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I have seen such a question: Why are there fewer and fewer good boys in the blind date market?
There is a high praise answer under this question, and there is a sentence that I agree with very much, he said: "The blind date market has a hierarchy, and the blind date introducer has a hierarchy." Blind date market, it is difficult to pick up leaks."
Deeply.
In depth, the core essence of this answer is very simple.
If it is a man with an annual salary of tens of millions, highly educated, gentlemanly, elegant, and normal, what is his circle? What kind of women will he contact when he is on a blind date, and what kind of person will be the person who introduces women to him?
I think the answer is obvious, naturally a woman who is on par with him, or slightly inferior, but not comparable.
If the introducer of this type of person is introduced to some women who do not even have a job, can neither get off the kitchen, nor get on the countertop, then there is reason to suspect that the introducer is either unreliable or looks down on him.
So, the answer to this question varies from person to person.
When you question why there are fewer and fewer excellent men in the blind date market, the reason may be different from what you think, not that there are really fewer excellent men, but that you need to look back to see if you are good enough or understand whether your blind date introducer is unreliable and whether it is bad for you.
Of course, in addition to this reason may not be the same as you think, there is another reason, which may also be a little different from what you think.
01 There are more and more quality women
Cousin Daqiang is 32 years old, he has been on blind dates no less than ten times, although he still has not found a girlfriend, but he has gained six or seven female friends through blind dates, and this unexpected gain has surprised him.
When he became friends with these blind dates and formed a circle, from time to time to come out to drink coffee, dinner and chat, he suddenly realized that the reason why they could become friends was because their conditions, three views, etc. were almost the same, and they could be integrated together.
Especially when women raise the question of why they think that there are fewer and fewer quality men in the blind date market, they are surprised to find that it is not that there are fewer and fewer quality men, but more and more quality women.
Take these women who have been in love with Da qiang to see how likely it is that high-quality women will appear.
Among these women, some are business executives, although they are 35 years old, but the economic conditions are better than the average man, and the temperament in all aspects is not bad, although it is no longer young, but the charm of a mature woman is vividly reflected in her.
Someone is the host, whether it is popularity or elegance, it is not comparable to ordinary people.
There are also people who are freelancers and have the ability, and other conditions are not bad.
There are also people who work in general, but they are better than having a good family environment.
No matter what they do, whether they have a family background or not, women nowadays seem to have something that they can get their hands on, so that they can be called "high-quality".
The reason for this situation is also very simple, women are becoming more and more demanding of themselves, and they understand that if they want to gain a foothold in this society, if they want to have the right to speak, they must be good enough.
They know that what kind of man they want, they must give themselves the ability to choose independently, rather than waiting for men to pick themselves, so that they are passive.
The strength, independence and rise of women have made more and more quality women, in contrast, it seems that there are fewer and fewer quality men, in fact, there are not necessarily fewer quality men.
Men should also be vigilant in the face of this change in women. There is a saying that not making progress is a step backwards. When women are getting stronger, if men stop moving, it is not impossible that there are really fewer and fewer quality men.
02 Everyone's judgment criteria for "quality" are not the same
What is "premium"? Is it good to work, high ability, and make money more than good quality? If the family conditions are good, can you live this life well even if you don't work? The appearance is very high, comparable to the star is high quality?
For everyone, the standard of "quality" is actually different, varied.
Some women think that even if the man in front of him is average in work and ability, as long as he is kind, he is a quality man.
There are also women who believe that a man's annual salary must reach a certain level before it can be called high-quality.
More women believe that sincere, self-motivated, responsible, able to take care of the family is a quality man.
You see, everyone's perception and standards of quality men are different. The concept of quality is more like a figurative requirement, so the problem that there are fewer and fewer quality men is not true.
Of course, if you say that most people think it is excellent, then the man is excellent, and it doesn't matter.
But don't forget that when we are looking for the other half, whether it is through blind dates or other means, in essence, we are not looking for any quality man, but looking for a man who is suitable for you, who can marry you, who has a love for you, and who is willing to spend his life loving and loving you.
When you sincerely fall in love with the man in front of you, even if he is not good enough at this moment, then through your joint efforts and common progress, you can become excellent each other.
If two people together can't make each other better than before, what's the point of being together?
No one is perfect, no one is perfect, no one is really high-quality, what I think of as high-quality, in fact, is willing to continue to develop in a good direction through hard work.
As long as the other person is positive, sunny, and hopeful about life, he's a potentially quality man. And are there fewer such men? In my opinion, there are not many.
Quality is not important, fit is the most important.
Since you have chosen a blind date, you want to find a suitable person to grow old. You must know that marriage needs to be managed, and it also requires two people to constantly run into each other.
Try not to choose the seemingly perfect blind date, too fake, allow each other to have shortcomings, flaws, as long as you are attracted to each other, on this run-in road, you will eventually become the best of each other, this is the magic of love, but also a necessary process for a happy marriage.
May everyone find the partner who suits them best.
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