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How can we not make our children obsessed with mobile phones? The following Bo Dad takes the child's 6 years old as the dividing point, and shares in detail what should be done before the child is 6 years old and after the age of 6?
Many moms have a headache about how little ones like to play with their phones. It is true that when children play mobile phones, there will be myopia, addiction, affecting schoolwork, and there are all kinds of bad information on mobile phones, so it is no wonder that parents are in a hurry. But we want our children to think hard about what they can do without a phone when they put down their phones.
What should I do if I check the Internet to find out what children do when playing with their mobile phones? Almost every post will make you spend more time with your child. In fact, many parents have not done this, even if the child is actually around every day. Why?
In the hearts of many parents, the ideal companionship is this: although the child is with himself, it is best for the child to play with the child, the parent player is the longest, and it is best not to interfere with each other. For example, the child is quietly playing with toys or studying on the side, while the mother is brushing the mobile phone, dear parents, this is not called companionship!
One of the key words in the problem of children obsessing with mobile phones is "substitution". Children always want to play, someone plays with him, when no one accompanies her, he plays with mobile phones, and at this time parents begin to worry, thinking that their children play for too long and are addicted to mobile phones.
Smart parents replace their phones with other ones to allow their children to develop their own strengths.
I remember in a small column of a school survey, a student interviewed said, "The phone is too stuffy and not interesting." So, in the eyes of this child, what is fun? She answered, photography, animation, stop motion animation. The teenage boy has his own photo album and he makes 12 seconds of stop motion animation himself. For him, it's a lot more interesting than a cell phone. So how did his mom do it? From his initial hobby to now, his pocket money has been used to buy comic books and photography books. And his child, wanting to take an ideal photo, in the middle of the summer night, the mother and the child went up to the top of the building together, lit him with a flashlight for more than an hour, and were bitten by mosquitoes! The result of the mother's efforts is that the child uses photography instead of playing with mobile phones.
In a sense, addiction is a process of cultivating desires to satisfy.
Kids are addicted to mobile phones and know all kinds of apps, how to watch videos, how to play customs. Which site has more games? He's done a great job of it, and he's very skilled at it, and as soon as he picks up his phone, he looks like a general in control of everything in the game. As soon as the mobile phone is put down, he will become a small fart child with poor academic performance, no special skills, and reprimanded by his mother.
Although we often worry about children's mobile phone addiction, in fact, adults' mobile phone addiction is more intense. Adults play mobile phones far more often than children. If you don't want your kids to get addicted to cell phones, then you have to do it not get addicted to phones. At least don't keep brushing your phone next to your child to provide quality companionship for your child.
Under normal circumstances, when children under 6 years old play mobile phones, parents should put their mobile phones aside and accompany them more.
Over the age of 6, we want to cultivate their interests, let them get satisfaction in their hobbies, and naturally don't care too much about mobile phones.
There are two main points to accompany the child, one is to play with the child when he is bored, and the other is not to disturb him when he can have a lot of fun on his own.
Children over the age of six are more independent and autonomous, and they are reluctant to let their parents be with them in everything. Parents should cultivate interests and give children the opportunity to experience different things. After that, don't interfere with the child, let the child find what he needs, is interested in, such as painting, basketball and other interest classes, as long as the child takes the initiative to bring it up, you don't have to worry about him being addicted to the mobile phone, because he has a better feeling for other things.
When children draw, write and read, parents always like to point fingers at them. However, when playing mobile phones, parents are either busy with their own affairs or disdain the small games played by their children, which makes children play mobile phones more wholeheartedly. This is just the opposite, so parents will have better results in controlling their behavior than controlling their mobile phones.
I hope that the above content can bring help to parents, pay attention to Bo Dad, and accompany you on the road to parenting!