Text/Little Snow Mom
Having a child is a great joy for a family, the first time to become a parent, parents are excited to look like, basically will send a circle of friends to announce this happy event, share the joy at the same time, but also get the blessing of friends and family.
But have you found that when you give birth to the first child, everyone will send a circle of friends in various fancy ways, but when the second child is born, it is quietly carried out, and there is no publicity when the first child is born.
Not long ago back to my hometown, I heard my mother say that a very good friend gave birth to a second child, and when I first heard the news, I was quite surprised, and I didn't know anything about it, after all, it was a relationship from small to large.
When I listened to my mother, I still didn't believe it, and I sent a message to my friend to confirm that it was true, and I also joked to my friend that such a big thing didn't squeak, and even a circle of friends didn't send it.
To know that when a friend gave birth to a first child, he also sent two or three circles of friends in a row, eager to tell everyone, for which the friend said "forgot", and it was to cultivate the body and take care of the child, and did not want to trouble others, and the relatives at home knew that other friends did not know much.
In fact, the situation of friends is not a special case, we seem to find that many families after giving birth to a second child, are not as loud as when the first child is born, and some even quietly, even a message is not notified, why is this?
The circle of friends who gave birth to the first child "announced the good news", but the birth of the second child was quiet
First, there is no excitement for a new father and mother
When giving birth to the first child, because it is the first time to be a mother, curious, fresh, and nervous, many prospective parents in the circle of friends send various messages, and they will share a lot of dynamics during pregnancy.
But when it comes to the second child, because of the experience of the first child, there is no fresh energy at the beginning, after all, the first time as a parent, I don't know anything, I don't know anything, I am particularly careful about what I do, and I am afraid that something is wrong.
But when pregnant with the second child, it is already a familiar road, from pregnancy to childbirth, in the face of various problems also know how to deal with, the family should be busy with what continues to be busy, and parents also have to take care of the family outside the home, there is no such thing as a child so nervous and curious, and even a circle of friends are too lazy to send.
Second, the second child is not planned
There is a friend around, chatting together to listen to others say that they want to have a second child, every time they are to persuade others not to have children, financial pressure is too much time, etc., but they finally accidentally wanted a second child.
On the one hand, it is tangled with whether to give birth, on the other hand, it is also embarrassing, after all, it has always been told to others not to give birth, but they accidentally became pregnant with a second child, and the news is quite embarrassing to say, it is better not to notify anyone, and the child can be born safely.
Third, I don't want others to continue to follow the courtesy
Generally the relationship is relatively good, giving birth to children everyone will follow a gift, express a personal exchange, although the money is not much, but more or less is a meaning. However, after giving birth to a second child, some parents may think of not letting friends follow the gift, worried that friends will misunderstand, so the news of giving birth to a child has not been hyped, and friends have asked and only said that the doctor is too busy to forget.
Fourth, worry about other people gossiping
Now talking about the topic of "second child", everyone's first reaction is "poor" and "can't afford to raise", indicating that the economic burden of having children and raising children is too large, and there are no conditions in the family that dare not have a second child.
In this regard, there may also be families who have a second child, worried about others gossiping, the joy of having a child can be celebrated by themselves, as long as the child is safe and secure, the family is happy and happy is enough, and they do not care too much about other people's opinions.
After the birth of the second child, what problems do parents need to pay attention to?
First, don't snub the big treasure
After giving birth to a second child for a period of time, the parents' thoughts are more on the baby, the care and companionship time of the big treasure, at least half of it, the invisible change in the parents' attitude, the child can actually feel, the sense of security in the heart is easy to lose.
Just like when the second child was just born, the hospital was noisy, everyone was busy looking at Xiaobao and the mother, it was easy to ignore the big treasure, so parents must pay more attention to the big treasure, do not discriminate.
Second, don't feel lost because of gender
Some families have a second child because the first child is a daughter and want to have another son, or the first child is a son, and they want to have a daughter again, and they make up a "good" word.
As a result, the child's birth gender is not expected, there may be some gaps in the heart, this emotion must be avoided, and try not to take this idea to have a second child, which is unfair to the child, the mentality should be flat, and the child is the focus.
Finally, do friends around you have a circle of friends?
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