Wen | Cheats Jun
"What, I want to wean my baby when I have a confinement, what does this mother think?"
"It is said that breastfeeding is good, and the baby can't eat breast milk at such a young age, so pitiful!"
"This mother is a little selfish, isn't it right for the in-laws to stop her?"
Seeing the title, perhaps everyone will have such an idea in their hearts for the first time.
And listen to me go through the details.
A mother left a message in the background that she suffered a lot of sins because of breastfeeding during the confinement, so she wanted to wean the baby after confinement and directly fed him milk powder. As soon as this idea was said, not only did the in-laws disagree, but even the husband was annoyed, saying why don't such a small child let you eat breast milk, is there any difficulty that you can't overcome, are you so selfish?
This mother felt that she was not understood, and her heart was very wronged. She was born by caesarean section, and the postoperative wound did not recover well, and every time she sat up and fed the baby, her stomach hurt. I don't know what the reason is, during the confinement period, the baby will always bite the ru tou, slowly scab after eating, the next time the milk is broken, every time she feeds she has to do some psychological construction, and even have a fear of feeding.
To say that this hurts, she can still overcome it. More importantly, the baby's feeding time is irregular, sometimes the milk is swollen the baby sleeps vigorously, and she can't wake up; sometimes there is no milk, the baby sucks hard, and the pain is so unbearable that she can't stand it.
When the milk is raised, the use of the breast pump does not work, the xiong part is swollen like a stone, and the middle is also because the breast tube is blocked twice, and the pain in the milking process she will never forget for a lifetime.
Moreover, the sleeping baby sleeps loudly during the day, and at night is extra energetic, and he has to eat seven or eight times a night. She is not like some people, after coaxing the baby to sleep for seconds, the time at night is cut to pieces by the baby's frequent night wake-up, every time the baby sleeps, she is completely awake, and the whole night is insomnia. Wake up in the morning with a headache.
Therefore, the decision she made to "wean" was actually made after thinking and thinking, for her own health considerations. I also blame myself in my heart, but there is really no way. I didn't expect my family to still not understand.
Many people are too harsh on the identity of their mother, and even almost "moral kidnapping"
People say that "a woman is weak, but a mother is strong", and it seems that if she is not just up, it seems that she is sorry for the identity of "mother". Even in many cases, people demand that the mother must do everything in her power to give her baby the best she can, even if she sacrifices a lot for it.
Many times, we can see the "squeezing" of this idea on the mother:
During pregnancy, occasionally eat a kebab or want to eat some spicy strips, do not let it, because it is not good for the baby;
I don't know why, pregnant women are hungry for instant noodles, they want to eat a bowl of steaming instant noodles, don't let it, saying that it is junk food without nutrition. (In fact, eating a small amount is no problem at all)
During confinement, let the mother drink a variety of broth soup, do not drink it, and persuade her not to disregard the growth of the baby for the sake of the body;
When breastfeeding ru tou cracked, you must also insist, for the sake of the child this pain can not bear it...
A friend once told me that she feels like a feeding machine in the confinement, and the care and care of her family is entirely to maintain the benign operation of this machine, as for her own feelings, sorry, no one can think about it for you.
Mothers can only take good care of their children if they take care of themselves first
In fact, I completely agree with this mother's decision. Because I am a person who has come over, I feel the same way that my mother encountered difficulties in breastfeeding.
In this case, she offered to stop breastfeeding, which was entirely reasonable.
What the family has to do is to understand her, accept her decisions, and ask about the difficulties she faces. Decide according to her own wishes
Within the age of one year, the child is psychologically closely connected with the mother, which is the "mother and baby integration" in psychology. The mother's emotions and psychological state will be reflected in the baby.
Only when the mother is in good condition will her eyes move to the baby.
Therefore, mothers can only take good care of their children if they take care of themselves first.
Even if it's just for the baby, the family must prioritize the mother's feelings. What's more, because the level of hormones in the body declines after giving birth, the mood fluctuations are large and the mother is more likely to be depressed.
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