At the wine table, a man once burst into tears and said what he said in his heart: "The daughter who marries out is the water that is spilled." I only have one daughter, and sooner or later I will get married. When I think about this, I suddenly don't want to struggle to make money! ”
That scene made many people feel sad, on the one hand, they felt that he might be eager to have a son and was not satisfied. On the other hand, he felt as if he were speaking as if it were a fact of many families. Usually a family with only one daughter, really like he said, on the surface it seems that there is really no pressure. Dads may have had the same moment, losing the desire to make money.
The man who drank a lot was surnamed Li, and he was 30 years old at the time, the only child in the family. But after the daughter-in-law gave birth to a daughter, Mr. Li frowned and suddenly lost the spirit of desperately making money. Before his daughter-in-law was pregnant, Mr. Li was full of motivation, saying that he had to work hard for the sake of his children's future schooling, marriage, bride price, and house purchase. But when the baby was born, after seeing that it was a daughter, Mr. Li was lost, and the whole person was like a frosted eggplant, losing his spiritual pillar.
There are some fathers in life who may feel the same way, and have had this experience: only one daughter, suddenly do not want to earn money anymore! If you don't plan to fight any harder, if you struggle any longer, you will almost lie flat. However, in fact, after many bao dads said this, they were punched in the face within a few years.
Mr. Li is a typical example, 5 years later his daughter went to primary school, early education counseling, living expenses, the cost gradually increased, Mr. Li had to step up to earn money.
So where do adopted daughters need to spend money?
Going to school costs money
Some fathers who raise daughters feel less pressure and do not have the passion to struggle, which is probably because their daughters are still young and are in kindergarten. However, once the daughter went to primary and junior high school, various cram schools, tuition and miscellaneous expenses, living expenses and other funds, when there was a relatively large gap, the father's economic pressure suddenly came up.
Raising a daughter is not easy compared to raising a son. Although she is only a girl, she still needs her father's intimate companionship and careful education, which needs to be supported by spending money. For example, signing up for dance classes, painting art classes, etc. for your daughter requires taking money from home. If the main force of money in the family is the father, then the father still needs to work hard and make more money to support his daughter.
Even if the daughter goes to college and can work-study, she still needs to pay for accommodation, tuition, meals and other expenses. In the future, it may also involve spending on finding a job, renting a house, doing business, etc., which together are also a big expense.
As little as tens of thousands, as many as tens of thousands, you need to prepare your father in advance.
Daughters marry and have babies, which cost money
Girls have to get married sooner or later, and when their daughters grow up, they have to spend money to get married. If the woman needs to take money to buy a marriage house, then the father also needs to take out some real money. Therefore, the adoption of the daughter is actually only when the daughter is a child, the cost is relatively small, but when the daughter is older, there are still many places to use the money, and it still needs the mother's side to cooperate with the supply.
Raising a daughter is no easier than raising a son, even if there is only one daughter in the family, the father still has to struggle to earn money in case of emergency. In addition, compared with the adopted son, raising a daughter is actually not easy at all, and parents still need to provide some support to their daughter in many aspects.
Daughters are more vulnerable than sons and need adequate financial security
Gorky said that fatherly love is water.
The daughter grows up all the way, the gender determines the identity, and she will become a mother and a wife in the future, and she is in a disadvantageous position. Once the daughter has a baby confinement, or is aggrieved in her feelings, it is difficult to support the life in life, and she has to fulfill her responsibilities and obligations, which requires the father's financial security, so that the daughter can suffer less and suffer less.
It can be seen that raising a daughter is not easier than raising a son, and it really requires fathers to pay a lot of effort, and it is a continuous effort to raise their daughters better.
The era of spelling daddy has passed, but when the father still has to struggle, to ensure that there is the strength to be fought by the baby
Although it is not the era of fighting for dad, men who are fathers still need to retain their fighting power, the ability to make money and passion. In this way, even if the baby has the ability not to fight the father in the future, the father still has the capital and strength to be spelled by the baby, which is the pride of the man.
In the entertainment industry, Deng Chao is such a good father. Not only can he earn money, but he can also raise his daughter to be very good. Deng Chao makes money and companionship, even if the work is too busy to be separated, he will try his best to fly back, even if he can only accompany the child to eat a meal, he must also try to give the child the company he should have.
When Xiaohua was 5 years old, Deng Chao also posted a video of his daughter Xiaohua opening gifts. Dad Deng Chao was next to his daughter and kindly asked her what her birthday wishes were. It is really envious of others, there is such a caring father, even if it is, this father is still a rich man, maintaining the enthusiasm for struggle, very able to earn money, super strength, this is really the happiness of the daughter.
Although ordinary fathers do not have the gold-sucking ability of star fathers, their hearts that love their daughters are the same true.
So, in life, as an ordinary father, how to maintain the hard work of making money and better raise your daughter?
A good father is better than a hundred good teachers, and the father leads by example, maintains the love of life, and works passionately for the future every day. Children will hear and feel that their father is the pillar of the family, and learn to be strong and responsible from their father. At the same time, the daughter will love her father more, grow up under the influence of her father, and be an independent and self-reliant girl.
In addition to the model method, fathers can also use the "encouragement method" to cheer with their daughters. For example, the father takes his daughter to visit the place of work, and then tells the daughter about the characteristics of each profession and the hardships of his profession.
If there is a chance, the father can also personally take his daughter to experience life during the winter and summer vacations of his daughter, do some small business, and let his daughter's financial and business ability go to a higher level. And agreed to compete with the daughter to see how the child's work is in the future, the level of earning ability, stimulate the child's desire to earn money, and also motivate the father to look at the money and work hard!
In short, even if the father only raises one daughter, he cannot relax in earning money and education. Dad had to grab both hands, and both hands had to be hard.