Yale University research shows:
Children raised by dads will have higher IQs, more confident, and better, and will be more likely to succeed in society.
The world is secretly rewarding a kind of child – the one who is often accompanied by their father!
If you want your children to be better than others, fathers must become the guides of their children's growth.
Some fathers themselves are obscure, but have produced rare celebrities in the world.
Some fathers are famous on their own, but their children are doing nothing.
Let's start with a story:
Leonardo da Vinci is a famous Italian painter whose representative works such as the Mona Lisa and The Last Supper are loved.
He is very knowledgeable, not only good at painting, but also in physics, mathematics, astronomy, geology, sculpture, invention, architecture and other disciplines, are quite accomplished, is one of the few all-rounders in the world.
Leonardo da Vinci was able to achieve so much because of his father.
When Leonardo da Vinci was 6 years old, he went to school, he was always not serious in class, and liked to "toss and turn" himself.
In the classroom, the other students listened attentively to the teacher's lecture, but he himself drew there, and it turned out that he had painted a picture for the teacher, and the teacher was very angry and directly refused. And also "filed a complaint".
When he got home, Leonardo da Vinci thought that he might be trained.
The father not only did not get angry, but praised him for drawing well and decided to cultivate the child's talents well.
Under the "connivance" of his father, Leonardo da Vinci threw himself into his favorite paintings. It is precisely because his father is so enlightened that Leonardo da Vinci "shows his skills".
Once, Leonardo da Vinci drew a terrible "white bone spirit", which was simply a demon G.
And this painting, it took a whole month.
He wanted to scare his father.
One night, Leonardo da Vinci closed the doors and windows of his home, leaving only a crack in the door, and through the crack of the door, the light shone on a banshee with her eyes on fire and smoke in her nostrils, which was very frightening.
Later, when the father entered the door, he was frightened by the paintings on the wall, and as a result, da Vinci laughed and said that he had painted it himself, and the teased father did not blame his son. Praised his son's paintings as "lifelike".
When Leonardo da Vinci was 16 years old, his father introduced his son to Verrocchio in order to make da Vinci better use his talents.
Since then, under the guidance of his teacher Verrocchio, Leonardo da Vinci has studied hard and mastered many painting skills, and finally became a world-famous painter.
In the face of the child's "hanging er lang dang", the average father will definitely punish the child severely.
Leonardo da Vinci's father, not only did not criticize the child, but also gave the child the greatest freedom to fully develop his own interests.
True fatherly love is not to let the child "rules and regulations", but to learn to appreciate the child, know how to explore the child's potential, and let the child pursue his dreams.
Pietro was a respectable and good father.
How influential a father is in the growth of his child can be imagined.
The father correctly taught by example that his son learned the responsibility of a man
Having a baby, you can't "return the goods", everyone is the same.
It's not easy to be a parent, and it's even harder to be a good parent, because none of us have done pre-job training!
Before educating children, we as parents need to learn and learn how to be a qualified parent.
Especially Dad.
Dad is the class teacher who never retires, and Dad is a good example for his children to have a bright future.
The famous psychologist Gerdy said: "Fathers are a unique existence and have a special power to cultivate children. ”
Parents are a child's first teacher.
Parents' words and deeds will be reflected in their children.
As parents, we must set a positive example for our children.
Studies have shown that fathers mostly play the role of "responsibility bearers" in the family.
On weekdays, fathers should also be a "good example", often saying to their children: Son, let's work together! You're responsible for doing this, I'm responsible for doing that...
Let the child understand that we are a whole, doing housework is not only the mother's own business, what we can do, is the responsibility and responsibility.
If the father and the child usually have little contact, the family is the mother in the "hard work", the father does not play the role of "responsible", it is difficult for the child to develop "responsible", "responsible", "dare to act" and other personality and quality.
It is really important for fathers to cherish their families and mothers, to assume the role of "manhood" in the family, not to miss the growth of their children, and to let their sons learn to take responsibility.
Children who are often accompanied by their fathers will have stronger social skills
In the growth of children, mothers are generally responsible for the child's eating and drinking, and for external social interaction, it will be relatively less.
But the father is different, the general father has more contact with people in the society, and the social opportunities will naturally be more.
If the child is often with the father, the child will learn how to interact with people from the father's behavior, learn how to behave in the world, and their personality will be more cheerful and their social skills will be stronger.
A WHO survey showed:
Those who spend more than 2 hours a day with their dads have higher IQs and EQ than others. Social skills will also be stronger.
On weekdays, we should also tell our children more: "Talk to count, we promise others things, we must try to do, this is called words and faith, others will trust us and are willing to interact with us." ”
Teach children to be trustworthy!
When the father accompanies the child, he mainly coexists with the child in the form of games.
The famous "father role" theory states that the most basic role of a father in the growth of a child is a game playmate.
Therefore, the father is also the first "friend" in the child's life.
In the process of getting along with their fathers, children will encounter various problems, and they will also have conflicts with their "friends", and in the process of their continuous "quarrels", children will gradually learn the rules of various interpersonal interactions.
Boys will have stronger self-control in their fights with their fathers.
Researchers at Newcastle University in the United Kingdom followed 17,000 babies, an experiment that lasted 11 years.
The results of the study showed that children who often played with their fathers were smarter, more energetic and more sociable than children who had little father to accompany.
Such a companionship of the father can not only cultivate the son's social skills, but also make the son more popular.
Children who often have their father's attention will have better academic performance
American psychologists have found that:
A person's ability to achieve success depends 20% on acquired efforts and 80% depends on the father's teaching.
Until the child is 3 years old, most of them are taken care of by the mother or other women, taking care of the child's diet and living, and accompanying the child all the time.
After the child is 3 years old, the proportion of parental companionship will change dramatically.
The mother will gradually withdraw, while the father will intervene more.
Harvard university research also shows that:
The more attention a father pays to his child, the stronger his or her ability to do math and think.
Dad tutors homework, and your child's grades will be better!
I once watched a video of a mom yelling at her 3-year-old daughter.
It turns out that the child is counting, and the mother lets the child count mechanically.
The child faced several unfamiliar numbers, rote memorization, but the result was still unable to remember, anxious to cry wow.
Mothers think that their children are careless and criticize and accuse their children.
This is the cognitive bias caused by the thinking pattern.
And dads are better at helping children understand problems and solve problems through games.
Yale University in the United States conducted a 12-year survey of thousands of children
The results show that children raised by fathers tend to have stronger thinking ability and hands-on ability, and their academic performance is often better than that of children raised by their mothers.
When playing with dad, the child is unrestrained, stimulates the growth of neurons in his brain, and becomes smarter;
When dad tutors his children to learn, it is easier to grasp the essence of the problem and let the children learn to solve the problem fundamentally;
When accompanying children, fathers are better at starting from the perspective of thinking and making their thinking more active.
The more attention a father pays to his child, the more sensitive his thinking will be, and his academic performance will be better.
Write at the back:
Zhihu said: 100 principals are not as good as a good father.
Therefore, dads must encourage and guide their children more.
The biggest benefit is that
Dad can help Mom reduce the burden,
Mom will be in a good mood.
An emotionally stable mom,
It can make the whole family warm,
And give the child enough security and belonging,
It will benefit your child for life.
So, dads must remember,
Love your wife,
Not sweet talk on the lips,
Go home and help with the housework,
Take the initiative to accompany your children,
Leave some private space for mom.
Always remember one sentence:
Don't be afraid, there I am!
Finally, may every dad be a good dad,
May every child grow up with the common company of parents.