After the child is bullied, the parents deal with it specifically

After the child is bullied, the specific treatment of parents

Previous We specifically analyzed several specific situations when children said they were bullied, and divided them into the following three categories:

1. Misunderstanding (accidental injury)

Accidental injury to the limb

Verbal errors

2. Being "left out" (excluded)

Children cannot participate in the topic

Children are excluded for a long time for some reason

3. Bullying

So today we will analyze together specific solutions to various situations

(After the analysis of each paragraph, there is a guide map, and there is a summary map at the end of the article, which is recommended to be collected)

Misunderstanding (accidental injury)

Verbal error (there are examples in the previous part, but more to say)

In fact, to put it bluntly, children sometimes have no heart. After all, the minds of young children are basically very simple, and they don't have to make a big fuss.

Limb injury (there are examples in the previous part, but more to say)

This is mainly because the child is naturally active, and there is a little friction in the play.

In these two cases, we can refer to the following points:

1. Check the child's injury and pay attention to the child's psychology.

In the case of determining that the child's physiology and psychology are not adversely affected, ask the child "Why do you feel bullied?" ”

If the injury or psychological impact is more serious, you should seek medical attention in time.

2. After your child has answered the reason, ask your child about the expected solution. Generally speaking, what children want is nothing more than an apology from their friends. If the child has an incorrect appeal, such as "I want to scold him/hit him too", guide him.

3. Respect the child's correct demands, give the child support, and do not interfere too much. You can take your child to find each other and let your child be brave enough to speak his mind. But the most basic apology is for the child to receive.

Afterwards, parents should popularize their children: "When playing, we must have a sense of self-protection and safety precautions" to avoid such incidents in the future.

Generally speaking, the contradictions caused by misunderstandings are not "bullying", but the child is in a sensitive period, and if he cannot defend his rights, it will have a very bad impact on the child's growth.

So the most important thing for us is to understand the child's inner thoughts through the event and give support to let the child know that he is not alone.

At the same time, children can be popularized with the awareness of self-protection and safety precautions.

Specific treatment of the child's accidental injury

Being "left out" (being sidelined)

Children cannot participate in the topic

Example: Doudou has been sullen lately, and when his mother asks him what's wrong, he says the kids don't want to talk to him. Mom asked for the specific reason, and found that the children had recently read a new picture book, but Doudou did not like to read and did not want to read. When the children discussed the contents of the picture book, Doudou could not interject, and he interrupted everyone many times, trying to let everyone discuss the topics they were interested in, but no one paid attention. This happened several times, and everyone felt that they couldn't talk to Doudou, so they didn't talk to him.

Children who have been unable to participate in everyone's topic feel isolated by their friends because they are at a self-centered age.

At this time, we can refer to the following methods:

1. Ask your child about topics that other children are interested in, and see if your child is willing to understand what other children are discussing.

2. Tell your child that everyone has something they like, even if they are not interested, they should not interrupt other people's topics.

3. Encourage children to learn to accept other people's hobbies and join the children's chat. Or share your hobbies with everyone at the right time and start a new topic.

Children cannot participate in the specific way the topic is handled

The child is excluded for a long time for some reason

Sometimes the specific problem does not appear in the child, we divide it into the following situations:

1. Parents: Sometimes what parents do will affect their children (e.g., outspoken, extremely irritable, etc.).

Parents should correct their wrong habits from themselves and set a good example for their children. At the same time, if parents help their children push their mistakes to others without asking for specific reasons every time their children claim to be bullied, the children will become fond of shirking responsibility. Who wants to get along with someone who loves to shirk their responsibilities?

2. The child itself: The child himself and the child is left out, generally some small problems (such as poor learning, lack of hygiene, love to brag, etc.).

We should not only focus on the superficial phenomenon of exclusion, but need to help children solve the problems behind them. Solving the problem, exclusion will naturally disappear.

3. Teacher: This usually does not happen, but it is not excluded that sometimes the teacher's unintentional sentence affects the children's opinion (e.g., if the teacher says "If he is so naughty again/does not write homework/talks in class, everyone should not play with him!"). ", the other children will really gradually alienate this child).

It is also necessary to communicate with the teacher in time, understand the child's usual situation at school, and do a good job of home-school co-education. Reasonable suggestions or opinions can be provided, and the school and teachers will accept them as appropriate.

Specific treatment of children being excluded

Bullying

When the child is bullied, parents should find out in time, intervene quickly, protect the child's physical and mental health, and consider taking the legal route if necessary.

Skills for judging bullying: Bullying is generally only aimed at one person, long-term no reason to scold (blackmail), others know that it is not right but dare to be angry.

After determining that the child has been bullied in school, we ask the child what he thinks.

If your child wants to solve it on their own:

1. First calm your child's emotions.

2. Let the child understand that the behavior of bullying is wrong, and protect his legitimate rights.

3. Make your attitude clear to the abuser: Your behavior is wrong, please stop immediately and apologize.

4. Reflect the situation to the teacher and ask for help.

If your child is reluctant to solve it on their own:

1. First calm your child's emotions.

2. Report the situation to teachers and schools and ask for help.

3. Communicate with the abuser's parents and ask for a cessation of behavior and an apology.

Don't simply tell the child to "fight back", this is a disguised admission that violence is the way to solve things, which is extremely detrimental to the child's growth. It is necessary to establish a correct three views for children, so that children know that "countering violence with violence" is not advisable.

How children are treated for being bullied

When a child proposes to be bullied, as a parent, you must rationally distinguish between right and wrong and solve the problem reasonably. It is more important to teach children the skills of communication with their peers and the ability to resolve conflicts, so as to help children stay away from violence and grow up healthily.

A summary of the list is attached

A glance at how your child is being bullied

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