Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Thin affection, seemingly the most ruthless, is actually the most emotional!
Any kind of relationship between people, the right distance is always better than the relationship too close, more appropriate!
And if you want to grasp the measure of this distance, you must do the appropriate coolness! When a person is cool, he is not demanding of a relationship and does not disappoint a relationship!
The reason why people are troubled and depressed is because in all kinds of relationships, they have invested undeserved energy. When limited energy is consumed, people are unbearable, which is the source of trouble and suffering.
The more amorous people are, the more they will look forward to a relationship. However, the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment, and it is an eternal truth.
Appropriate thin feelings, when facing all kinds of relationships, the temperature will definitely be because it does not burn the other party and will not heat up to themselves, and the relationship is just right.
When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses, which is the truth!
Those who are overloaded for a relationship are things that only children do. When people reach middle age, they should have abandoned their youthful hearts and forcibly matured for the sake of the present and the rest of their lives.
Many times, what you want to care about and deserve to be cared for by you doesn't need you to get too close. At just the right distance, mutual concern and mutual concern are the best "equivalent exchanges."
When you get too close, you're bound to have too many expectations because of wishful thinking. And when you keep a reasonable distance from each other, why do you avoid the ugliness of the human heart and human nature, and appreciate and need each other?
Such a distance, a kind of sobriety and sanity, applies to any relationship!
People to middle age, thin love people, the most transparent! Those who understand the "cool and thin", wisdom also! The reason is simple:
First: about friendship
People are often convinced that they rely on their parents to go out and rely on friends at home.
It can be seen how irreplaceable the status of friends in people's hearts is.
Walking in the world and interacting with people is almost an indispensable thing every day. However, in reality, not all people who can meet in the relationship are "friends".
In particular, in this current society where interests are more and more important, when you think that the true friends involve people's hearts and human nature, the two ribs are inserted or two knives, only those who have experienced it know.
The exchange of values between people is becoming more and more naked. Although none of us want to admit such a fact, we all know best in our hearts that those who are undefended are the most ignorant.
After people reach middle age, they must look down on the so-called "friendship"! True friends also need to establish a psychological balance in their dealings. People who don't deserve it just want to take advantage of you and drain your energy and time.
If so, it is better to walk around relatively much under the condition of healthy distance with whom.
As for those who regard us as dispensable, we should also look down on and look down on it!
Second: about the love of men and women
From the beginning of the love sinus to middle age, we will have contact with many people of the opposite sex, and the person who can make us have the love of men and women will not be just one for the vast majority of people.
We will like some people and pass by some people.
In the dark, we know that we know how to cherish to deserve to have, but we who want to cherish always do the act of cherishing so inadequately.
More often, when we think back to the people who pass by, in addition to regretting missing out, we also regret why we were always willing to hurt our loved ones at that time.
Through the youth, through the mature years, through the wind, frost, snow and rain of love:
If a middle-aged person has a family, they should learn a lesson and don't let the regrets of the past play out again! In particular, we must always have self-respect, self-love, and self-examination. You must not be moved by people outside the relationship of marriage and love, and the turmoil is not extricated from the heart.
If middle-aged people are still single, they must not be as blind and casual as before, let alone lose themselves for who comes and goes.
If you dare not abandon the people in front of you, I will live and die together! Beloved, if you don't let me go, why should I take you out of my life?
It's only halfway through life, and it's enough to cherish everything you have in the moment and go all out for the rest of your life.
People who have loved or are deeply in love are nothing more than to make us a better self and exist, if we can't embrace a better self, then let each other be free.
Third: about family affection
Affection is the existence of ice and fire. When kindness is in the heart, family affection is greater than heaven. When there is a grudge, family affection is the most ruthless.
In the face of reality and human nature, people who overestimate family affection have the most right to say:
In real life, family affection is actually the most realistic!
That's right! In reality, the reality of family affection can really make some people bear the pain of heartache all the time.
Often the better you treat your loved ones, the more your loved ones will make you sad. Behind the expectations again and again is countless heartaches and disappointments.
When people reach middle age, even if there are still individuals who have not established their own families with their relatives, they must all live independently. Relatives, in the eyes of outsiders, are their own people. However, for the inside, it is an independent individual!
If some people, whether they become a family or not, have no sense of boundaries with their relatives, then the contradictions in this relationship must be greater and more than any kind of relationship!
Family affection seems priceless, but it is actually the most difficult to maintain!
Whether you are a parent, a child, or a brother or sister, you cannot get rid of the entanglement of human hearts and human nature, and truly follow the relationship to the end according to your ideal state.
When people reach middle age, thin affection is the real wisdom of a person, and it is the best bottom card for the rest of his life to be relatively smooth!
We are so small. Too small to confront reality, only to succumb to it and be stabbed by it all the time.
Therefore, we become more and more cautious, more and more feel that it is most important to love ourselves before loving others, and more and more understand that the people who can be relied on in this world are only themselves and can only be themselves.
Whether it is family affection, friendship or love, in the face of reality, the human heart and human nature have been devalued from priceless to worthless.
Many times, the affection and friendship you think is just what you think!
The more people you value, the less you see you. What you think of as a friend will never allow you to cover his light! The interaction between men and women has long transcended the beauty of pure love, but instead takes money and material things seriously.
When people reach middle age, they are a little affectionate, don't be sentimental anymore!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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