Campus bullying, a thing that is not unfamiliar to everyone, will appear in our sight every three or five minutes.
Recently, a boy in Chengdu, Sichuan Province, was bullied many times in school, and his father hard-core educated the bullied boy: "The second time you hit you, you can forgive him, and the third time you will call me back." I sell a car or a house, I will pay you compensation! Dad taught you not to cause trouble, but don't be afraid of things. ”
The new semester has begun, and we always crave our children to thrive in a healthy school environment, but who can confidently say that this kind of thing will never fall on their own children?
People who stand and talk without waist pain will say, "School bullying, this is not simple!" Just hit it back. "But when they are really bullied, children are often the weaker party, who has the strength to fight back?"
Others will say, "Tell the teacher, let the school intervene!" But at this moment, the teacher will often advise you: "Everyone is a child, this kind of thing is also a slap on the wrist, surely your child also has something wrong, others will find him trouble." Everyone took a step back, and then looked up and did not look down, the relationship was too stiff to do children any good. ”
To deal with school bullying, parents really have nothing to do? In this regard, Xi Xi's mother suggested that everyone can do this-
(1) Do not compromise easily.
When a child is bullied, the teacher, as a mediator, often says:
"Gee, every child makes mistakes, and we have to give them a chance to grow on their own, right?" Everything is two-sided, and your child must have problems. Although bullied, but not a little responsibility? We can't put the blame on others. So parents you have to reflect first, of course, we as the school, as the class teacher will also criticize the child, I hope that parents can understand and cooperate. ”
Does that sound wrong? I'm sure everyone will think that there is nothing wrong with it at first glance. So many parents will compromise after listening to this set of words: "Well, let's work together!" ”
After this painless and itchy treatment is over, the child will be beaten again in two days. So, as a parent, you must remember that as long as your child is bullied, you must let your child's class teacher, the abuser's parents, and the whole class know one thing - not to bully my child. ”
(2) Stand up for the child.
So how to stand up for the child, is the most appropriate?
First of all, immediately notify the class teacher, let the teacher tell the other parents, and come to the school to meet immediately. If the other party thinks that this is a trivial matter and does not need to meet the parents of both sides, then you can tell each other like this: "This is called the phenomenon of school bullying, I will go to the Education Bureau to bring the government leaders over, I will report the case of school bullying, your children will be sentenced to a juvenile detention center, and now all parts are fighting this phenomenon." ”
In the problem of school bullying, parents must solve it in place at one time, and they must give their children a head. If the parent becomes a good husband for the first time, then not only will the other child think that your family is a good bully, but even the other parent will not rest assured that your child is being bullied, and will not teach his child not to bully others.
(3) Take out the momentum.
When the other parent comes, we must tell the other person: "We are prepared to deal with this matter in a legal way, because this is school bullying." I am ready to report the bullying of my children to the Education Bureau as a typical example of school bullying, notify the media and call the police. If you think it can be so understated, then I'll let the law tell you how harmful it is. ”
As soon as this statement comes out, whether it is a teacher or a parent, you will realize that you are not joking.
The school and the teacher will immediately reassure you: "Parents, how do you think we should solve this matter?" I would like to hear your opinion. After all, it is also people's children who bully our children, and we have to respect your ideas when we say anything. ”
And the parents of the bully will definitely say: "No need, as for?" You say what you want, and we'll do it. ”
(4) A sincere apology must be made in front of everyone.
When dealing with school bullying, many teachers called the children of both sides to the office and demanded an apology from both sides after some remarks.
Where can the child withstand the teacher's lobbying, even if he is not wrong, but whenever the teacher is slightly dialed, the child is also stupid and thinks that he is indeed wrong. There are two consequences of this: First, the bully is proud and proud, thinking that he not only did not suffer losses, but also got an apology from the other party. Second, the bullied person is more sad, and for a long time afterwards, he feels that he should not apologize, but he can't say what is wrong.
Therefore, when the child is bullied, as a parent, you must not only stand up for the child, but also ask the other party to apologize in front of everyone. First, this is to give the bully a serious warning to let him know that our children are not good bullies. Second, kill the chicken and make the monkey, so that other children do not beat their own children's ideas. Third, it can make the students form mutual supervision between each other, and once the bully appears again, the rest of the students will definitely tell the teacher or inform the parents at the first time.
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How effective do you think this is? Your views are welcome.