The father is the mountain, and the mother is the sea.
It is undeniable that in family education, parents have their own advantages, even in the same family, facing the same child, there are many differences in the family education of two adults. In addition to the differences in parents' culture and cultivation, this should be more caused by gender differences.
A 15-year follow-up study by yale scientists showed that children raised by fathers had higher IQs, that they tended to do better in school, and that they were more likely to succeed in society in the future.
Men and women think differently. Fathers with children can bring more sense of security and responsibility to the baby, so that the baby experiences the problem from another perspective. So, where is the advantage of the father with the baby?
Fathers have 4 major advantages with babies
1. Expand your child's horizons
Liu Xinyue, a well-known psychologist in China, believes that in terms of education, most fathers have more knowledge and foresight than their mothers, and the knowledge of fathers is generally broader than that of mothers, and in history, geography, and philosophy, fathers are often good at mothers.
Mothers like to tell their children fairy tales, involving less history, land and philosophy, while fathers tell their children more historical stories, local folk customs, heroes and so on.
2. Children are more independent
When taking the baby in daily life, the mother and mother-in-law usually think from the perspective of a woman, give the child more consideration and care, such as adding a piece of clothing when the baby is cold, eating more when the baby is hungry, and changing the dirty clothes of the baby to be washed...
In short, what you think of is not expected, women are doing everything for their children.
Fathers pay attention to the independence of their children, generally encourage children to use their own brains to do things, do not do what they can already do for their children, or almost what they can complete, which is more conducive to cultivating children's independence.
3. The child's self-control and willpower are stronger
Studies in the United Kingdom have shown that children who often play with their fathers before the age of 3 grow up to have greater self-control.
Studies have found that in the process of accompanying children, fathers often emphasize fairness and responsibility more than mothers, emphasize abiding by the rules, and tell them the consequences of breaking the rules, which is conducive to cultivating the rules of children and improving their self-control.
In addition, fathers like to take their children to run, swim, climb, and play ball, which invisibly exercises the child's willpower.
4. Children are more adventurous and dare to explore
Mothers always want to protect their children from harm. They don't want their children to participate in dangerous activities, and they are always worried that their children will accidentally touch, fall, and get tired.
The father let the child participate in the repair of simple household appliances, let the child boldly learn to ride a bicycle, take them to climb the mountain, race...
In the process of accompanying the baby to play games, teach the child to face the problem and solve the problem according to his own ability, while giving the child a sense of security, teach the baby the spirit of self-reliance and courage to explore, so that the child is more brave to explore the unknown world.
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Practice has proved that children often rely on their mothers for small things in daily life, but they are more dependent on their fathers in critical periods and major issues. Mother-child conversations tend to be meticulous, while father-child conversations are philosophical.
For the sake of child growth, personal development, husband and wife relationship and family harmony, please play a key role as soon as possible - participate in the daily fun of bringing a baby.
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