Children are free to wander around, parents may as well do these 3 things
Far more effective than daily supervision
If there is a free and loose child in the family, then his daily life is like this
Let him do something, all kinds of reluctance
If parents say a few more words, they will also show great impatience
It's hard for such a baby to focus on something
Even when doing things, you will find that he is not serious
When I do anything, I am so-so and I don't pay any attention to it
But in reality, it is easy to meet such a baby
In the face of such a baby, parents always try their best to make him conscious
Unfortunately, the baby's self-control has been exercised since childhood
If you are a free and loose look in your daily life, then it is difficult for this child to have self-control
If you want your child to have self-control, then, as a parent, you must do the following three things
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The cultivation of a child's self-consciousness must first affirm his self-worth
Many children have poor self-control and do not pay attention to anything
That's because they've never gotten the affirmation they deserve in their previous lives
Over time, the things they were willing to do, they slowly did not want to do
Because there's not much difference between doing it and not doing it
For example, babies show ink marks when they go up to get dressed every day
And Mom and Dad kept urging behind them every day
But did parents find out? The more you urge them, the slower they will sort out
At first they may really be because of the slow movements
But slowly, the constant urging of their parents gave them a lot of negative effects
Over time, the child has no motivation
In addition, in the process of tutoring children's learning, it is also the same
If it gives me to behave particularly irritable and irritable
Then the child's reaction is also slower, and the problem will be slower
For a long time, as always, the child will lose confidence and even appear bored with school
In fact, I want my child to do a good job seriously and attentively
First of all, you must affirm him and think from the bottom of your heart that he can do this well
Help your child build confidence so that he can see his worth
Slowly, children will have confidence and interest when they do things
I've seen such a story before
The older brother always talks to the younger brother on weekdays
In the mother's heart, the brother should have a little more sense of responsibility, let the younger brother
So he only scolded the eldest son
But nothing has changed for the eldest son
But once the mother went out, she could only let the eldest son take care of her younger brother
Although he was very reluctant, he was forced to agree
When my mother came home, she was surprised to find that the brothers had not quarreled
The older brother also helped his younger brother complete his kindergarten homework
The mother then praised the eldest son: You have finally grown up, you look like an older brother, and you know how to take care of your younger brother, which is great
I didn't expect this sentence from my mother to inspire my child
He used to be particularly annoyed with his brother, but recently he always took his brother with him when he went out to play
If someone bullies his brother, he will protect him
Why did my brother make such a big change?
This is because the brother knows his responsibilities and knows the embodiment of self-worth
He understood that as an older brother, he should take care of and protect his younger brother
Therefore, these realizations of children begin with self-awareness
So when he realizes his value, he will put it into action
Therefore, parents should usually give their children more trust and encouragement
This awakens the child's inner strength
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In addition, if you want to cultivate a child's self-control ability, when he does anything, he cannot supervise the whole process, and build a sense of trust in each other
But usually, as long as the child is doing things, the parents will watch from the side, and do not leave one step
If something is wrong, parents will help them solve it
Such an approach only invisibly cultivates the inertia of the child
People are inherently inert, and coupled with "cultivation", they will only be more lazy
Therefore, the inertia of children is habitual by parents
I saw Bao Ma complaining like this in the circle of friends before
Why are other people's children so self-conscious, but when they come to themselves, they must urge everything they do, dress urgently, and go to school
Other people's families are children, and my family is the ancestors
Let's see how other people's mothers do it
"Our family once had a period of chicken flying dog jumping days, children do not do anything active? It all needs to be done at a urging time."
Slowly, it will not be urged
For example, when he usually likes leftovers, he tells him that he can't finish eating at noon in the morning, and he can't finish eating at noon and eating at night, and he will always eat
When you wear special ink, you will tell him: If you are late for school today, the teacher will only criticize you, but he will not criticize me
At first, Bao Ma just endured the irritable mood, waiting for him to eat, waiting for her to get dressed
When he first started doing these things, he was still not in a hurry
But after being criticized, he took the initiative to ask me to urge him so that he would be faster
Mom nodded
After some time, he dressed fast and never came late for school again
Psychologists once said that education is to stand in opposition to the child to guide
To guide the child on what should be done and what should not be done
Parents only need to be reminded a little on the way
Instead of the child encountering a problem, the parents will help to solve it
This makes it easy for children to develop dependence and inertia
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Self-control is not forced out, but is cultivated by the company of parents
Whether it's studying or working
As long as the child looks for something, let go and let him do it
For example, when you want to get up early, you have to grit your teeth to break your sleepiness
Self-discipline is a process that needs to be constantly cultivated
So for children, it is a new challenge
And a child's self-discipline begins in childhood, so parents play a vital role
But there are still some parents who think that their children's self-discipline is forced
But parents think this self-discipline will not last long
Once the child leaves the supervision of the adult, the prototype will be restored overnight
So self-control and self-awareness are self-controlled, not done under supervision
So if you want to cultivate a child's intuition, you must be early
Parents should also change their inertia and spend more time with their children
If you want your child to have a good habit, parents need to have a good habit first
I want my child to have self-control in learning
Then, when the child is young, he should be carefully tutored to cultivate the child's self-control
And some bad habits in life need to be slowly improved and cultivated
Slowly, he developed his independence
However, if there is a more inert parent, it is directly affecting the child
For example, I urge my children not to play mobile phones and stay away from games every day, but I hold my mobile phones to play every day
If you want your children to love learning, you must first have a learning mentality
If you want your children to love sports, you don't want to stay at home every day
So as the old saying goes, there is a child who is what kind of parents achieve
There is nothing wrong with this statement