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1. Lift the veil of family grievances
Zhang Yimou and the famous actor Gong Li had been in love for many years when they were young, and their relationship was once called "dog blood love" by the outside world. Back then, in order to stay with his beloved Zhang Yimou to the end, Gong Li gave up the opportunity to study in a prestigious school, gave up everything to follow him to the grassroots level, and filmed the drama together in that difficult environment.
She supported Zhang Yimou's love for the film industry with her innocent love, and devoted all her efforts to this family. In order to fund Zhang Yimou's purchase of the first camera, Gong Li's sister even did not hesitate to reach out to her family to raise funds.
However, Zhang Yimou's mother, Zhang Xiaoyou, expressed strong dissatisfaction with her son's relationship with Gong Li at that time. As an experienced doctor, Zhang Xiaoyou, with his unique outlook on life, believes that Gong Li came from a humble background, and the status difference between him and his son is too great, and it is difficult to stay together until the end.
She secretly hoped that her son could reconcile with his wife Xiao Hua back then.
Fate was really unexpected, just when Gong Li was giving wholeheartedly, Zhang Yimou had an emotional entanglement with Xiao Hua, and finally betrayed Gong Li, who had always loved him deeply.
Seeing that his son was sorry for Xiao Hua, Zhang Xiaoyou was worried about this, and he respected Xiao Hua more and more in his heart. Xiao Hua was born in a famous family, in order to be able to accompany Zhang Yimou to the end, she ignored the opposition of her family, took the initiative to abandon her family and business, and was willing to live at the bottom for many years.
All her efforts show her deep love for Zhang Yimou.
After the divorce, Zhang Yimou, his mother Zhang Xiaoyou, always found disgust and dissatisfaction in her eyes when she looked at her son's new love Chung Ting. She hopes that her son can make up for his mistakes to Xiao Hua back then and return to her side.
Whenever Zhong Ting came to visit, Zhang Xiaoyou always threw her a few ridiculous questions, openly expressing that her status in her mother-in-law's mind was not as respected as she imagined.
Until today, many years later, Zhang Yimou still has a deep sense of guilt about the divorce. This guilt has continued into his relationship with his daughter Zhang Mo. When he found out that his daughter had suffered domestic violence, he immediately took her back to his side and patiently taught her to master the skills of filmmaking, hoping to make up for the lost family relationship with her in this way.
He tried hard to meet all his daughter's needs and poured all his love into her.
Second, Chen Ting's persistent pursuit of dreams blooms
Chen Ting, who has loved dancing since she was a child, dreams of becoming an excellent actor like Gong Li one day. She practiced tirelessly and was finally admitted to the Beijing Film Academy as she wished.
During her time at school, Chen Ting was fortunate to be commented on by director Zhang Yimou, who was already well-known at that time. Although she was not selected in the end, this experience made Chen Ting respect Zhang Yimou and strengthened her dream of becoming an actor.
By chance, one day, Chen Ting received a call from Zhang Yimou in person, and after hearing the content, she couldn't help but be dumbfounded-this director actually confessed his love to herself! For a while, Chen Ting felt a little suspicious and at a loss, after all, Zhang Yimou had already been a famous director.
But she did not retreat timidly because of Zhang Yimou's fame, but bravely accepted this marriage and officially entered the palace of love with Zhang Yimou.
From acquaintance to acquaintance, and then to love, Chen Ting used her warm and innocent emotions to melt Zhang Yimou's inner defense little by little. The two have been in love for many years, and their relationship is getting deeper and deeper.
Zhang Yimou treats Chen Ting meticulously, not only cares about the bits and pieces of her life, but also takes care of all the big and small affairs at work, holding her in the palm of his hand like a pearl in his hand.
Chen Ting's dependence and obsession with Zhang Yimou are also increasing day by day, and she is eager to enter the palace of marriage with this beloved man and be with him for life.
After more than a year of passionate love, Chen Ting decided to take Zhang Yimou back to her hometown to prove this marriage to her parents. However, Zhang Yimou's huge fame was so remarkable that in order to avoid causing him too much trouble, Chen Ting had to persuade her parents to move to Beijing so that they would not be disturbed when they met for the first time.
Wisdom and responsibility
When Chen Ting's parents saw Zhang Yimou for the first time, they were undoubtedly shocked in their hearts. After all, this man is more than a decade older than them, and the age gap between the two is jaw-dropping.
In order to win the understanding and support of her parents, Chen Ting can be said to have tried her best. She moved with affection, understood with reason, and tried her best to persuade.
After Chen Ting's efforts, her parents finally reluctantly agreed to this marriage, but also listed three strict conditions: first, Chen Ting and Zhang Yimou must officially register their marriage and enter the palace of marriage; Secondly, the relationship must be kept strictly confidential between family members and must not be leaked; In the end, all of Zhang Yimou's property must be equally divided between Chen Ting and the other members of their family.
The seemingly simple three conditions conceal the deep meaning of Chen Ting's mother. In this way, she wanted to set up many obstacles for Zhang Yimou, so as to force Chen Ting to break up with him.
But unexpectedly, Zhang Yimou agreed without hesitation, which made Chen Ting's parents have nothing to say and can only accept their fate.
The problem is far from being solved, Zhang Yimou's mother Zhang Xiaoyou can't agree with this marriage at all, and she has always been resolutely opposed to her son being with Chen Ting. In order to resolve the contradiction between the two sides, Chen Ting had to adopt a false plan - she lied that she was pregnant with Zhang Yimou.
Under pressure from his parents and mother-in-law, Zhang Yimou could only temporarily put aside his plan to get a marriage certificate.
Soon after, Chen Ting was really pregnant. Unable to hire a nanny at all, she turned to her mother to share the burden of caring for her children. In this way, in the next 11 years, Chen Ting gave birth to three sons and one daughter one after another, but she never waited for the promise of marriage.
She silently endured the criticism of the outside world and the cold eyes of relatives and friends, and devoted herself wholeheartedly to her family and children.
At the same time, Zhang Yimou was still focused on his film career during this time, and he had long distanced himself from the big and small affairs at home. All the housework and children's education arrangements fell on the shoulders of Chen Ting and her mother.
It can be said that it is with the wisdom and courage of Chen Ting and her mother that a warm family environment has been created for these children.
In these 11 long years, Chen Ting has shown outstanding perseverance and determination. She interprets the responsibility and responsibility of being a mother and wife with practical actions, even in the face of many difficulties and pressures, she has never been discouraged and has never given up, and still chooses to embrace life strongly.
After the unremitting coaxing of Chen Ting and her son, Zhang Yimou's mother Zhang Xiaoyou finally moved in to live with them. Since then, Chen Ting has devoted most of her energy to taking care of her mother-in-law's daily life.
Chen Ting cooks all three meals a day, and she carefully selects fresh ingredients according to her mother-in-law's tastes to cook delicious dishes. If the mother-in-law's relatives and friends come to the house as guests, Chen Ting will receive and take care of all their daily needs with the attitude of an excellent daughter-in-law, so that the mother-in-law can get the greatest glory in front of relatives and friends.
In this way, in the days of getting along with her grandchildren, Chen Ting gradually impressed Zhang Xiaoyou, who originally had prejudices against her, with her thoughtful, considerate, mature and wise side.
Seeing that her daughter-in-law was so filial and virtuous, Zhang Xiaoyou's heart finally opened up, and she began to face this family with a more open and positive attitude.
The responsibility of taking care of her mother-in-law falls on Chen Ting alone, while her parents share the work of taking care of the children and preparing three meals at home. Until the day Zhang Xiaoyou passed away, Chen Ting was always by her side, serving the old man who was about to turn ninety years old.
Before her mother-in-law died, she was extremely grateful to this daughter-in-law who was once hated by herself.
Looking back on the marriage between Chen Ting and Zhang Yimou, it seems that the road has been peaceful, but in fact, there has been an episode of quarrel. It is rumored that the root of this dispute is related to Zhang Yimou's ex-wife Xiao Hua.
As a fault for emotional derailment, Zhang Yimou treats his daughter Zhang Mo born to Xiao Hua with special care, and acts in accordance with his daughter's wishes almost everywhere.
Perhaps because of this, the family relationship that should have been harmonious broke down at that moment. But in the end, Chen Ting still used her broad mind, her understanding and tolerance to re-embrace this happiness that belongs to them.
When only the wife in a family is giving unilaterally, it is easy for a rift to occur. But Chen Ting and Zhang Yimou's marriage is different, and in the couple's mode of getting along, Zhang Yimou also gives enough respect to his wife's contributions.
He sincerely praised Chen Ting's wisdom and wisdom, and admired her for her independence in the family. This affirmation from her husband is the biggest motivation for Chen Ting along the way.