In the past, most parents expected their children to be quiet, smart, obedient, pragmatic, and hardworking. However, with the development trend and changes of the times, the requirements for human resource management are increasing.
If a person only has excellent results, but is quiet, shy, unable to express himself, and easy to lose confidence, then it is difficult for him to innovate. So now many parents expect their children to be energetic, optimistic and selfless, and gentle and considerate when getting along with others.
But there are also parents who want to know why they are extroverted and children are introverted and timid. In fact, in many cases, the temperament of the child is closely related to the parent's way of education.
What kind of personal behavior of parents will make children lack self-confidence
First, children often get hints of some negative information.
Most of the creation of children's personal values comes from outside comments, especially parents. Data and information suggest that external language expressions and individual behaviour are likely to cause long-term harm to trends in children's psychological states. When moms and dads often blame and blame their children, the children will feel useless.
There are also some parents who never want to encourage and praise their children, and even pass on their negative emotions to their children. They often use their children as doormats to vent their negative emotions.
For too long, children have been unable to create a distinct sense of self-worth and self-confidence due to the lack of positive external comments, leading to great shame.
Mom and Dad always arranged everything for the kids.
Many Chinese-style educations will encounter this problem. Now some parents' parenting education programs will find that some parents prefer their children to rely on their own experiences and expect their children to rely on themselves for everything.
It is actually a sick love, a selfish love. True love is not developed for babies, but only to help them develop into people with the ability to live and work independently.
Uncover a child's scars.
Rebuke, educate, punish and insult children in public places. Exposing the child's flaws, discussing his embarrassment, repeating itself. Many adults take pride in praising their children in front of others.
However, due to the humility of traditional Chinese culture, they often have to say the flaws of their children. Even if the other party praises your child, parents will expose some of the child's flaws. In fact, this is very detrimental to shaping children's self-esteem and self-confidence.
How should parents help their children build self-confidence?
Give affirmation and encouragement
Children's cognitive ability to identify themselves generally comes from important people around them, especially at home. If moms and dads can always find their own good level and are often aware of their child's development, they need to give immediate affirmation and encouragement.
Will give him positive self-suggestion and make them feel like they can do this daily task well. In addition, everyone's encouragement will make the child feel this way.
Always educate the child, show no doubt about the child's personal behavior, and treat the child with a positive attitude. In the future, children will also look positively at all the problems they encounter, and have strong self-confidence anytime and anywhere.
Learn to relax the control of your child and let your child train more
According to the understanding of the expression, the child can generally get some reminders of psychological states, and then improve their ability to execute. In most cases, they are most likely not good at some aspect, and they have never been able to successfully accomplish something.
But throughout the process, he can learn a lot. In particular, the improvement of execution ability and the improvement of self-identity are mainly manifested alone. It's important to encourage your child's self-confidence!
It is best to discipline the child in a scientific and effective way. Parents are recommended to read this set of books "Harvard Family Training".
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