The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often the most difficult and important thing in the whole family, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can have a harmonious and harmonious way of getting along, the whole family will become happy and harmonious.
On the contrary, when the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law cannot find the right way to get along, not only the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law in their daily lives, squeezing each other everywhere, but also making the whole family full of depressed feelings, everyone's behavior will be seriously affected, and the family environment will become unhappy.
And the harmonious relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is not achieved overnight, which requires a long process, not urgent need for the efforts and efforts of both sides, and sometimes need outside help and regulation, the most important of which is that as a son, and as a husband, this man must actively play his own regulatory role, because you are the most important man for both of them.
Indifferent mother-in-law
Xu Qing and Song Ren have been married for more than a year, in today's era of advocating free love, Xu Qing and Song Ren met on the Internet, and after getting along for a long time, they have feelings for each other, and the two people have agreed to each other for life.
But Xu Qing's education is not very high, so at the beginning when Song Ren introduced Xu Qing's situation to her mother, she herself was not very happy, but now the child you can't manage so much, Song Ren really likes Xu Qing, so Song Ren's mother reluctantly agreed, but in her heart she still felt that her son should be a better girl.
After getting married, the two people bought their own house in the small county, and the two people also moved out of the family to form a new family, although Song Ren's mother was not very satisfied with the daughter-in-law, but the two people really loved each other, and life after marriage has been very happy.
The only drawback is that the mother-in-law is not very willing to see this daughter-in-law, when the mother-in-law is idle, she will always come to her son's house, and then she will say to her daughter-in-law: "I come to make a delicious meal for my son, what you do may not meet his appetite, after all, I made the meals, he has eaten for many years, you can also learn next to it." ”
Although the mother-in-law does not want to see Xu Qing, but also not to hate, as an elder, while considering the happiness of her son's marriage, she herself will not be able to find trouble, that is, her sexual ability is not so fond of this daughter-in-law, usually treat her with some indifference.
As a daughter-in-law, Xu Qing can actually feel a little bit of her mother-in-law's indifference to herself in her daily life, but she herself is also happy to be idle, anyway, she does not live with her mother-in-law, usually do not meet, and others say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy, this is more convenient, there is no need to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are forced to live together
However, this kind of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship cannot be maintained for a lifetime, because the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law have a relationship with their relatives from the moment of marriage, and it is impossible for two people to live and die without contact, and there is always a time to meet and get along.
Soon this time came, Song Ren and Xu Qing have been married for more than a year, on this day, Xu Qing feels a little uncomfortable in her stomach, always has a disgusting reaction, and her menstruation this month has been postponed for several days, and she herself wonders if she is pregnant.
In the evening, Xu Qing told Song Ren about this matter, and Song Ren was very happy and said, "It must be pregnant, let's go to the hospital to see it." The results came out quickly, and sure enough, Xu Qing was pregnant, and many days, Xu Qing soon took maternity leave, originally Song Ren also wanted to take leave, but the time was too long, the company did not allow it, forced, Song Ren invited his mother to take care of Xu Qing.
In fact, at the beginning, Xu Qing was still very worried, because she knew that her mother-in-law did not like herself too much, afraid that not only would she not take good care of her, but would make her angry, and it would be no problem to make her angry, and she was afraid of not being good to the child.
But the mother-in-law's behavior made Xu Qing think more, when the mother-in-law came, not only with her own clothes, but also with many native eggs from her hometown, saying that these are all raised by the family themselves, much better than what they bought in the supermarket, and eating more of this is good for the body.
The mother-in-law's actions made Xu Qing's view of the mother-in-law undergo a huge change, and she herself began to reflect that the previous mother-in-law was indeed very indifferent to herself, but it may not be that she did not like herself, but the old man was old, did not know how to express it, and did not know how to suddenly get along with a girl as old as her daughter.
During the time when Xu Qing was pregnant, it was the most comfortable time for Xu Qing, no need to cook, no need to clean the housework, his idle work was to watch TV, and then he walked around in the living room, every day his mother-in-law would ask him what he wanted to eat, and his husband would buy himself the fruit he liked to eat every day when he left work.
Shattered illusions
Under the double protection of her husband and mother-in-law, Xu Qing soon arrived at the day of childbirth, and finally lived up to the efforts of the whole family and gave birth to a big fat boy, and the whole family was happy and broken, and circled around this little life.
After the child was born, it was time for Xu Qing to confinement, and the mother-in-law took the initiative to take this job, that is, to take care of Xu Qing and also to take care of the child.
At the beginning, Xu Qing was still very touched, and she had to regard her mother-in-law as her own mother, but then what her mother-in-law did made Xu Qing recognize her mother-in-law's face.
After returning home, most of the mother-in-law's thoughts were on the little grandson,No matter how Xu Qing was, Xu Qing still understood at first, because grandma should look at her grandson more, but with the development of time, Xu Qing gradually felt that something was wrong.
In the past, she would wash the fruit for herself, and the mother-in-law who cut the fruit and brought it over changed, she no longer asked Xu Qing what she wanted to eat, nor would she take the initiative to cook for Xu Qing, that is, looking at her grandson, it is estimated that she herself hates that she has no milk to feed her grandson, and every time her grandson is hungry, she can only give it to Xu Qing.
One day, Xu Qing wanted to eat strawberries, so he said to his mother-in-law, who was holding her grandson and was about to go downstairs to walk, "Mom, let me go to the supermarket below to buy some strawberries, I want to eat." ”
At this time, the mother-in-law who was laughing and giggling at her grandson immediately changed her expression: "What strawberries to eat, so expensive, is it not good to save more money to buy a few packs of diapers for your son?" ”
Xu Qing, who was reprimanded by her mother-in-law, was naturally very aggrieved in her heart, but what her mother-in-law said also had some truth, and she was not easy to refute, so she could only remain silent.
After that, the mother-in-law became more and more excessive, not only did not allow Xu Qing to spend money, sometimes he played with his grandson, let Xu Qing, who was in confinement, go to cook, and if he did not do it, he would be reprimanded, and said to Xu Qing: "When I gave birth to a child before, the next day after birth I was born, I could get out of bed to cook, and after a week I could do farm work, how can the little girl now be so arrogant." ”
Through pregnancy to the birth of a child, in the confinement, Xu Qing is completely experienced the whole process of the mother-in-law from intimate to vicious, she herself is also finally able to see the face of the mother-in-law, everything before is just her own fantasy, the original mother-in-law has always disliked herself, she always cares about the child in her daughter-in-law's belly.
As the mother of the daughter-in-law's husband, after the marriage of two young people, the mother-in-law should treat the daughter-in-law as her own daughter, but some people not only fail to take the most basic care of their daughter-in-law, but even try to make it difficult for their daughter-in-law.
Deliberately making things difficult for their daughter-in-law will not only have a slight benefit to the whole extended family, but will even cause contradictions between husband and wife, contradictions in the family, and even break the whole family in order to satisfy the mother-in-law's own little selfishness or desire for control.
Mother-in-law relationship has always been considered the most difficult problem in the family to solve, in fact, this is also to see people, mother-in-law as the elder of the family, should take the initiative to take care of the responsibility of daughter-in-law, now people are grateful, mother-in-law to daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law can naturally feel, wait until the mother-in-law is old, daughter-in-law will double the good for you.
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How will you improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?