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The opening year drama "The World of Man" has come to an end.
After chasing the drama for more than a month, suddenly there was no drama to chase, and I was a little uncomfortable.
After watching "The World of Man", I repeatedly thought about Zhou Bingyi's last letter to Zhou Rong and Bingkun, at that time he was already very weak, and his letter was dictated to Dongmei and then sent to Zhou Rong and Bingkun, which can be said to be his "last words".
"Xiao Rong, Bing Kun." Our father and mother are rare good husband and wife in the world, and the greatest happiness of their three children in this life is that they have found the other half of their lives. I would like to say to you that we should be grateful to Xiaoguang and Zheng Juan, the two people who joined our extended family and are ultimately connected to our flesh and blood. Loving couples is the most worth cherishing.
Bingkun once asked me, are you satisfied with your life? I said that few people are completely satisfied with their lives, and the greatest luck in my life is to meet your sister-in-law, if I am not there in the future, my sister-in-law's relatives will only be you, take care of her for me.
Elder brother like father, I would also like to give you both a little advice, that the people of our Zhou family can become all kinds of people in the future, but they must not become people without virtue. In the future, we in the Zhou family do not have to become the successful people that everyone thinks, but we must not become people who do not love our family and do not love the country. Live well, as we have experienced and fought for. ”
This large paragraph of Zhou Bingyi's words made me feel very deeply as a parent.
I am a mother of two children, my son is four and a half years old, I often fall into anxiety, a few days ago I and the child his father also sighed: "You said that our son is so naughty now, only know how to play all day, and do not know learning, will it become a waste of firewood in the future, you said that if he has not yet had us out, what can he do in the future?" ”
His father said that I was too worried, and said: "No matter what field the child is engaged in in the future, as long as it is what he likes, he will be very satisfied." Don't compare yourself with others, what is out of breath, what is not out of breath, live this life well, live well, be happy and happy, you are already very successful. Learning is a lifelong thing, your son is still so young, what are you in a hurry to do, don't be too rolled. Feel free to let him play, childhood is only once. ”
Now combined with Zhou Bingyi's "last words", in fact, this is the case, children can become all kinds of people in the future, but they must not become people without virtue, which is a fundamental part of being born as a human being. You don't have to be a successful person as everyone thinks, but you must not be a person who doesn't love your family and doesn't love the country. With these two big premises, coupled with living hard, children will not be bad.
The drama "In the World" tells the life story of the ups and downs experienced by more than a dozen civilian children such as Zhou Bingyi, Zhou Rong, Zhou Bingkun, the three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, in the past fifty years.
Let us feel the most precious emotions in the world such as family, love, friendship, etc., and it is a lesson for me as a parent: let me realize how to be a qualified parent, I may not have to worry too much about the future life of my children, children have their own creation, as parents, teach them to be a role model.
02
Zhou Bingkun, the most stupid child of the Zhou family
The three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, Zhou Bingkun is the most stupid child, between the three children, Zhou's mother values the eldest son Bingyi the most, and Zhou Zhigang loves her daughter Zhou Rong more in her heart, because she can please him the most. Zhou Bingkun has always been a tendon, in the eyes of his parents and brothers and sisters, he belongs to the simple-minded kind, which makes him very hurt his self-esteem.
Zhou Bingyi is indeed a high-caliber student in the philosophy department of Peking University, a mayor with a head and a face, and he also married the daughter of a high-ranking official.
Zhou Rong is also good: Peking University Chinese talented woman, but also the youngest professor.
But among these three children, Zhou Bingkun is the most filial one, although he has no big success, but he can stay in front of his parents to fulfill filial piety. Compared with his brother and sister, Bingkun is not good at studying, he was a worker in a timber factory at first, and later a worker in a soy sauce factory, but no matter what industry he is engaged in, he is conscientious and quite generous. Bingkun also made a group of friends who were similar to him, and they called themselves "six little gentlemen" and got together every year.
In the two years when her mother became a vegetative person due to cerebral thrombosis, it was Bingkun and Zheng Juan who took good care of her, especially Zheng Juan, who often massaged her mother-in-law, and her hands were calluses. After Bingkun was imprisoned, it was Bingkun's friends who often helped Zheng Juan. Zhou Rong Bingyi, they didn't know anything about what was happening at home. It was Zheng Juan who snatched her mother-in-law Li Suhua back from the hands of the God of Death, but if there was no Bingkun, Zheng Juan would not be so selfless.
Perhaps in the eyes of outsiders: Zhou Bingkun is the one with the three children who have the least appearance, learning is not as good as his brothers and sisters, his job is even worse, and his wife is still divorced with children. Supposedly, such a child is not terrible.
But what are the facts? Among the three children, Zhou Bingkun's success is no less than that of his older brothers and sisters.
Zhou Bingkun was working seriously from beginning to end, honestly being a person, and he lived out the wonderful life of a commoner. He was not his brother Zhou Bingyi, and he could not do the big things he did for the people. He is not his sister Zhou Rong, who can become a young professor. He has always been just a small common man, and the requirements he has asked of himself from childhood to adulthood are only to be a good person. He tried to do it, and he succeeded.
Zhou Bingkun's life is very exciting, he is worthy of his parents, he has an angelic wife like Zheng Juan, and he also has a good son Zhou Cong. Although he opened a small noodle restaurant with Zheng Juan in his fifties, such a life was quite successful. No matter what industry you are engaged in, as long as you are honest and honest, you will also have your own wonderful.
Zhou Bingkun, didn't you show up?
Zhou Bingkun's life, is it a failure?
Never! Mother Li Suhua is very sober: Bingkun is stronger than his brother and sister, he is at home, his heart is solid.
Your child may be very ordinary, but he is here to repay the favor, and maybe he will accompany you in the end.
So we don't complain about the child, the child is not smart, there is nothing to blame for not being able to read a book, as long as he is a down-to-earth person. No matter what kind of industry he is engaged in and what kind of person he becomes, as long as he is willing to do a good job, he is even a good one.
Including the other half he is looking for, we should not blindly wear colored glasses to see people, the key is to look at the person's character, good character is the most important. A good woman like Zheng Juan, who picks it up is a treasure, a good woman is a good family style of a family, and it will also affect three generations.
A principal said: "Ordinary children are here to repay their parents' kindness, they can often accompany their parents, today they can take their parents to eat beef balls, tomorrow they can take their parents to eat seafood, so that their parents can enjoy their old age in peace." And excellent children can not point out, in the future to the United States, Britain, Canada to study, meet can only rely on video, nothing can be counted on. ”
I want to understand, and no longer worry about my son's future, if he is willing to study in the future, he himself is also very smart, then how much ability he has I will provide, by him to work hard; but if he is a stupid child, reading can not make it strong, then let him live the life of ordinary people. As long as he is honest, virtuous, willing to be self-motivated, and can also be a partner with people like himself, then his life is also quite successful.
Descendants of the "Six Little Gentlemen"
Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan's children are Zhou Nan and Zhou Cong: Zhou Nan was excellent and went to Tsinghua University to study, and later studied abroad, but unfortunately died young; Zhou Cong was admitted to Shandong University, and he chose to stay with his parents to facilitate the care of his parents.
The children of The National Day did not study well, and after failing the college entrance examination, they went out of the south in resentment, but many years later he also mixed up his personal appearance, worked hard to take the on-the-job graduate school, and also bought a house in Shenzhen, married a wife and had children.
Debao and Chunyan's children, Niu Niu, did not study well, ran away during the rebellious period, and were later arranged to work at the crematorium, but he fell in love with this job.
Catching up with Yu Hong's children had excellent academic performance, and eventually they were admitted to HIT and became young professors.
The descendants of the "Six Little Gentlemen" have become all kinds of people, but they are all virtuous people, people who love their families and the country, even if not all children have the kind of success that others think, but being able to be honest and live seriously is also a kind of success in itself.
03
The finale of "The World of Man": Zhou Bingyi's "last words" taught all parents a lesson.
I think parents who have watched this drama should reflect on what kind of education they should give their children.
The current society is really too rolled, many children are very tired, I brushed a video on a certain tone yesterday, a mother for her three-year-old son to arrange a schedule: get up at 7:50 in the morning, go to bed at 10:00 at night, the itinerary is densely arranged. Then there are many mothers at the bottom of the video who express their admiration for her, saying that they have to roll like this and can't let their children lose at the starting line.
At first, I was also very worried, as I said at the beginning, but then my husband's sentence mentioned me: We have to learn for a lifetime, but how many childhoods can you have, and the time for a child to play so carefree is only four or five years, do you even deprive him of his childhood? Learning is not a matter of a year or two, but to maintain a lifetime, calculated with a lifetime. Even if you win at the starting line now, you will be able to catch up in a few years, and those things are relatively simple things.
When he said that, I was a little more lenient with my children.
In fact, it is not bad for one or two years, and there is also the fact that if the child is smart, it is a reading material, and those knowledge will naturally come to hand after it is large. If he is not a reader, you can't force him. Learning is important, and so is education, but it's definitely not the most important. We should not define the success of all people by the success of ordinary people.
No matter what profession a child will be in in the future, what kind of person he will become, as long as he is a virtuous person, a person with a sound personality, and he is willing to work hard and work well, then we as parents should not blame him for anything. Don't compare yourself with others, every child has their own path in life.
How to be an official, how to become a professor, or just an ordinary little citizen, as long as you can understand your own life, you will be very successful.
Look at the three sons and daughters of the Zhou family, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong, and Bingkunzhong, how successful Zhou Bingkun was in this life.
I even thought, even if my child is Zhou Bingkun, I am also very content, at least such a child understands filial piety is also the most painful parents, can take care of the family. As parents, we still don't worry too much, the best education for children comes from the words and deeds of parents, first see what kind of person they are, and then ask their children.
What kind of person do you want your children to be?
Zhou Bingyi's words I send to you, "The people of our Zhou family can become all kinds of people in the future, but they must not become people without virtue." In the future, we in the Zhou family do not have to become the successful people that everyone thinks, but we must not become people who do not love our family and do not love the country. Live well, as we have experienced and fought for."
Encourage and reflect on yourself.
Today's topic: As a parent, after watching "The World of Man", what is your biggest feeling? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.