"The son does not teach, the father and the son live", it is a natural thing for parents to educate their children, and no one questions it and no one stops it. However, at a time when education is becoming more and more inward-looking, children's "education" of parents is like bamboo shoots after a rain, and stubble after stubble breaks out of the ground.
Now it is the moment when primary and secondary school students across the country are busy returning to school, a mother in Hunan Province, but received a gift package from her son who is reading junior high school: a total of 10 "successful parents to learn" books, the meaning is very clear: Mom, you should also learn how to be a successful parent!
When he read the titles of books one after another, he was instantly petrified in situ: without exception, how to be a successful parent. What is even more heartbreaking is that when the son gave these books, he did not forget to earnestly teach "study well, every day upwards", a posture of "looking forward to the mother becoming a phoenix", just like "looking forward to the son into a dragon", I am afraid that there is nothing worse.
In the "chicken baby" era, parents were anti-chicken
According to the child's father, the mother usually in addition to work, is a variety of chicken dolls, this is not, the child is hard to look forward to the winter vacation, by the mother arranged to be airtight. And when the child is studying, the mother is still sitting next to her and brushing her mobile phone while working as a supervisor.
The child sees all this in his eyes and keeps it in mind, and it is difficult to understand the mother's "double standard" operation. In order to express his dissatisfaction, his head was moved, remembering the "successful parent learning" he had seen at his classmate's home, so he asked his classmate to take a photo and send it over, he searched on the Internet according to the gourd painting, and took out his own pressure money to buy it back to his mother.
Originally, the mother of various chicken babies was provoked, and it was a bit embarrassing and passive to ride the tiger. I have to admire the great wisdom of my son who is in junior high school, and let my mother experience the taste of "what you don't want, don't do to others".
Some time ago, a message spread on the Internet that in order to become a "rich second generation" in order to become a "rich second generation", a boy born in 199 wrote a letter to his father every month, encouraging him to work hard, be motivated, be promoted, and make money.
The family letter is mainly divided into three parts: the first part is mainly a greeting and greeting type of booing and greeting; the second part expresses the phenomenon he sees, bluntly stating that he has observed that his father has recently been lying flat; the third part is to affirm his father's efforts and say that if he works harder, tomorrow will be better...
Parents who use all their strength to "play chicken blood" for their children are deeply surprised to see such information, right? When parents are still immersed in desperately urging their children to study hard, compete for the first place in the exam, win awards in the Olympic and English Olympics, and get various certificates, the babies in the new era have quietly awakened: you want us to become a bully, we only want to become the second generation of bully. Instead of being forced by you to learn, it is better to pull you to learn together.
In fact, the boy who wrote the family letter to inspire his father was very good and hardworking, although he had not yet graduated from college and went to society, he served as the president of the student union at the school, and his academic performance did not fall, but he moved towards his goal steadily. His father was not a generalist, but a company executive.
I have to admire this generation of children for having thoughts, opinions, and appeal. On the way to being swept up alone, donate with your parents. Those parents who don't think about things are always on the road to seeing Jackie Chan and Looking forward to Female Chengfeng, only know all kinds of urging, but they don't care about themselves.
The "parents of others" behind "other people's children"
When parents only have "other people's children" in their eyes, have they ever thought about what "other people's parents" look like in the eyes of their children? We all know that behind every successful child is the result of the parents' hard work.
Once there was a mother who was very chicken, after successfully sending her child to Beijing No. 4 Middle School, the once proud cognition was crushed in an instant, not only felt that her baby was as ordinary as a grain of dust in the air, but also the middle-aged self inexplicably inferior.
Because of the pattern of chicken babies, compared with other people's parents, there is simply a world of difference: people can let the babies put down their studies to ride the scenic spots and monuments around the country, and they can only let the babies run around in major training centers; people can spend huge sums of money to send the babies to antarctic scientific expeditions, and they can save money and take some money out of their mouths to travel around the babies; people can let the academicians of the Chinese Academy of Sciences take the babies to engage in patented inventions, and they have no resources.
That's nothing compared to what happened next. What's even more tragic is that she was attacked by her daughter's unscrupulous attack:
If only it could be like XXX's parents, people are worth hundreds of millions of dollars, and they can lie flat without the struggle of children;
If you can be like XXX's parents, holding N suites within the third ring road, casually selling one set, you can send your children to the United Kingdom to attend high school, and then sell a set to go to the United States to study undergraduate to graduate;
No matter how bad it is, you can also become the parents of XXX, XXX street is their own shop, do not have to work every month, just collect rent.
The daughter even said to her mother: Far from saying, just say what is in front of me, I strive to advance to the top 30 of the grade in the final exam, then you strive to mention a dry, this is always fair, right?
When people reach middle age, many parents originally put their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and after some operation, they easily reaped the right results. But no one thought that the feeling of being excavated was so unforgettable. It turns out that not only parents have expectations for their children, hate iron is not steel, in fact, every child, also has expectations for parents.
When children see their classmates living in villas, building Western-style buildings, driving luxury cars, and traveling around the world, they will also look at the situation of their own homes, and they will also cast envious eyes on the parents of their classmates. They also want their parents to excel and shine.
In the end, parents finally understand that what they have in their hearts is "other people's children", and the children's eyes are full of "other people's parents". This is no wonder to the child, to blame can only blame themselves for the negative energy they teach the child.
The best family education is to grow up with children
The real motivation of the chicken baby is to be full of fear due to anxiety and uncertainty about the future, which is originally negative energy and should not be spread and learned. However, today's education is becoming more and more involved by the parents of chicken babies.
This is a vicious circle, deeply involved in the inner volume of education parents to raise the strength of the whole family, and even a little desperate to pour all the resources and energy into the children, the implementation of seedlings to promote the education of children.
The real family education requires parents to follow the child's growth law, follow the trend to guide the child to be interested in learning, and then use scientific and efficient methods to learn. Only when parents continue to grow, continue to learn, influence their children with their own practical actions, and inspire children to be positive, is the essence of education.
Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents need to grow up with their children, give them positive and positive demonstration guidance, illuminate children with their own "light", and ignite their own growth energy with inner fire.