Is it difficult to bring a baby alone? Is it happy? Everyone has a different answer.
Let's listen to the story of the mother @dengli85 of the Lilac Mother Planet.
First of all, the background: both parents are out of town, neither is an only child, so my husband and I do not live with the elderly. My husband is a small policeman who works in the field all year round, but he has 3 months of vacation every year, pure vacation.
I'm an ordinary office worker. At home with a baby, I did not read less parenting books, a variety of apps to choose the most professional, as well as a variety of early education enlightenment.... Home laundry to take the washing machine, the baby is also a separate washing machine, every time dirty and wet on the change, the baby is always clean, happy.
My baby concept
Mom is happy first
At the beginning of the confinement of the child, I spent half a year of maternity leave alone with the baby for half a year. Because they are all brought by themselves, the premise is that they have a good mentality, do not put too much pressure on themselves, and the baby is not so pretentious.
My philosophy is always that I can raise a baby when I am happy, and if I am anxious, the baby will feel it and it is easier to cry. So I went with the baby on the premise that I was happy first.
There was a husky at home, which eased my depression of carrying a baby alone. Sometimes when I have to put the baby aside to play, my dog will take the initiative to take care of the children. (At that time, the baby could not climb, and was not too worried about falling)
Image source: @dengli85
Every time I go out to walk the dog, I put the baby on my body, like the baggage of the lady running away from home in the costume drama, hahahahaha...
Of course, getting up in the middle of the night to feed countless times is a nightmare, and my baby is still hungry and immediately has to eat it in her mouth. Later, I bought a milk warmer, and it was easy to eat in the summer, and then I still cried and rushed it...
After work
Cooperate with the aunt to bring the baby
Later, I went to work and looked for an aunt at home. At first, I called my aunt a smooth one, and my aunt was very nice and patient.
The condition I told my aunt is that the diaper is not wet and used casually, dirty and thrown away the washing machine to change at will, what do you want to eat to tell me, you are in a good mood, with a baby mood can be good. Cleaning what, wait until I get home to get it, too dirty during the day with a sweeping robot on the line. Overall very harmonious.
To the child will climb, but also every day casually climbing, no matter the spring, summer, autumn and winter, the baby changes at least 4 to 6 clothes a day, the family did not buy a fence, climbing mat, so the baby's big athletic ability development is really good. Of course, the premise is that the aunt is responsible for ensuring the safety of my baby. Timely intervention when at risk is important.
Later, the epidemic and other reasons also changed the aunt, but all the purpose is one: to ensure the safety of the baby, so that she is in a happy mood is very important. So baby has a good personality.
Since the children are almost always accompanied by me, many of the details of the children are taught according to the scientific methods I learned. Teach her to express emotions in time, accompany her to read picture books every day, ensure outdoor time to go out every day, use sunscreen when going to the beach for 6 months, go out to take the car to insist on a car seat, communicate wrongly, apologize, say thank you, eat only in the position, and eat when you get off the table. At home all year round, if you want to go barefoot, wear less clothes (there is heating in the north) and so on...
These small rules, the untimely rebellion and harshness in the eyes of the elderly have become the habits of children. Zhang is relaxed and has established rules, and the child will not break the harmony by crying. But if there are old people, emmm, I think there should be no rules that can last.
In summary, I think it's really cool to be alone with a child! They are in a good mood, the child is sensible, has high emotional intelligence, is polite, understands the rules, has compassion, and most importantly, the child is very happy every day and is very secure.
It is more free for a person to take a baby
No one will ever say to the child, "You don't obey your mother, don't love you", "If you want younger siblings, I won't love you"; no one will stare at the baby who does not wear socks and shoes on the line of education, making a chicken and a dog jump; no one will chase after the bowl to feed, after the age of 2, my baby can eat by herself, except for the occasional petting people to feed her, each meal is almost completed on its own.
Such a baby is confessing "love you, mom is the best" every day, can there be anything more refreshing than this? No!! Hahahaha~
Every time I hear others complaining about how the elderly argue, I am very incomprehensible, knowing that I can take care of the children more happily and have a more pleasant parent-child experience. Children are not a burden, nor are they shackles for the elderly. We want to be a little more Buddhist, a little more scientific, a little happier, a little higher quality of companionship, and not let life be a chicken feather.
If you can, Mom and Dad bring their own baby, and Auntie help is really great! Don't complain anymore that the old man doesn't show us the children, the old man is old, the physical discomfort, the conflict of ideas with the baby, etc. are inconvenient, and the occasional care visit is the best help.
I think the joy of me carrying a baby alone is probably the sweet, greasy, fragrant feeling of being in the honeypot every day. Children are our best friends at some stage of life, inseparable, and the heart of love is not distracted! That's nice.