I thought I could live happily ever after.
A reader friend, when looking for the other half, she rejected all the opposite sex with good conditions, but chose one with very bad conditions, because she felt that the other party was really good to her, especially booing and asking for warmth.
She felt that when two people were together, nothing else was so important, and the other party was good to herself, and that was the most important thing.
As long as the other person loves herself, she feels that she can endure everything with the other party and face everything in the future together.
With that feeling, she entered into marriage with that person, and after marriage, but in just two years, she regretted it.
It turned out that with the birth of her child, living in a small rental house, often worrying about money, it eventually consumed all her romance and enthusiasm, and also made her begin to doubt her own choices.
When we marry a person, we always think that feelings are the most important, but if feelings do not have material as a foundation, it is difficult to live well.
Often lack of money, that will be very draining feelings.
When a person is not in good condition, we still choose, either because we don't have to choose, or because we really love.
Choosing out of love, will be so righteous, in our hearts, after all, is a vague belief, feel that the other party can bring us a warmth, can bring us a happiness, can make our future life is not bad.
We think that each other can, but after really getting married, if you can't afford to pay the mortgage, can't afford to buy what you like, often don't even have three meals a day, each other can only be busy with their livelihood, in the busy, even if they like it again, they will only gradually become loveless.
Love can be just a wind and snow moon, but it is very realistic to live a life, it needs real money and silver, and there will be a lot of expenses.
In the face of the reality of embarrassment, if each other has exhausted all their strength in order to survive, they will not care about love or not.
With the disappearance of love, the only reason we once chose each other has become gone, and how can we be willing.
At that time, the other party was no longer the person who shined in our eyes, and would only look particularly useless.
Plain and bland, especially not easy to be able to barely maintain the life, there will be no more heart to pursue happiness, to be able to live well, to let yourself continue, not to live so hard, is already thankful, very grateful.
The days are too hard, and you can't help but blame each other.
When we love someone, we think that we really don't care that the other person has no money, and it's a big deal to fight with the other person.
We think that no matter how hard we are, we still don't say a word, just work hard with each other, but in real life, we may not really be able to do this.
That person, he may not really be very down-to-earth and self-motivated, let us feel worthwhile, even if the other party is really quite industrious, watching others live well, we are just so bad, we will still can't help but be sad, some complaints.
When a person is poor, we will be able to endure, feel that it does not matter, is our own lack of ability, but when two people together are still so poor, we will push the responsibility to each other.
I feel that it is all because of each other, so I will live like this, and I feel that if I had not chosen the other party, if I had chosen someone else, everything would have been very different at this moment.
Once there is resentment in our hearts, it is really difficult for us to treat each other well, and we will always be picky and uneven.
Life is difficult, but also able to work together, do not complain to each other husband and wife, that is always very rare, most of the time, each other will only vent their dissatisfaction, feel that the other party delayed themselves, blocked their own happiness.
Such a marriage is always full of resentment, full of hatred, of course, there will not be much harmony, how satisfactory.
I don't see the future, I just want the end.
This is no longer the era when if you get married, you will be able to live a lifetime, and you will not give up at all.
Whether they have just been married or have been married for a long time, everyone can make a new choice at any time on the way forward.
And in a marriage, feel happy, the heart is quite satisfied, then we will not want to leave the idea, will always be with each other, go to each other well, and feel this happiness together.
But if we are often overstretched with each other, very difficult at the moment, and there is no sign of getting better from each other, we really can't stand those years, feel not happy at all, just very painful, and will want to leave.
Because we really feel that without that person, we can meet better, we can live better.
Too poor families, not too much interest binding to each other, and there is no love between each other, two people are easy to disperse, and they all hope to meet a better life, which is just ordinary.
People are like this, more and more will recognize the importance of money, but also more and more want to have a better life.
Originally, no matter what, with a person, we actually have a plan, the original can be achieved, and then the map can not be reached, in the material level can not be guaranteed, we will inevitably be anxious, feel that there is no need to continue.
A marriage with a lot of money may not be really happy and harmonious.
But two people who are too short of money, too poor, and have no money at all, it is also difficult to live well.
Marriage needs the support of love, and marriage also needs to have a certain material foundation.
No money can live a good marriage, it has always been a minority, or even a few.
Therefore, when we are single, we had better work hard to make good money, and after marrying a person, we must know how to work harder to make each other's economy improve and become better and better.
To be able to do so, even if the present is not good, but there is more hope in the future, we will feel more at ease, the other party will also feel hopeful, such a day, each other can be more happy and harmonious.
In this world, money, which is really important, will make a lot of things, including marriage, no longer seem so difficult.
Text/Tan Meng
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