Director Zhang Yimou, is also a first-class father? Netizen: I think I chose the right wife

Text | Tao Ruosu

A few days ago, Zhang Yimou's wife Chen Ting sent good news on Weibo, and the second son was angry again!

The second eldest, Zhang Yiding, won the acceptance letters of 7 universities.

Among them, Yale University, and the other 2 institutions can also rank in the top 20.

In addition to the acceptance letter, a school in order to recognize his achievements, for him to open a scholarship of 20,000 US dollars a year, as well as the presidential award (how the presidential award came about, we will talk about it later).

As a mother, who can not be excited to see that her child's efforts can be recognized by the world's famous schools?

Coinciding with Zhang Yimou's 72nd birthday, the best gift to his father is better than the child's excellence.

But in the comments section, the bar is sour again.

He was suspected of donating money, changing his nationality, questioning his personal ability, and even personally attacking Chen Ting.

In short, your father is Zhang Yimou, so there is nothing remarkable.

Chen Ting, who was afraid of being manipulated by public opinion, had to quickly explain: Chinese nationality, no green card and passport.

I can understand that some netizens recognize the national teacher, so they don't want his children to have a clumsy style and consume fame and fortune that ordinary people can't reach.

What I don't understand is that even if the father is excellent, can he negate the child's efforts?

In fact, the better the parents, the more children need to redouble their efforts. Only if you are truly excellent can you get rid of the aura of your parents and have your own voice.

Especially in the entertainment industry, wealth, conditions, and resources are the starting line of these children, how to stand out in the competition, but the fight is family education.

The more prosperous the family, the more important the education, and both parents and children understand that only real strength can win the respect of others.

In terms of education, the Guoshi family is worth talking about.

01

Three children, each with its own strengths

Zhang Yimou and Chen Ting have three children, the eldest brother Zhang Yinan, the second brother Zhang Yiding, and the third sister Zhang Yijiao.

Zhang Yinan, born in 2001, is 21 years old this year, studied abroad very early, and now follows his father to study movies.

Since the age of 16, he has used his summer vacation to intern in the crew of his father's "Shadow".

In high school, he and his classmates made the micro-film "Over There", which won awards at the Asian International Youth Film Festival and the Shanghai Student Film Festival.

Many people will think, with his father, under the guidance of his hand, what is the difficulty of winning the award.

In a magazine interview, Zhang Yimou revealed that his son did not let him interfere too much, but was willing to take a detour to pay tuition.

Zhang Yinan's exposure is not much, in addition to learning from his father on the set of "Sniper", he has only made a luxury short film, but the response is still good.

As the eldest son, Zhang Yimou is full of confidence in him, and from Zhang Yinan's graduation photo, Guoshi has a proud face and believes that the future can be expected.

Zhang Yiding, born in 2004, just finished the ceremony this year, and in terms of appearance, he is most similar to his father.

The second high school attended an elite school in the United States, and now that he has received an acceptance letter from Yale University, he is also a proper student.

The President's Scholarship is actually a Yale Principal's Scholarship, which aims to reward children who have achieved success in various fields.

Some netizens questioned Yale University's efforts to curry favor with guoshi, after all, he himself is an honorary doctor of Yale University.

A blogger on Station B has explained that after parents graduate from this school, the chances of their children being admitted will increase.

There is a possibility of this admission advantage, but if the child does not have any achievements, will Yale smash its own signboard?

Whether Zhang Yiding is a school bully or not, time will answer.

Zhang Yimou changed his fate through the college entrance examination, and I believe that a person who benefits from knowledge will not play a role in the education of his children.

Just like the excellent family of the National Teacher will be contagious, the child will naturally not be too bad.

Zhang Yimou's youngest daughter, Zhang Yijiao, was born in 2006 and showed her talent for painting at the age of 12, and she also published picture books.

High society cultivates daughters, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting are the foundation, and Zhang Yijiao is no exception.

Chen Ting accompanied her to dance ballet and write poems, her daughter liked to skate, and her father invited the national team coach as soon as he made a shot.

The superior conditions did not make the daughter arrogant, at a young age, Zhang Yijiao would make steamed buns and buns, and her daily painting style was also thrifty, simple and grounded.

As a generation of famous directors, it is understandable that children are flaunting the market.

But Zhang Yimou's children are excellent but not ostentatious, which is related to the fact that the Guoshi cherishes feathers.

From another point of view, this kind of rigorous education will also make children focus on everything.

Without the blessing of traffic, the child's growth will be more undistracted.

02 In parenting, Chen Ting is worth learning

In 2014, Chen Ting posted her first Weibo post.

At that time, Zhang Yimou did not have long to disclose her family, and as the director's family, she fell into a public opinion storm.

But as a mother, she only wants to give her children a low-key, ordinary, quiet growth life.

8 years have passed, and I didn't expect Chen Ting to do it.

Her daily life is either sharing her husband's movies or interacting with her children.

Read with your child before going to bed, share parenting tips, and design Halloween games with your child.

Not a luxurious home, the children dressed simply with her and lived a simple and elegant life.

Even for birthdays, there are no parties and celebrities, the whole family sits around, blows candles and eats cakes, and it is warmer without filters.

She was never absent at an important moment in her child's life.

Zhang Yimou did not accompany her children much in the early days, but from the results, Chen Ting really contributed, and her efforts were not flattened by money.

Chen Ting once talked about the learning habits of the three children, the relationship between classmates, further education and the problems of adolescence... These problems that affect a child's life, only parents can win their children's trust.

Resources and wealth can be tilted, but in the face of love and companionship, parents in the world are treated equally.

Under the guidance of their mothers, the children not only have excellent grades, but also have independent, pragmatic and filial piety in personality.

Taking care of your sister, running with your mother, every time you are in the same frame, the whole family is happy and harmonious, which is probably happiness.

"Inferiority and Transcendence" once pointed out that the mother can only occur when she is truly interested in the child and is single-mindedly trying to win the child's emotions and protect his interests.

That is to say, only when the mother is truly satisfied with her mother's role will she and the child have a good attachment relationship.

Many people think that Chen Ting only has children, but it is precisely the children who only have their mothers.

Before adulthood, mom is an irreplaceable character. The companionship and love of the mother is the key to the healthy growth of the child.

All mothers can give their children unconditional love, but not all mothers can give their children all the time.

Chen Ting, other mothers, as long as people have independent will, they need to weigh where to put their self-worth.

Those who can regard mothers as a profession, take education as fun, and accompany their children to grow up in the gaze are not a blessing for children.

A harmonious family needs a wise mother, and the sharp Zhang Yimou has chosen the right one.

03 Zhang Yimou's father, what is the right thing to do in education

Zhang Yimou has only one father, but a father like Zhang Yimou is a portrayal of many families.

The more successful their careers are, the less time they have left for their families.

The eldest son recalls that when he was a child, his father would choose to accompany them as long as he had time, even if he wore a mask, he would take them to the theater, eat buds and watch movies.

On my daughter's birthday, my father would take time out to go home to celebrate her birthday even if he had every opportunity.

When he was at home, his father either cooked or read with his children and planned his mother's birthday with his daughter.

After the eldest son interned in the crew, Zhang Yimou gave him a gift, which was personally edited by the "One Male Crew Internship Documentary".

Between father and son, there are not many words, hugs and tears, and the parent-child relationship speaks for itself.

After his son won the award, Zhang Yimou, as a father and a senior director, gave encouragement for the first time, so that the child's efforts were seen.

Compared with the old drama bone humiliating his son on the stage, as a way of encouragement, as a father, he really needs to learn from the national teacher.

When filming "On the Cliff", Chen Ting took her children to the snow town to explore the class, and on the way back, she encountered a blizzard in Heilongjiang.

The public still learned through the news that the famous director Zhang Yimou and his family, escorted by traffic police, rushed to the train and ate instant noodles like other tourists.

In Zhang Yimou's bones, I believe he advocates the equality of all sentient beings.

In the face of extreme fame and fortune, not to use achievements to show superiority, this noble character is the most precious gift given by fathers to children.

Under his influence, the eldest son was down-to-earth, and he ate, lived and received the same salary with the staff during the internship in the crew.

At present, Zhang Yinan's Weibo fans are only 703 people, which shows that he is not nostalgic for fame and fortune.

I don't think Zhang Yimou has instilled too much fame and fortune into his children, or the pressure of a sense of accomplishment.

Children can breathe freely in a relaxed family atmosphere, not pretentious, not vain, not screwed, which is also a clear stream of famous family style.

From the perspective of companionship, Zhang Yimou did not give much.

But this is not another kind of father's template: in the pursuit of achievement, diligence and rigor. In important moments of life, it is rare to be absent. In the short companionship, family is supreme.

04 Good education is the cooperation of husband and wife

I don't think That Zhang Yimou and his wife are "fertility couples", at least when the family is in the same frame, the simple, sincere and happy smiles of the whole family show that his family concept is the same as art, and he has pursued something and has never slackened.

They are more like "cooperative couples", the father pursues artistic heights, and the mother is responsible for family reunion.

Psychology master Adler once said: When the common happiness of both husband and wife is higher than personal interests, true cooperation begins.

And this premise occurs:

There is no authority in the family, only a division of labor.

This means that the husband must truly recognize the value of his wife, and the wife can enjoy it in family education.

The wife does not see herself as a weak person, she and the child can develop a healthy emotional connection, the child in the early experience of trust, step by step to social life.

Equality, love, respect and appreciation are the key words of marriage management.

Children grow up in such tutoring, even if the future is not the dragon and phoenix among people, they can have a happy and happy life.

True role models come from the appeal of parents, when the child is no longer the inheritor of the parent's fame and fortune, the parent's achievement is the child's ladder to success.

Author:

Tao Ruosu, a SOHO mother who loves to read, is a psychological counselor. I firmly believe that "Dad is the pillar of the family, and Mom is the spiritual fortress of the family".