Text: Xi Xihuan
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There is a passage in the book "Jane Eyre" that love is a game, and it is necessary to remain inseparable and evenly matched with each other forever in order to rely on each other for a long time. Because opponents who are too strong are exhausting, and opponents who are too weak are tiresome.
Although many people are unwilling to admit it, they are very humble in love, and even inferior, they feel that their own conditions are limited, so they are not worthy of being loved by very good people, so they are more and more closed to themselves, and dare not show their true intentions and feelings.
There are also some people who are not excellent themselves, but always have many requirements for people who like themselves, hoping that the other party is as good as possible, and once the other party does not meet their expectations, they will complain in every way.
In fact, there are conditions in love, the more excellent people choose to love people, the more "conditions", this is not picky, but responsible for themselves.
Maybe you feel that you are very ordinary, there is no shining point on your body, but you are pursued by a person with better conditions than you, and you don't need to doubt yourself at this time, because you must have a place for the other party to feel worth cherishing and protecting, so he will identify that you are the person he wants to love.
Therefore, most of the people who chase you with better conditions than you also have "requirements", which is a reasonable equivalent exchange in love, grasp the scale, then you may follow the right person to become better.
01 You have qualities in you that he appreciates
There are no two identical leaves in the world, and so are people, and everyone's growth environment is different and their life experiences are different, so the attitude and angle of looking at people and things are naturally different.
The standard of mate selection, everyone has a ruler in their hearts, some people like to be pragmatic, some people like to have a high appearance, some people care about feelings, some people care about material, we can't say that other people's measurement standards are wrong, but they can be responsible for their marriage and love.
When you are pursued by a person who is better than you, maybe the first thought is not credible, maybe you will secretly question yourself in your heart, you are obviously very ordinary, even you yourself have not discovered your own strengths, how can you be liked by such a good person?
However, you must first know that better than your conditions do not mean that you are entitled to despise you and look down on you, not to mention that whether the two people in the relationship are suitable or not is not an external condition.
Maybe your work is average, you don't earn much, and your appearance is not high, but the other party's work is decent and stable, earning several times yours, and your appearance is also high.
In the eyes of everyone, you are not a good match, but he just looks at you, a posture that you do not marry.
At this time, do not easily doubt the other party's intentions and determination, you must have characteristics that he appreciates, so he will feel that you are the one who deserves his love.
Her friend Wang Yan is a very ordinary girl, at least in the eyes of the people around her, but Wang Yan has one thing that is particularly good, that is, she has a good attitude.
When others are busy with anxiety and panic, she has always been giggling, some people say that she has no heart and no lungs, does not know the taste of sorrow, but she said, what is the use of worry, it will only increase the trouble, if there is a way to solve the problem, if not, then anxiety is meaningless.
When she was twenty-six years old, Wang Yan fell in love, and when she put her boyfriend in front of everyone, everyone couldn't help but be stunned, saying that she had gone lucky and could be pursued and liked by such an excellent man.
The man is very handsome, young and promising, although his appearance is high, he will never be ambiguous with the opposite sex, and he only wants to find a girl who can really fit with himself into marriage.
When I first met Wang Yan, in fact, the man did not move, because Wang Yan was really too inconspicuous, but with the two people getting along, men found that every time they encountered a troublesome thing, they could always be happy because of Wang Yan's optimism.
Men have a lot of pressure at work, before knowing Wang Yan, he encountered tricky problems, he would drink, he would lose his temper, but after knowing Wang Yan, it seemed that he also became heartless and lungless with her.
So when the man decides to pursue Wang Yan, let alone Wang Yan, even he himself is frightened, but love really comes, it is impossible to hide.
In the face of such a love, Wang Yan smiled after being stunned, she said that fools have their own foolish fortunes, and since they are in love, they should love and cherish it.
In fact, if we think about it carefully, we can understand that Wang Yan is really a fool? Naturally not, she has her own shining point, that is, optimism, even if the man is better than her, but Wang Yan has become his spiritual sustenance invisibly, which is very important in love, and also makes Wang Yan the only one of the other party.
When you are liked by someone who is better than you, don't dare to believe it, but be more confident, because there must be a shining point in you that attracts the other party.
02Can you go hand in hand?
When two people fall in love, the starting point is not necessarily the same, and there will always be one person who seems to have a better advantage in the concept of "door to door".
But this is not important, because as long as you really love each other, you will always go hand in hand and go to the same height, that is the healthy performance of this love.
Friend Zhao Ze began to start a business after graduating from college, and after a few years of hard work, he has made great achievements, but only marriage is a worry for his parents, no matter how his parents urge marriage, he is not in a hurry.
Even if the people around him introduce him to all kinds of excellent girls, but he does not like, in his opinion, it does not matter whether he is excellent or not, the most important thing is to grow and progress with him.
By chance, Zhao Ze met a girl, the girl is very ordinary, but the two people can talk very well, when Zhao Ze felt that marrying her, his parents strongly opposed, thinking that the girl was not worthy of his son.
But Zhao Ze is very insistent, he does not need the girl to be excellent, of course, he also believes that the girl is willing to improve with him and become better together.
After the two people were together, the girl did not slacken off, and when Zhao Ze pursued her, she secretly decided that she must not drag his hind legs, if she could not do the best, at least try to catch up with him.
When the girl is doing better and better in her career, Zhao Ze knows that she has not chosen the wrong person, and the girl has become more and more confident, she knows that this confidence is not only her own effort, but also zhao Ze's love to give her confidence.
There is no absolute door-to-door pair in love, we don't have to humble ourselves for our shortcomings, and we don't easily reject someone who truly loves us.
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