A mother on the Internet said: What should my children do when they chase stars? Especially for Xiao Zhan and Wang Yibo, it was simply to the point of obsession and madness, what to do.
Is star chasing a good thing or a bad thing?
Some people say that star chasing can alleviate stress and help children integrate into the collective; some people say that star chasing affects learning and life, brings wrong guidance to children, and forms a wrong outlook on life.
In fact, adolescent children have an important task to develop their identity, they need to know who they are, what they can do, and who they can relate to.
Star-chasing teenagers and celebrities have developed a kind of intimate relationship with you, so as parents, how can we help children balance star-chasing and learning?
First, take your child's interest seriously.
Before on a certain sound, the news of Serious Interaction between Zheng Yuanjie and Wang Yibo fans was on the hot search, and Wang Yibo fans shouted to Zheng Yuanjie, "Grandpa Zheng, hello, I am Wang Yibo's wife." Zheng Yuanjie replied to him, "I know your husband."
In addition, Teacher Zheng also seriously replied to many fans' messages, including Yi Qianxi's wife. When Zheng Yuanjie replied to the ridicule of Yi Qianxi's fans, he was still discussing "Young You" with others, and the humor was full of seriousness.
What if the identities of these two people were replaced by father and daughter?
When the daughter mentions that he likes Yi Qianxi, the father will look at what kind of person his daughter likes, what works he has, if he is eager to be Yi Qianxi's wife, don't be angry and ridiculed, don't destroy her, what will the girl's dream be?
Second, use the idol value to develop the part of identity.
If you ask the child Ha, what do you like about idols? He will most likely answer you because he is handsome enough.
You also have to guide them to think, in addition to being handsome, he must have some attractive things, such as Wang Yibo, who said that he worked hard, really, enough to fight, and talk more about the advantages of idols with children.
Parents can even let their children compile a star documentary by themselves, the theme is the story behind the star, mainly showing the star aura behind, but also experienced setbacks, sweat, and made great efforts.
The purpose is to guide the child's attention, so that the beautiful appearance and excellent qualities of the star can become a role model for the child to learn at the same time. You can also tell your children: you can also become a star, you can try to become a learning star when you are a student, and you can try to become a workplace star when you grow up.
Clearly express to the child that you not only love him, but also look forward to him, at this time the child will make every effort to develop in the direction you expect.
Third, communicate frankly and fully express your understanding of your child's star-chasing demands.
If the child is just entertaining the stars, then this is normal, you don't need to interfere with him. If your child affects learning, communicate openly with him and plan how to follow the stars without affecting learning.
When he completes a learning goal, fulfill a small wish about chasing stars.
The specific manifestation is to agree to an appropriate increase in expenditure, but at the same time to impose additional conditions, "must add me to chase together", the purpose is to let the child's enthusiasm for chasing stars have a place to stay, but also have the opportunity to appropriate restraint.
Fourth, pay attention to the parent-child relationship.
If a child has a problem with the intimate relationship in the family, then he will hope that the intimate relationships that are fantasized will be easy to develop to the point of losing his mind.
So, no matter how old your child is, it is more important to give him love and let him feel the true warmth of the family.
In fact, a child chasing stars is actually chasing a dream self in a sense, and from this point of view, chasing stars is not a bad thing.