Why can't older leftover women marry? My husband said bluntly: I have shackled myself!
There are many reasons for the emergence and scale of older leftover women, some people say that the new social environment has brought about a new trend of economic independence and personal freedom, some people say that it is because of poor communication skills and small social circles, and some people say that they are either busy at work or just want to play life. I have heard many people say: Older leftover women cannot marry, why is this? A netizen who married a 32-year-old wife once said bluntly: I have put shackles on myself!
Judging from the statement of this netizen, he is a typical science and engineering man, thin and tall with glasses, engaged in process design work in a mechanical manufacturing plant. Marrying an older leftover woman is also indicative of his own age, and according to him, it is not uncommon to marry at the age of 35 in his office. But for marriage, he has a very targeted complaint - his wife, and the biggest complaint is the following three points.
The first is the wife's pseudo-petty bourgeoisie, pseudo-exquisite living state. He didn't disclose his wife's profession, but it felt like he didn't deserve her. His wife can bake, loves to read, and has a lot of understanding of coffee and wine, and even has a deep understanding of Hisaishi and Richard Clayderman. However, as the two continue their lives, he found that his wife's understanding was only learned online, and she really knew nothing about chai rice oil and salt.
In fact, it is the wife's various high opinions of herself. It seems that from the first day of entering the door, she has no real sense of belonging to this new family of her own, dissatisfied with the 120-square-meter unit, dissatisfied with less than 100,000 cars, and even dissatisfied with her mother-in-law running to the supermarket early in the morning to grab specials. It seemed to him that his wife had never really integrated into the family, and her mind was full of fantasies of those insignificant Princess Charming, and ironically, she was in her 30s with such fantasies.
Finally, there are his wife's endless demands on him. She often takes her unit so-and-so to buy a new car, add cosmetics, etc., and sneers at herself: drawing a lifetime of drawings, and can't afford to buy a good car, and then put forward various endless requirements, such as what job to change, how much pocket money to give a month, and so on. So that sometimes he will feel unconfident: whether he has seen too little, whether there are really more and better opportunities outside.
At first, he would feel that this was the case when he first married, and as life went on, his wife would eventually understand that life was not easy, but as time went on, he found that such an idea was only his own wishful thinking. In his wife's circle, there are many kinds of older leftover women, who seem to inadvertently and occasionally express the view that her marriage is not worth it, which in turn brings him more demands and greater distress.
Netizens did not consider using extreme methods to treat their marriage, but for marriage, his summary is still: I have shackled myself. So, are there any such people around you? What do you think is the problem with the unmarried older leftover women?