I saw a very warm video on the Internet:
A father took a five-year-old girl and read carefully on the steps of the square. Tall figures and petite and cute people, looking at them from a distance, make people feel warm.
In an interview, the father introduced himself as a middle school teacher who usually likes to read books, and his daughter also likes to read under his influence. "She can now know more than 5,000 words, she doesn't like to play with her mobile phone, she only likes to read, she doesn't have to be forced by adults to read, she wants to read herself, and she likes to read from her heart."
5-year-old children have fallen in love with reading and developed the habit of self-reading, all of which are subtly influenced by their fathers.
I once read a passage that the meaning of the existence of parents is not to give children a comfortable and rich life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength, you will feel warm, so that you have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties, so that you can get the real joy and freedom in life.
And a good father can give his child such strength.
A good father is better than a good teacher
Zheng Yuanjie is a famous children's literature figure in the mainland and is known as the "Fairy Tale King". His Pipilu series of books is loved by children and parents, and has a profound impact on contemporary children's literature creation, but also contains profound educational significance.
All this is inseparable from the influence of his father Zheng Hongsheng. When he was young, Zheng Hongsheng was an ordinary instructor at the Shijiazhuang Senior Infantry School, and he had to read books every night to prepare for classes until late. Young Zheng Yuanjie watched her father lie on the table every day to read and write, which developed a strong curiosity and interest in books.
Zheng Hongsheng is also very methodical about Zheng Yuanjie's education. He and Zheng Yuanjie's mother never scolded Zheng Yuanjie, mainly based on praise. Even if Zheng Yuanjie made a mistake, he only let him write a written review. Zheng Yuanjie wrote and wrote, so he wrote the written review into a story, and it was quite interesting to write with a nose and eyes, which made Zheng Hongshengle sound.
Zheng Yuanjie's talent for writing was also stimulated in this way, laying the foundation for his later achievements in the literary world. Under the influence of Zheng Hongsheng, Zheng Yuanjie also followed his father's philosophy and methods for his children, teaching himself.
When a father becomes an example for his children, the object of longing in his eyes, why worry about his future, why fear that he may take a detour in the future?
A good father can give children a greater sense of security
Canadian scholar Daniel Pat believes that the attachment relationship between father and child is more appropriately described in one word, that is, "activation". He believes that the relationship between mothers and children is more soothing and comforting, so that children can feel warm and calm. The relationship between father and child is more about leading and protecting, giving security, and leading children to the world.
A good father-son and father-daughter relationship can help children obtain certain aspects of needs, including: being stimulated and arousing emotions, making children feel surprised, having the courage to challenge, facing danger, transcending limits, cultivating stress resistance, fearless in unfamiliar environments, and daring to survive and live independently. These are essential for a child's future.
At the same time, the degree of participation of fathers in the child's life also obviously affects the child's personality formation, cognitive thinking and behavior, and intimate relationships in adulthood.
If the child is more involved by the father in childhood, he may have a higher IQ, better academic performance, and fewer behavioral problems, better adapt to society, develop friendships, and have good moral conduct.
It's worth noting that the level of involvement of fathers in their children's lives is not absolutely tied to the amount of time they spend "with their children." Engagement refers more to emotional participation than to physical involvement.
On some short video platforms, some interesting videos are often swiped.
A dad dressed in a large sheet turned into a snake, constantly squirming on the ground, "eating" toys thrown on the ground one by one, and children. Immediately after that, the "snake" came from the belly of the father and the children laughing.
There was also a father and a young daughter sitting next to each other on the floor, secretly eating their daughter's milk powder together, startled by a "heavy drink" when the mother found out, and the moment they turned around, the milk powder in the mouths of the father and daughter sprayed on their own and each other's faces, and then all three of them laughed and blossomed.
It is Dad's seemingly rough and unsafe game that allows children to fully release their nature and stress in playing and laughing, while experiencing joy, exploration, curiosity and achievement in the challenges of the game.
And a lot of that mom can't bring to her child.
The role of the father affects the child's future love and marriage
Perhaps for the son, the father is a role model for action, and for the daughter, the father is the criterion for choosing a partner in the future.
The role of the father profoundly affects the child's future intimate relationship.
In a family, if the relationship between parents is harmonious and harmonious, and the father respects and cares for the mother, the child will also learn to accept his gender, learn to look at the opposite sex with equal respect, and have a positive and optimistic attitude and expectations for love and marriage.
The lack of fathers in marriage and family makes it easy for boys to lack self-confidence when they grow up, unable to assume responsibilities as adult men, afraid to establish intimate relationships with women, and enter marriage to give commitment.
And those boys who lack the company of their fathers may grow up with potential hostility and contempt for women, and some people may be accustomed to passively pleasing and relying on women, have no independence, and even become "mommy boys".
For girls, the lack of fathers on the one hand is easy to make girls have an Oedipal complex, over-idealized and over-dependent on the image of men, love is humble without self-esteem and self-esteem, and it is easy to be hurt in gender relations.
On the other hand, it is also easy for girls to lack trust and appreciation for men, and have too idealistic expectations for men in their hearts, so as to be too picky in reality and fear marriage and intimate relationships.
A good father can put the family first, can respect his wife enough, care for his children, build a solid roof for his children, and give unconditional security and love.
Educating children well not only needs the care of mothers, but also the high-quality companionship of fathers.