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"Flowers are often good and the moon is often round for a long time": "The adaptation of two people is an inner feeling, not a vision, do not ignore the feeling because of satisfying the vision." ”
Two people adapt not only not to ignore the feeling because of the simple satisfaction of the vision, but also not to ignore the feeling because of the simple satisfaction of the hearing.
This is not to say that sight and hearing are not important, you have a person in front of you who pleases you, and at the same time will say nice love words to you, of course, there is a corresponding meaning.
But there is a fact that should never be forgotten: whether it is love or marriage, it is not a matter of three or two days, if you only pay attention to sight and hearing and ignore the feeling, two people will get tired sooner or later, because no matter how beautiful things are, no matter how beautiful the love words, it is not interesting to listen to more.
If you say you don't want to care so much, even if love is only temporary, then it's not love, just one night in somewhere, not enough to compare to true love.
People who crave true love don't think about just a moment of pleasure. That being the case, you can't just care about sight and hearing, you have to put your feelings first, only then can you see the essence through the appearance of sight and hearing.
The following woman's encounter in love covers this aspect, let's take a look at it together.
Hello Mr. Donglin:
As we all know, there is a difference between liking and loving. However, many people can't tell what the difference is between them.
In my opinion, many people have gone in the wrong direction and made a fuss about the words "like" and "love". In fact, the real difference between the two is "people".
Immature people will put "like" on their lips, because they do not understand love, even if they say they love you, they are only talking, and what they do is still only in the stage of liking.
Only mature people understand "love" because they have long passed the stage of liking.
In other words, to figure out whether a man likes you or loves you, it's enough to focus on whether he's "mature" or not.
Take my ex-boyfriend, for example, who said he loved me and I had the right to believe him. However, when we talk about marriage, his immature side is revealed, and he has no idea how to love someone.
A lot of people say that women like to play guessing games, and I don't quite agree with that view. The kind of woman who makes men guess everything is hateful, but not all women are like this.
Although a truly mature woman will also let men guess the puzzle, it is limited to the matter within the scope of men's responsibilities and obligations, and will not be unreasonable.
Also take my ex-boyfriend as an example, whether their family should prepare a marriage room, this kind of thing still has to be explained to him? If he really loves me, he will definitely have his own ideas, whether it is for his parents to buy, or the two of us to bear, will give me an answer that satisfies me.
But he didn't have his own ideas, he didn't understand what I wanted, and he had to run home and ask his parents what to do. His parents didn't agree to buy a house, and he told me like a microphone not to buy a house. I tried him with a breakup, and he ran home to tell his parents that he would break up without buying a house, and after a round of tossing and turning into a microphone to tell me that his parents agreed to buy a house, let me hurry up and marry him.
I refused because he behaved so childishly, like a child, that a mature man could not possibly do as he did. Hearing me reject him, I began to lose my temper with me, asking me why I didn't marry him, what is the difference between this and a primary school student quarrel? How can I trust the rest of my life to such a person?
I explained two reasons to him: "First, you are not a good husband, at least not a husband who can give me a sense of security, because you have no opinion, many things still have to be reminded of me before I think to do it; second, your mother is not a good mother-in-law, there is no sincerity in marriage, which can also show from the side that you are not a good husband, because you can't even judge whether your mother is a good mother-in-law." "Do you think I'm right?
Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:
For women, it makes sense to judge love and like according to whether a man is mature or not.
However, there is a precondition for this judgment basis: women themselves need to be mature and understand love, otherwise they are immature and do not understand love, and there is no higher cognition and concept of love, you cannot judge. An immature person who says that others are immature can only prove that he is immature.
If you meet this prerequisite, you can let go and judge whether the other person is mature, and the method is very simple, which can be seen from the way he speaks and does things.
If you are very solemnly talking to him about marriage, he is still messing around like a child, not knowing what opinion, tolerance, trust, and respect are, even if he says "I love you" ten thousand times, he does not really love you, at most he likes it, and he has a little good feeling for you.
Of course, mature men also have a childish side, but also a childlike side. But mature men can tell when to be mature and when they can be naïve, and they will not mess with you when you are talking about serious things.
This is the "feeling" we mentioned earlier, the other person can make you feel worthy of trust when you are right, that is the feeling of love; if the other party always gives you a feeling of childish ignorance, his feelings for you are not love.