Children's childhood is indispensable toys, toys are not only to accompany children's "playmates", but also to further communicate between children to obtain friendship bridges.
For a favorite toy, the child will use various methods to get satisfaction from the parents, of course, when the little friends play together for a toy, one second they love each other, and the next second they start to "not wear the sky" to compete for the situation from time to time.
Grabbing toys is an experience that most children have, and they have seen whether the toy they want to play with is their own or not, or whether the other party allows it. Sometimes it is to protect their toys from being snatched by other children, and in some public places, public toys, robbery occurs.
When children grab toys, parents' approach is critical. Because playing with children already belongs to the social category, if the parents do not handle it properly, the child transmits inappropriate ideas, affecting his future social interaction.
Fang Fang's 2-and-a-half-year-old son is famous for robbing toys with children in the community, every time Fang Fang and the child talk well at home, go out with their own toys, if you want to play with children, you must ask people to agree not to compete. Every time the son Doudou promised to be good at home, but when he went to the small square to play with the children, he forgot his mother's words.
Other children's cars, Transformers, and even scooters, girls' dolls, he has robbed, each time do not give in to each other, Fang Fang is very distressed about this matter. There are also the phenomenon of grabbing toys among other children, but none of them are like Doudou who "repeatedly teach and do not change", and now many children will subconsciously protect their toys when they see Doudou go out.
Two days ago, Doudou snatched a model of a boy's plane, and the boy's grandmother saw it first, directly hit Doudou's hand, and pushed him away. Fang Fang hurriedly apologized to calm down, while Doudou cried. Fang Fang felt that it seemed that it was useless to tell him not to grab the toy, and she must find a suitable way to make the child realize that this is not right, and "treat both the symptoms and the root causes".
Once in a playground in Ningbo, two children played together, for a toy to compete, one of the children's mothers began to slap another 3-year-old girl, everyone could not stop. In the end, the girl's face was swollen, and the mother of the beaten girl rushed over after learning about it, and fought with the beating mother, and the scene was too chaotic.
In fact, it is not uncommon for parents to intervene in disputes because children grab toys, and some even go to the police station. The parent's way is inappropriate, the child looks in the eyes, the injured child leaves a shadow, and the child who hits the other party will imitate the parents' behavior and encounter problems to solve violently.
Is the toy "fragrant" to play, or is there another reason? It is most appropriate to find a suitable solution and teach the child to deal with things between children.
Why do kids grab toys?
Like the things want to take their own, this is the child's instinct, imitation is also the child's nature, see each other play a toy is very happy, they are also attracted. Young children do not have enough communication skills to express their ideas and do not have the ability to negotiate with others. They do not know how to maintain friendship, and do not consider the consciousness of others, and their starting point is mostly the self.
Young children can only meet their needs in a way that they can do, which shows that they see the toys they want to play directly in their hands, and the other party does not agree to start robbing.
Children grab toys, use 6 tricks to "cure"
1. Convey the concept of property rights
Let the child understand the concept of ownership of the item, understand who the item belongs to, and who has the right to decide. If you can't take your own items at will, you must ask the other party's permission.
From the beginning of daily life, you can tell which member of the family the items in the room belong to, and let the child know which items are exclusive to him. When the child says "my", make a positive response according to the situation, or correct it in time.
After knowing the ownership of things, children will gradually change from self-awareness to objective cognition, and will also establish a sense of ownership security.
2. Parents' sharing demonstration
Parents' words and deeds affect the baby, share their belongings with others when necessary, and provide assistance within the scope of their ability when others need them. You can also do swap games with your child, and if your child likes something from his parents, he can play with him while taking one of his toys to share interchangeably.
3. Guide sharing, according to the child's wishes
Teach your child to share, but it must be done according to his wishes. Children learn to share from self-awareness and need a process that should be properly guided. If the child is reluctant to share his belongings on certain occasions, he cannot be forced, otherwise he will be dissatisfied or resistant, and the sense of security of ownership of the items will become more reluctant to share.
Let the child understand that the ultimate ownership of the items shared with others is still their own, and they can borrow him a toy at home and return it in a few minutes.
4. Delayed gratification
The requirements made by the child can be directly met if they are reasonable and urgent, and if the conditions are not met in time, they should be told the reasons for not being satisfied. Parents keep their principles, can not compromise because of the child's crying, training delay gratification, let him be willing to wait.
Otherwise, you are used to seeing the items you like immediately, and it is easy to "grab" behavior.
5. Teach basic getting along etiquette
If you want to play with each other's toys, you must learn to negotiate, get the permission of the other party, and know how to say "thank you". If the other party does not agree, grab it yourself, tell him that this is the wrong behavior, apologize to the other party, and after understanding the basic etiquette of getting along with people, the children will solve the problem in their own way.
6. Convey the consciousness of empathetic thinking
Every child's own toy does not want to be robbed by others, it will be sad, unhappy, and hateful. Similarly, when they grab other people's toys, children will be unhappy, guide children to understand this truth, and pass on the awareness of empathy. Whenever he encounters anything, he learns to consider the feelings of others.
Pillow Parenting Message:
Grabbing toys is a common phenomenon among children, and adults are not sure when it will happen, let alone interfere in the middle. Teach children the necessary etiquette and sharing concepts to get along with people, let him understand how to play with his favorite toys in a reasonable way, and do not conflict with other children, and let children solve problems by themselves, which is also the basis for cultivating future communication skills.
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