earth will be. The world is so big, how can it be so dead in a lifetime? Who has that much value? It is a great congratulations to meet the people around you who are your soul mates, and the greatest happiness in life is like this.
To be fair, the soul mate is not necessarily a husband and wife, but the person who can really read your inner book, the person who can really accompany you to cry and laugh with you in the depths of the spirit and soul, and the spirit and soul form an invisible tacit understanding and integration, which can resonate with the spirit and the soul, that is, happy to be crazy together, sad to carry together.
If you have the opportunity to meet a soul mate in your life, it is the most precious asset of spirit and psychology, so that the spiritual sail can have a safe harbor of call, so that the spirit and the soul can be adjusted and balanced. So it's so important to have a chance to meet a real soul mate, and theoretically not having a soul mate is indeed a big regret in life.