Best homeschooling: fathers are role models, mothers have warmth

It is often said that what kind of children are, parents are like. In fact, the reverse is still true, the parent is the mirror of the child, and the child is the shadow of the parent.

The formation of a person's morality, cultivation, habits, qualities, principles, and three views is inseparable from the education of parents. And the best family education is nothing more: the father is a role model, and the mother has a temperature.

The father is the role model, and the family has a direction

I have seen such a news on the Internet: a father with his 3-year-old daughter is seriously reading on the steps of the square, and the big figure and the small person look from a distance, the picture is particularly warm.

In an interview with reporters, the father said he was a middle school teacher and that his daughter liked reading under his influence.

"She knows more than 500 words now, has no interest in playing with her phone, prefers to read, and now she wants to read, not that I ask her to read."

The child is only 3 years old, and he has already developed a good habit of self-reading, and this father is indispensable.

Under this news, I saw such a comment: Many parents ask their children to read more, but they can't put down their mobile phones at all. If a family doesn't have someone to be a role model, 95 percent of the children born into that family aren't going to be very good.

Compared with the mother's water-like gentleness, the father's mountain-like majesty is easier for children to imitate and follow.

Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, once wrote a book called "The Meaning of Father is An Example", which mentions his father's way of educating him and his own way of educating his son as a father.

Zheng Yuanjie's father's name is Zheng Hongsheng, and in Zheng Hongsheng's view, the best education for children is to teach by example.

"The key is to see what parents do in front of their children, not what they say. No amount of talking to a child is necessarily useful and can sometimes be counterproductive. ”

A good father is better than a hundred good teachers. Under the influence of Zheng Hongsheng, Zheng Yuanjie also followed the "body teaching method" for the education of his son Zheng Yaqi.

"I thought that the father's teaching was more useful than asking the child to take a hundred examinations."

"After so many years of fatherhood, the most profound experience is: close your mouth, lift your legs, walk your life path, and show it to your children."

A qualified father does not have to be rich or capable. Instead, let yourself grow up with your child, and when you become the role model you want in the eyes of your child, why worry that he will take a detour in life? With the father leading by example and taking the lead, the future of the family has a direction.

If the mother has temperature, the family will not disperse

Not long ago, I read a sentence about my mother: Mother is a warm person, like a sun, wherever she goes, it is bright and warm, and the temperature in the air must rise by several degrees. I think the best mother should be like this.

Mother, is a family temperature regulator, when the mother smiles, the whole family is warm, when the mother is irritable, everyone will be careful. Mother's emotions are the compass at home.

A long time ago, I also saw such a news: a mother took her daughter to an interview to find a job, ran all day, but no company wanted to hire her.

At this moment, the daughter was hungry, and the mother bought her daughter a roasted sausage, but the daughter somehow threw up after taking a bite.

The mother was instantly irritable, beating and scolding her daughter, and many passers-by could not see it anymore and came up to persuade her. Unexpectedly, the passerby's persuasion further angered the mother, and she immediately kicked at her daughter...

This kind of thing is not an isolated case, there are always some mothers who habitually treat their children as private goods, and once they encounter something unhappy, negative emotions rush up to their heads, they will use the child as a punching bag.

When they are opposed, they will also say with a straight face: "It is all children who do not understand things." ”

However, they never thought that the mother's anxiety, irritability, impatience, coldness, perfunctory, contempt and other negative emotions will cause invisible damage to the child's soul, and when it is discovered, it is too late to change.

Children are naturally unspeakably dependent on their mothers.

Everyone wants a loving mother in the family: she can forgive small mistakes, she can tolerate imperfections; she is occasionally weak, and often she is strong alone; she is particularly nagging, but she rarely loses her temper.

She is ordinary but not ordinary, she is great but not great. With her, the family will not be scattered.

Xie An, a famous minister of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, once said a classic sentence: "The best family education is that parents should be the best of themselves." ”

Fathers are fathers, not exaggerating their own strengths, nor deliberately hiding their shortcomings, but calmly using actions to set the best example for their children. We can have shortcomings, but we must not fail to progress.

A mother is a mother, and she will not affect her emotions because of a small matter, nor will she arbitrarily pin all her expectations on her children for the rest of her life. Whatever happens, try to speak calmly instead of erupting with all your might.

In this way, the child can be a healthy and excellent child. Parents study well, children can improve every day, and families can thrive and prosper.

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