The point of debate for many people on this issue is actually whether it is worth it for a woman to be a full-time wife.
If this problem is put in the past, or in the feudal society of the earlier times, women who live up to their husbands and children at home are worthy of the name, and going out to work is not only a disgrace to men, but also may face more serious punishments in some places.
Fortunately, in recent years, the concept of equality between men and women has also begun to enter the hearts of the people, many people are constantly calling for equality between men and women, although we still have a long way to go from equality between men and women, but to be honest, it is indeed much better than in the past.
Was it a wrong decision to quit a bank at the age of thirty to become a housewife?
I will not answer this question aside, in fact, what is reflected behind this question is the collision of two values, of course, there are practical factors that play a role in it.
The concept of female independence should have first been transmitted to our country from the West. The emergence of the Industrial Revolution greatly strengthened the labor force, the division of the individual, and the increasing importance of man as one of the tools of productivity, and women rose in this context.
The earliest is to join the work, after the participation in the work has the financial resources, some women began to ask for more, such as equal pay for equal work, prohibition of discrimination against women, etc., which is the earliest brief background on the rise of women's self-awareness.
Many people feel that the main reason for this dilemma is that some people feel that once they are working, it is difficult to take good care of their children, which is irresponsible for their children; but once they give up their work and devote themselves to the family, they seem to have given up their own hearts, and it is difficult to balance financially.
This is a relatively true idea of many people.
Others think it's irresponsible to have their parents help take care of their children, and the same is true for nannies and the like.
This is the dilemma we face. Conversely, how do Westerners do it?
What do women who pursue the rise of female consciousness and independence face these problems?
From what I've learned, very few of them have devoted themselves to their families for their children, or even given up their jobs.
And the education of Westerners, in general, will be relatively more successful than ours. Another point is that once Western families start having babies, they will not have only one.
Going to work and taking care of a few babies, how do Western women do it?
Here it is necessary to talk about their experience.
First, they are not alone with their babies.
In the matter of taking a baby, Western parents will allocate time more balancedly, which greatly relieves the pressure of female mothers, and taking a baby has never been a matter for the mother alone, but a common thing for both parents, from this point of view, it can greatly alleviate the pressure of the mother.
Second, they are not so involuted.
The Western workplace rarely talks about internal volumes, it is time to rest, and it is time to spend time with your family, then you should take out a fixed time to spend with your family. This is determined by the company system and is a common fact in Western society, such as weekends and weekends.
Third, the way of education is different.
I have always believed that Western education can indeed "crush" us compared to our traditional education of offering children as ancestors, of course, this may be related to test-oriented education, which greatly stifles what children and parents can choose.
But in addition to the difference in school education, the education of parents is also crucial. Parents in Europe and the United States will cultivate their children's independent behavior habits when their children are very young, and rarely interfere with their children's choices, but help their children to make choices, which is very critical.
This also leads to children who rarely rely on their parents in life, but more on communication with their parents and rely on each other spiritually.
The above three points are something that many of our mothers cannot do.
However, I also do not suggest that you should quit your job and become a housewife wholeheartedly.
Tell a true story:
Once I went to a parent-teacher conference, the class teacher (a female teacher) at the parent-teacher meeting very emotionally told a story that happened to herself, this class teacher took the subway to work every day, took the subway to work, she had a daughter, in the fifth grade of primary school, often alone at home, every day the class teacher came home from work at more than nine o'clock, and had to check her daughter's homework to let her daughter sleep with peace of mind, every day her daughter's bedtime is ten o'clock at night, very hard.
Once, when she came home from work and saw her daughter fainting alone at home, she rushed her daughter to the hospital, and finally checked that it was a fainting caused by anemia.
Speaking of the touching place, the teacher cried in front of all our parents.
Without being in the education system, it's really hard to appreciate how competitive the kids are.
However, when I talk about this case, I do not mean that parents should accompany their children wholeheartedly and be a housewife, but I want to say that in front of the economy, everything is empty talk, there is no money, what to take for children to study?
If your family's financial means allow you to be a housewife, I don't really recommend you being a housewife. Sometimes work is busy, but as long as you take out the time to play with the phone to accompany the child, I believe that the child can feel the warmth from the parents, and will not have the tendency to autistic inferiority.
The point is that this matter should not be a matter for the mother alone, and the father, as a member of the family, should not just play the role of making money, but should also take practical actions to be a good father.
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Author: Rosir, Workplace Internal Reference for New Youth. Concerned with the logic behind the development of things, optimistic pessimists. Pay attention to me and grind the knowledge to show you.