Someone once asked: How much money does a pair of parents earn every month to raise a child?
The answer is this: the key word to raising a child is not money, but love!
What is love? Many people answer: Love is companionship.
We have seen many such admonitions: companionship is the best education.
We hear more of this reminder: How many years can we spend with our children?
We've had enough of this torment: how can making money and spending time have the best of both worlds?
You think about those out-of-school teenagers in the mountains,
Growing up with my parents, I did not lack the company of my parents.
Do they enjoy the best education?
If you think about some successful family,
Adults are busy with their careers all day, and they rarely have time to spend with their children.
Their children are so good!
What went wrong?
Good parents must be able to give their children high-quality companionship:
Use intimate companionship to support your child's sense of security, give him hugs and interactions;
Awaken the child's curiosity with the companionship of appreciation, accompany him to explore and innovate;
Give your child enough space to treat your child's trial and error as an experience.
Accompany without disturbing, pay attention without control and do not preach,
Such companionship allows children to find happiness and meaning for a lifetime.
However, in reality, children are miserable for the company of their parents:
Why do I feel like my parents are always with me and stressed out?
Every day, my mother must personally watch me endorse and write homework, which makes her feel very depressed.
Several times she and her friends made an appointment to go to the bookstore to buy books together, and her mother said that she was not at ease and must accompany her.
I've had enough of these days, do I have to be stared at by adults all the time?
In fact, many parents are like this, and they want to try to give their children more companionship.
However, they rarely examine their own companionship, but they overestimate the quality of their companionship.
As a netizen said: parents always think that companionship is "monitoring" their children.
But they didn't think that their gaze would cause anxiety, tension and stress in children.
Some parents seem to have been with their children, but because of the deviation from the trajectory,
Hurting the child invisibly without knowing it.
Some parents will always hover their eyes around their children,
Always supervise the child's life and learning, once it does not meet their own expectations,
It will "correct" the child in a way that controls and oppresses.
This kind of companionship lacks the flow of love and is only a distraction to the child.
This kind of companionship is to hurt the child in the name of love.
One day most parents will understand such a cruel truth, which is the view of Dou Kun, the founder of The Promotion:
Loving children is to let children get closer and closer to us, and educating children is to let children get farther and farther away from us.
Loving children is something that a hen can do, but educating children needs professional things to be done by professional people.
Because parents are not in the education industry, they do not know how to accompany each other with high quality;
Because parents still have to do their jobs, it is difficult to do it even if they know how to accompany them.
It is not that the child needs the company of the parents, but the parents who need the companionship of the child.
A child's favorite companion is not his parents, but his peers.
How to give your child high-quality companionship?
First, we must have the company of professionals.
As many time periods as possible after school: on the way to pick up and send school, when writing homework, meal time, rest time...
To accompany the child as a job, fully engaged with the child,
Play games together, tell stories together, share joys and sorrows together.
Second, there must be companionship from peers.
Not one, but a group, there are boys and girls, the age difference is not too big,
Learn together, play together, compete together, talk together.
Such high-quality companionship, do you want to give to your children?
On your own, can you provide high-quality companionship for your child?
The Trusteeship of the Central Trust League under the Promotion Education, waiting next to the primary schools,
Every TRUST hosting teacher is a high-quality accompaniment expert,
Are willing to accompany your children with professionalism + dedication.
Every CETO trust institution has a group of peers for your child,
We are happy to grow up healthy and happy with your children.